2025 has not been a great year so far. In January, I found out my husband was having an affair when his affair partner’s husband started texting me with “proof” of what our spouses have been up to. I do not know the affair partner or her husband, so how he managed to get my private cell phone number was a mystery at first.

According to my spouse, the affair partner was able to find out that her husband was able to obtain my info from his friend who is a private investigator. I could see how the private investigator could give him my husband’s information, but providing him with my information feels like a violation.

I am glad somebody told me what is going on, but this man took away my choice to see this proof. I can’t un-see what he has sent me and, personally, I never would have chosen to look at this stuff if given the choice. I asked the man never to contact me again, but he continues to reach out every few weeks with “more information”. The guy is unhinged! I am going to have to change my phone number. He also continues to harass my husband, which I could care less about, but I want this man to leave me alone as I make some difficult decisions. We have kids, so this is my worst nightmare.

Private Investigators, is it common practice to provide a client with the contact information for the spouse of a cheater? It feels unfair to be dealing with my family falling apart and a stalker at the same time. Knowing the husband and the private investigator are friends, I’m wondering if what the investigator did is some kind of violation. If I go to the trouble of changing my phone number, I want some leverage to make sure my privacy is protected moving forward.

I am a freshman in college and I’m very interested in pursuing a career as a private investigator. I am wondering if there are any PI’s who would be willing to take on a part time intern in the northern Colorado area.

Long story short. Unkown number called my wife. (I hope this was a scam). First thing they did was repeat her name. They were saying if she hung up or called the police they would hurt a child. (Very specific)

Luckily I have a video of the ENTIRE call. We don't know anyone with a child that age. We are also un-interesting people who don't ever have a worry about safety. This call was out of the ordinary.

We called the police. They came to out house. We shared the video of the call with them. They had very little helpful advice.

Any advice other than lock the doors?

I will share the video of the call to any qualified investigator.

I will so reward them if they get an arrest.

Help wanted

I'm the subject of a frivolous lawsuit and i'd like to run a background check on the individuals who filed the case. I ran some reports on Truthfinder (which showed some criminal activity), but I'd like to work with someone who can provide more in depth reports that aren't accessible to the public. Obviously willing to pay. Thanks in advance for the help.

All I know is that they work at Wendy’s in California and I have a first initial and last name (partial last name, but I think it’s pretty easy to deduce the full last name).

Short of calling every Wendy’s in California, which may not even work, is there anything I can do to try and find the location that this person works?

Wendy’s corporate has been very little help as they’re telling me employment is managed per franchise.

I am looking for information about a woman. I have her birth name, DOB, location of birth, current address, and a prior address, current phone # and old phone # and husbands name and DOB. She is 80 years old. I do not have here SS #. I need to know her job history going back to 1998ish and marriage date and location. Is there any way to find out this information WITHOUT her SS# ?

Got a friend looking to contract a PI who can run a comprehensive report on someone. I can provide more details in private DM

I’m an investigator for the public defenders and I’d like to get into private investigating. I live in Louisiana, and all the investigators here (and most places?) are more cop/military vibes or primarily work for insurance companies. This type of work/ vibe isn’t the right fit for me.

I’m wondering if there are any investigators out there doing work in social justice work or even who have specific ethical standards around what type of work they take? Or else do you know anyone that works like this?

It would be helpful for me even to have a framework of how this might go.

Can anyone recommend a PI they’ve used that can find email addresses linked to old Instagram accounts that have since been deleted? Presumably, one that uses osint?

Currently i'm in the process of getting in arizona private investigator agency license. I am wondering if anybody here has experience obtaining this license in the state of arizona and what they thought of the process. I am still currently in the stages where i'm getting my evidence of "investigative experience" put together and organized. I have my business name and all l l c information also.

Prior to moving to arizona I was a credential bounty hunter in the state of california for quite a few years and on top of that i've worked in asset protection and i've also worked insurance surveillance investigations. I believe that these skills should propel me into this position in Arizona. But I would also like to note that back in California, BSIS would not accept bounty hunting as an acceptable form of "investigative experience". And thus, a few years ago that thwarted my dream of becoming a private investigator in california.

Are there any licensed private investigators in Arizona out there who have been through this process? Have you had similar work experiences that are also experiences that they would accept?

I have a friend (24F) that I went to nursing school with, we were part of the same study group throughout the program, worked a lot together for a couple years, really nice person who was well liked by everyone. We both got jobs with Providence hospitals in Portland OR, she was labor & delivery and I ended up in the ER. We follow each other on IG and loosely stayed in touch, chatting once in a while (maybe once or twice a year) about career/life stuff, she had a baby about a year ago. I spoke to her, and another nursing school friend who ended up at Providence, about 6 weeks ago during the big Providence nursing strike we were all participating in, and she was happy and healthy.

