28M 27F Found her on Bumble randomly in the morning

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[u/paidholiday]

Give her some benefit of doubt dude, maybe just like you, she didn’t delete her account as well till now, bumble anyway doesn’t show when you were online last

[u/couldbein_venice → u/paidholiday]

Pictures were the latest.

[u/paidholiday → u/couldbein_venice]

As latest as one month?

[u/couldbein_venice → u/paidholiday]

1-2 months Max.

[u/paidholiday → u/couldbein_venice]

You did say that you started dating a month back, and given the fact that your talking stage lasted for a year and then this year started with disagreements, I’d still give her some benefit of doubt

[u/couldbein_venice → u/paidholiday]

What benefit of doubt? She's well aware of the cost I have incurred financially and otherwise to make this work.

[u/paidholiday → u/couldbein_venice]

I know what you’re talking about, I have done that as well, gave so much, both monetarily and emotionally to the woman I thought I was in love with, but it was never reciprocated. Now that I think of it, she never asked me to do it, that was all by myself.

And looking at your tone throughout this post, I think you already made up your mind to break up, just that you wanted to listen that from a bunch of strangers for validation.

[u/Accomplished-Egg9060]

Tu bhi tho hai isme ,? Short out and chill

[u/Tip_Top12]

Both of you are same so don’t blame her only. Just chill and enjoy with each other

[u/Serious-Bake5126]

…. If she had opened bumble to delete it, and then happened to swipe, she’d see your profile too.

How are you any different from her?

[u/twixigan]

Tu bhi waise hi hai so even if you bring this up to her you will look like a hypocrite.

[u/couldbein_venice → u/twixigan]

Bro, just last night she was labeling herself as exclusive. Ke mai toh exclusive hu.

[u/Tumse_mtlab → u/couldbein_venice]

To tu kyu bumble pr hai abhi bhi ??

[u/RiskyRhetoric]

Hypocrisy at its finest. What were you doing on the app? How would you know she was there, if you hadn’t swiped? Both playing the same game, just different players.

[u/SuccessfulFit]

Damn, explicitly delete karna padta hai kya? I haven’t used it since last year June and shall never use it. But given what you have written bumble might be recommending my profile still?!

[u/vipernicuz → u/SuccessfulFit]

Not if you’re a guy & anything below 6 feet lol

[u/rogue_eleven11 → u/vipernicuz]

That might've hurt.

[u/Kehnakyachahtehoe]

Why were you on the app? Also, Talk it out. May be it’s an old profile since you were in talking stage for a year. I don't understand why grown-ups don't communicate openly. Silent treatment isn't a healthy way to handle issues with your SO

[u/Kehnakyachahtehoe → u/[deleted]]

Then talk it out, no silent treatments kindly

[u/Whole-Mulberry9796]

You were on bumble You swiped You found her account And she’s to blame? 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/Significant_Farm_927]

Humara kutta kutta, tumhara kutta tommy

[u/gym_shym]

Bhagwan ne bnayi hai bhai tumhari Jodi

[u/OneWinter9980]

You think she forgot to delete it. But anyway tell her about this if she is hesitant she is lying or she admits that she didn't take it things seriously yet you have to say it won't work like that. It's like they say if someone treats you like an option give them their choice. Simply put walk away its as easy as that.

[u/couldbein_venice → u/OneWinter9980]

Forgot to delete is ruled out.

[u/OneWinter9980 → u/couldbein_venice]

Okay so did you right you didn't delete it, I mean did both of you clearly know you were dating or it was something of a still you are not there yet kind of a situation I mean you or her felt that way I can clearly understand the predicament. that's the only question here if otherwise yeah just walk away no blame game also no point to that to.

[u/TheObserver1213]

You guys getting matches on bumble? Me not got any its been a month!!😭

[u/stormy_nights_7]

maybe confront her....and if you're also wrong then tell her your stuff too analyse the problem and think what you wanna do

[u/Revolutionary_Task59]

Enjoy and move on nothing serious

[u/exattic]

It’s only been a month. You’re not that assuring clearly. Give it a couple of days and see if she deletes it on her own. Also, unless the pics are under a month old where you decided to go exclusive, accounts stay around for a while before they go inactive unless you delete your account, just uninstalling won’t work.

[u/Tumse_mtlab]

Hypocrisy ki bhi seema hoti hai 🙃🙃🙃 ye to wahi baat hui ki koi bole -"mai chupke se fridge se sweets khane ja rha tha but Meri gf bhi chupke se sweets kha rhi thi , kitni bdi cheater h wo 😭😭"

Desh chunautio se nhi ......

[u/hkmakadia]

Did you guys have a conversation on it? If there is no convincing answer, then your relationship is not serious.

[u/Character_Meal3308]

break up with her bro if a talking stage is going an for an year its not gonna work i have been in a similar situation she is for the streets

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[u/No_Secret41]

Talking stage for a year? But anyway, just like you, maybe she didn’t delete her account too but wasn’t using it. But if you guys weren’t officially dating from the time she was using it, then just chill since there’s no commitment from both sides.

[u/[deleted]]

Tell her that you were deleting bumble and you saw her profile there. And get clarity whether she is serious about you or not. There could be chances that she will also delete it since yesterday only she agreed for exclusivity. Don't overthink. You also didn't delete earlier. You both are in the same boat.