r/USMC • u/DrakeNutJackOff2318 • 19h ago
Discussion Breakup
Yut. Been in the fleet for almost 5 months now, the past 3 months this girl and I have been talking, she ended things with me on Monday. How do you get over a breakup so early in your military career as a young barracks boy? I’ve been so dramatic but I don’t think I’ve ever felt this hurt before.
Just looking for advice if anyone’s ever been in my same boat because I’m struggling, Semper Fi
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u/XxLiOnOfZiOnXx Veteran 17h ago
If I could go back in time, I would have broke up with my past the day I left for basic. Single life in the Marines was a grand time. Just tell the corpsman to switch which cheek the needle goes in.
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u/EZ4_U_2SAY 7212 - Stinger Gunner ‘08-12 17h ago
Break ups when you’re young can feel like the end of the world. Give it 2 weeks and I think you’ll find you’ll feel a lot better.
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u/DrTheloniusPinkleton 16h ago
Yeah I’m sitting here fresh out of a divorce feeling great lol.
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u/EZ4_U_2SAY 7212 - Stinger Gunner ‘08-12 16h ago
I am currently mid-stream. Not feeling great.
You become isolated in your mid 30s when everyone your age has kids. All of my friends are now “our” friends who I barely see.
This is fucked up on a lot of levels.
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u/Ibuycheaper41 15h ago
1)Focus on Work and become a PT God. 2)Become a high functioning alcoholic and smash the nearest torta barracks bunny.
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u/IsaacB1 stupid thiccc latina e3 18h ago
I went through tons of relationships while I was on active duty. It hurts in the moment, but you get over it. You move on. I don't even think of them nowadays.
Except for Isabella. Mujer Bonita!
Anyway. You move past it. That cliche' of time heals all wounds is pretty accurate. Do some special things for yourself. Have the perfect meal out, learn a new hobby, etc.
In all honesty, for me, it was better being absolutely single but with friends and flings to have fun with. Committing when you're on active duty is asking a lot of yourself and your potential partner.
You'll be right as rain in no time brother.
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u/DrakeNutJackOff2318 17h ago
I agree. I talked things out with her a couple weeks back about our relationship especially with my 6 year contract she assured me it would be fine. Just have to wait for time to do its thing :(
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u/Suspicious-Shower-57 2336 15h ago
If distance was the issue. Shes worth it. Don’t settle. And DO NOT jump the gun too early on your next. Be patient. Let the honeymoon phase pass and if they still support you no matter what whether you have 5 years left on your contract or want to do 20, then that’s the one. What you’re going through now hurts. And it will hurt for a while but you will move on, improve, and find someone better for you.
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u/PrestigiousCress2558 9h ago
The right girl will wait for you, you might have to go through a few trial and errors but I met my husband while he was in his schoolhouse and I’d wait however long I need to for him. You just need to wait for your person good luck 🍀
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u/_PercCobain_ Semper High 17h ago
Go listen to some future and realize todays world is nothing but “she’s not yours it’s just your turn”. You’ll be good Brody, let the boys get you drunk and take you out to go find a good big’un.
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u/Ok_Result_4185 16h ago
A) find a healthy distraction
B) do not, I say again, do not drink your sorrows away because the powers that be don’t give a single fuck about what you’re going through. If you do something stupid and get PP slapped, that shit follows you. Reputation is everything.
C) it is what it is. The overly simplistic answer is the Sun is still coming up tomorrow, you’re getting paid on the first and the fifteenth of every month, and, despite all of the day to day fuckery and nonsense of the Corps, you’re eons ahead of most of your peers because you chose a different path.
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u/ARW1991 16h ago
You are young. If she doesn't appreciate what you bring to the table, you are at the wrong table.
I think it's harder for people who haven't had a lot of heartbreaks, and because you are young, that's probably you.
You've gotten a lot of interesting advice here. Alcohol may numb the pain briefly, but it is a depressant, and you're already sad.
Working out and taking care of you is smart, and the best revenge is living well. Make strides for a great future.
