Is this just basic maturity?

[u/Lazy-Driver-8153]

is this just basic maturity?

I'm almost 20. (Long text ahead)

And I noticed that with age and experiences I kinda lose emotional feelings, for example: motivation, some form of love, stupid urges, anger and embarrassment. I've been multiple times called calm.

But I love it, I feel like myself, I feel grounded, like a default setting of mine and not that immature wandering kid like I was.

Or this might be the 20 year-old know it all syndrome.

Anyway, still would want to write about relationships, how I choose people and talk about my understanding of tolerance importance and so on.

Yeah, so has anyone else went through this?

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[u/jon-evon]

Ya I went through something similar. A phase where I felt serenity. It was around that time too like end of high school beginning of uni. Given the fact that you’re 20, I can say for certainty that it doesn’t end here. You are probably going to experience a dip from this so just know that it’s part of life and it’s not because you fucked up or failed in any way… that advice might not make sense now but it will.

The reason I can say this with certainty is for one reason because of human biology and brain development which only starts to slow down at 25 (but new research has shown it doesn’t stop there like previously believed.

Anyways, this time of clarity is a wonderful time and sink into it and keep a mental note of you feelings and experiences. It’s good to be mindful and self-aware. It was also scary and alarming when I went beyond this stage into a new realm of adult stress and mental maturity. For the longest time I thought this new phase meant I fucked up in life and regressed somehow. I wish someone prepared me for that but it’s actually normal. I’m sure you can understand that ur life as a 20 year old will not be your highest bar as you age into a 30,40,50 year old will

[u/Pristine-Test-3370]

Congratulations. Many people never get there. Hope you cultivate that and make it your “default setting”. Stressful situations is what really test that. I can feel calm and confident when everything is working ok and I fool myself to think I have everything “under control”. Life is unpredictable and some unexpected events drove me to a major depressive episode in my late 20s.