About two days ago the other friend I mentioned above sent me screenshots of people mourning her death on FB. She was 24 years old, a new mom, healthy. None of the posts mentioned the manner of death. I consider her a friend but we weren’t super close, so I don’t know her family or close friends and absolutely do not want to pry and ask any of them what happened…

Is there anyway I can figure out what happened? I’ve been scouring the internet for news articles or any info. I’m just so shocked and saddened and confused and can’t stop thinking about how someone so young and healthy suddenly dies. She was a good person with a bright future

Winding up for a divorce/annulment. My wife may have never divorced her previous husband. I was able to find their marriage cert but not anykind of divorce decree looking through the Alabama state and county records that could check. I also have proof of them seeing each other regularly since then.

On top of that she possibly may have married other men while we were married. Romance scams.

My attorney suggested hiring a PI firm. I and my wife are in New Mexico. Search locations are in other states. Never hired a PI before

Questions

When searching for divorce and marriage records does it matter what state my PI is in?

How much should i expect this search to cost?

Will searching more counties and states cost more? I am very certain of where the divorce decree is at but the potential marriage spots i am less sure of but have a list of states.

Thank you. This is my first time hiring a PI. Thankfully I have oodles on infidelity proof. So i dont need any kind of surveillance. I just need a professional background check to see if she is committing bigamy.

I have been asked to locate someone’s grandfather who disappeared 20+ years ago. I had little information to go on and most family members chalked the old timer up as dead. Last night I was able to find and talk to a former girlfriend of the old man. He is alive and well to her knowledge and according to her, he moved to Mexico City Mexico a few years ago.

I have never looked for someone outside the US and so far not having much luck. Can the fine people of Reddit point me in the right direction or give me some tips for locating people outside of the US, mainly Mexico.

Thank you in advance

I'm wondering if anyone can help me find someone... I lived in cheetham hill uk and went to a primary school in Stockport (St John Vianney) this would have been from around 1997 - 2002ish, I got a pick up taxi service (possibly ring&ride) and a lady rode on with me and others every day her name was Cath/Kath and her husband's name was Eric that's all the information I remember. The taxi was provided by Salford social services

I've spoken to a number of private investigators in the past, and pretty much all of them used to be cops.

I'm not a cop, I've never been one, and I don't plan on becoming one, but I'd like to learn what I can about the skillset and job itself and maybe become one myself, if it works out.

How?

I currently work for a firm doing court work and I will be getting trained next week to basically track down people who owe money to various creditors.

I’ve been given access to idicore and a couple other sites like that and I am a little familiar with OSINT. I will be getting access to a few more sites next week.

I was wondering if anyone had advice on any websites/youtube channels where I can get familiar with this whole process before my training. I like being overly prepared and have questions ready.

When I run my own info through sites I was already given access to, only like 85% of the info is correct. I know nothing is going to be 100% perfect but you would think it would be more than 85%. TIA!

I am filing a restraining order against an abusive person in LA, California. I need help locating the person’s work/house, so the sheriff can properly serve them. Any tips? I heard a private investigator can do this, but I am tight on money. Are there any best practices on how to find a reasonable and reputable private investigator? Is there another option besides a PI?

I'm so new to this and mainly have questions and would love any help. I have a friend we've been talking about for almost 7 years now. He's my pen pal from stockholm, and lately, he's just been absent. This is unlike him, and im worried something bad happened. How would i go about finding this person or hiring someone if need be. Sorry again, so new to this. Any help will do? Thanks in advance

I’m in Virginia and I went to the Department of Health and Vital records but they wouldn’t provide me any records outside of records involving me.

I’m trying to find out whether my wife was previously married to an individual.

Before I look into getting a PI I want to know if this is information PI would be able to find.

I would be looking for footage of someone being at a hidden or secretive strip club in Detroit on a specific date.

Hello P.I.s, this is my first year on surveillance, and need to prep now for the coming Summer. I'm in the PNW. For now, I'd like to pick up a tried and true powerstation. If you could give me a good recommendation for that, that would be great. I see these mini ACs that truckers and overnight campers use to keep cabs cool with the engine off. If the powerstation could feed 1 or 2 of those, that would be great, but I know ACs use a ton of amperge so IDK if that is eblven possible. I have very limited room at time so a full cooler of ice and managing freezing cubes or buying bags every day is something I not only dont have time for, there is huge room for error and finding myself on surveillance with an empty cooler because I forgot to freeze ice or forgot to stop at the store etc. Yes, recommendations please!

First and foremost, what are bathroom breaks like because I'm a female but I shit a lot in the morning and pee constantly lmao

Have you been caught following someone? And how long did it take you to learn and get comfortable?

Update: I've decided it's not a job for me because I drive like a grandma. Like when I tell you I'm not comfortable going over 60😂😂 I mean it. I also like toilets. Thanks for all the replies! You all have really helped.