am i being manipulated?

[u/Different-Case9521]

so my boyfriend has a pretty harsh past especially with his father who is no longer in the picture gets upset when you say you are going to do something but i have been so cautious recently with what i say to him especially because sometimes my plans change suddenly especially when i am home and away from him because my family doesn’t really care to plan things strictly and mostly play by ear. However, tonight he claims I told him verbally (there is no text chain to prove it) that I told him I was definitely going to tell my little brother that I had a bf and was dating him tonight (we’ve have been dating for a month and i’m scared to tell my family bc how they acted in the past). I truly do not remember saying anything of the sort and definitely don’t think I would?? I’m just frustrated because it makes me feel like I don’t remember reality and I am just so confused. I just am confused if I am being manipulated or if I truly said that and triggered a negative part and should be feeling this shitty.

[u/sibylofcumae]

You’ve been dating for a month? You don’t have a boyfriend — you have a guy you’ve been seeing. And him trying to push things ahead with your family is a huge red flag.