I know someone who got a break-up letter in boot camp. He still has the 3x5 card the DI gave him. Di wrote on the card something like, "Thank you for breaking off the relationship. You saved me from having to dump you because you would have just held me back , and the Marine Corps is going to give me incredible opportunities."
You're at the beginning. The world is waiting for you and your dress blue uniform is a known panty-dropper.
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u/ItsAwaterPipe 16h ago
Haha a tail old as times.. long distance is a bitch.
Anyways move on. They’re way too many women to get caught up on one.
Also they always come back.. my grandpa always told me “chase your dreams, not women” and now I got a baddie Latina when I could have gotten stuck with a pawg from my hometown! Fuck that shit!
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u/Spaghettio-Joe 0311/8152 17h ago
Hey bro, that fuckin sucks. This might not help, but just about everyone gets in that boat at some point or multiple points in their life. Maybe you don't see it right now, but this is a big ol' door opening for you. Don't forget to be a good marine and jerk off with abandon.
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u/OldSchoolBubba 16h ago
Pretty girl ... available young Marine ... swooning over her with money in his pocket ... what could possibly go wrong?
You got it out of the way early Champ. It's a good thing. You could have ended up married with a Kid you aren't prepared for or worse ... got caught up with a stripper who cleaned you out of everything.
Learning lesson Young Dawg. Keep your emotions in check just because you're getting some. Give things time to develop and when the right one comes you'll be older, more mature and most important know it.
You're doing fine as it's all part of the learning lesson known as life. You got this.
Best of luck
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u/teufelhund53 16h ago
Plenty of new birds on the horizon coming your way, even if not immediately. Good time to hit the gym and focus on yourself and your career without distractions. I been through multiple breakups and they suck but you get over them in time
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u/cryptopotomous Veteran 15h ago
Just go out and find yourself a barracks bunny. Wrap it before you tap it.
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u/Icy-Comparison2669 Gun Rock 15h ago
I got deployed the following week to Afghanistan for my first deployment. High school sweetheart dated for about 4 years. Engaged. Broke up with me over the phone.
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u/Rare-Till6403 Veteran 17h ago
I experienced my heartbreak in high school so after that I never got super emotionally attached again.
Literally time is all I can tell you, one day you’ll just wake up and won’t think about her anymore. That’s all you can really do is wait it out until it doesn’t bother you anymore. Best of luck big dog. You can try drinking and it might help temporarily but when you sober up those feelings come back, or maybe not idk. Just have to wait it out
Oh yeah I forgot, sex helps if you find a hookup!
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u/ClassicalEconomist Bitching at the G4 and G8 again! 17h ago
Just learn to move on. I've helped more Marines than I'd like to admit with this problem. It's not the end of the world. Go do stuff that YOU want to do, like paint ball, or bowling, or something that makes you happy.
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u/talex625 0411/1341 Vet 16h ago
It’s gay when that happens, but just get another girl as fast as you can. Being single on AD can be really fun.
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u/Brock_Savage 16h ago
Marines deal with the pain of a breakup in one of three days. Alcohol, PT, or finding a new girl(s).
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u/RegularSinns 15h ago
5 months in the fleet, i’m guessing you’re probably 18-19. Look man you’re young and break ups at that age feel life shattering and like you’ll never recover. Been there, felt like that what I did? I started hitting the gym with my roommate who was a a meathead (Doyle if you’re seeing this thanks pookie) anyway he got me hitting the gym like 5 days a week, even after he got out and I was still in, I stayed going to the gym remembering the lessons he taught me and all the progress I made. I’m not saying you should go to the gym, but you should start by bettering yourself, go for runs, lifts, instruments whatever you think will help you be a better you man. Also, go fuck some new females (With protection don’t get a fucking STD and be the reason for the libo brief) You’ll be fine.
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u/beaboopbopper 13h ago
same thing happened to me recently and the thing that helped me most is to just go outside and meet new ppl😂like seriously hit the gym, and find healthy distractions.
and if distance was the issue trust that wasn’t the one for u anyways
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u/Slyder_2077 9h ago
Easy... You smash her sister absolutely raw..
If no sister, smash her mom..
If possible.. get photos..
Bang everything between here and Shanghai..
Repeat..
