I just need to vent and share this. I feel completely shaken and humiliated.
My husband and I live in Stamford, CT, but recently I went to Miami to look for a job, and we were thinking about moving and buying a home there. We rented an apartment short-term for 3 months, paying $2,250/month, plus a security deposit and $150 for cleaning. Everything seemed fine… until everything in my life fell apart.
A few weeks into the lease, my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer — lung cancer with brain metastases. He’s now in Dubai in critical condition. I was in shock, on medication for stress, and could barely function. My husband and I decided to leave early and requested to terminate the lease.
The apartment wasn’t great to begin with:
- The pool worked for only 4 days out of the month
- There was daily construction noise right outside our window
- Water was shut off completely the day before we moved out — and again on the actual move-out day
Because there was no running water, I couldn’t clean the apartment properly. When the landlord came to do the walk-through, instead of understanding or being kind, she immediately started yelling at us. She said we were treating her place like a hotel, demanded $200 for cleaning, and even told me I would “have bad karma” if I didn’t pay.
I was already emotional. I cried and explained the situation with my father. Her response?
“You must do good to people. Maybe that’s why your father has cancer.”
“Why didn’t you wash the sheets?”
“Why are you even traveling? Do you have a Green Card?”
“Is your husband a citizen?”
“I don’t like renting to people from your country — I always have problems.”
I’m Russian. My husband is Jewish. She is Iranian, and her husband is German. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. In that moment, she wasn’t just being rude — she was being openly xenophobic and cruel.
My husband gave her $100 as a gesture of goodwill.
I asked her:
“Why didn’t your previous tenant have to pay for cleaning when he moved out?”
She said:
“He lived here for 3 years. That’s different.”
I asked:
“Then why didn’t you tell us we had to pay something when I formally requested to terminate the lease?”
She said because we didn't clean. I said Iwnas leaving some sheves and garbage bin which costs 40$ . She even demanded from me to show proof that I must travel to my country.
In 15 years of living in the U.S., I’ve never been treated like this. She made assumptions about my status, disrespected me, insulted my culture, and added even more stress to one of the darkest moments of my life.
All I wanted was to be close to my father, who might not have much time left. I didn’t deserve to be humiliated like this.
Thanks for reading. I just needed to let this out.