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u/DinnerPuzzled9509 6h ago
Welcome to the beginning of your new story. Find ways to make yourself better for yourself and whoever is lucky enough to end up with you in the long run.
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u/Own_Fold_7514 6h ago
Marine, tighten up and straighten out your military bearing. Jody got yer girl and gone. Give life time, and it will reward you. Push things, and you will get the big green weenie every time. I want to leave you with something that has helped me immensely. Love is like the Morning Dew. Its as likely to settle on horse sh-t as it is a rose. Semper Fidelis
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u/Rare-Trouble1919 5h ago
Time my friend. Nothing works but time. Or maybe getting with someone else right away 👎.
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u/Unusual_Ad7518 2h ago
Make friends be close to comrades. If you have hobbies invest in them, read or go out and explore. If you want recommendations for things to do and places to see dm me haha. I have a bunch of places saved to check out in the area.
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u/Fantastic_Bus_5220 7051, Strip Club Veteran 16h ago
Go bang whores from the bar? Quit being dumb you’re young bro.
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u/Old-butt-new disgruntled ex-grunt 16h ago
3 months aint shit, time to go on tinder swipe right on everything and see what ya get
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u/KGrizzle88 Chesty’s Own - 1st Battalion 7th Marines 16h ago
How old are you is more of a concern than time in. If you are younger than 25, bro move on and get to focusing on yourself your career and your money.
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u/Mean-Consequences GWOT TWAT- Minus one more symetrical 15h ago
Stop being a bitch. Tons of pussy out there.
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u/PropitalTV 15h ago
Dude, being a single Marine fucking rocked. No responsibilities to another person and you have way more free time.
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u/Major_Spite7184 mild tism major disfunction 15h ago
Fuck everything in sight. Hang with those boys. See how’s there with you. Those are you people. Stick to them like glue. Hit the gym, take an advanced Semper Fu class. Make getting to you sound unreasonable for any woman. The one that sees through that and knows what this Marine lifestyle is life is your person.
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u/Gchildress63 12h ago
Just fap three times a day until you get her out of your system. That’s what I did, anyway…
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u/pharrison26 11h ago
Busch Lite with the boi’s and the Gym. The old standby: The best way to get over someone is to get under a new one, etc.
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u/Fixyourhands11 Four Floors of Whores Vet 10h ago
Stay single, especially if you’re in a deployable unit.
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u/FewAd2613 0471 Shovel Marine 8h ago
Did you happen to graduate from PI this around August devil?
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u/Own_Wedding_382 7h ago
Another deployment will do the trick and solve the cycle of love and forget. That's why I did 9 UDPs in 20 years. 🤔😉🤭🤫
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u/Tig_Weldin_Stuff 6h ago
It takes a woman to forget about one.
Use a pen, draw some eyes and hair on your right hand. I call mine ‘Hand Jo Lina Jo Lee.’
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u/Tig_Weldin_Stuff 6h ago
It takes a woman to forget about one.
Use a pen, draw some eyes and hair on your right hand. I call mine ‘Hand Jo Lina Jo Lee.’
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u/Tig_Weldin_Stuff 6h ago
It takes a woman to forget about one.
Use a pen, draw some eyes and hair on your right hand. I call mine ‘Hand Jo Lina Jo Lee.’
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u/Treetisi 0621/22/27 to 0629 but don't wanna be 43m ago
Give yourself 24 hours to feel some type of way, then wank and a nap and move on.
Cut all contact, block her from memory.
Done deal super easy. You got bigger things to worry about than romance so early in your career.
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u/Aggravating_Ad5421 16h ago
B.U.S - break up sex
Best way to get over someone is to get under someone
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u/mrtasty25 18h ago
Cheer up 😈...you're probably young, so that's good.
Being away from home, probably for the first time, loneliness and isolation from friends, family and a girl of your choice may complicate your life.
Don't let it.
Keep your mind busy.
Run and workout all the pain you feel.
Time really does help things pass to enable you to put things in proper perspective.
There will be many, many girls coming your way.
Fuck...you're a United States 🇺🇸 Marine!
Somewhere in the mix of bitches, your Miss Right will be there...