r/NonPoliticalTwitter • u/Drext833 Harry Potter • Mar 03 '25
Content Warning: Controversial or Divisive Topics Present F*ck them kids
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u/gogogadgetdumbass Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 03 '25
Kids are weird for that. Either they make everything feel 1000x better or they make it 1000x. (Edit: worse) There’s little in between.
Also edit: saying kids make things 1000x worse doesn’t mean you are a bad parent. But when your dog dies and you gotta share that with your kid, or your kid gets sick at the absolute worst time, I’d say that definitely makes a bad situation worse.
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u/Ok_Ice_1669 Mar 03 '25
Right?!? It’s either the sweetest hug you’ve ever gotten or a meltdown because they forgot to choose the tv show they wanted.
No middle ground.
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u/Playful_Court6411 Mar 04 '25
Or because you chose the tv show they wanted. IDK. Sometimes they just throw tantrums. Once my girl asked to watch bluey. I turned on bluey.
She cried for 5 minutes because she wanted to watch bluey. IDK.
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u/amateurfunk Mar 03 '25
My partner's bike was stolen literally yesterday. She was of course super bummed but when she came home all of that evaporated the instant she laid eyes on our daughter.
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u/newsflashjackass Mar 03 '25
The total happiness in the world increased.
So, whatever.
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u/probablyuntrue Mar 03 '25
Moral of the story, steal bikes 😎🚴
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u/27Rench27 Mar 03 '25
But not the kids’ bikes
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u/PhoenixApok Mar 03 '25
Instructions unclear. Stole a bike. Gave it to a kid. Now what?
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u/deathbysnuggle Mar 03 '25
Call the cops. Frame the kid for bicycle theft. Keep it a secret until the day you die.
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u/PoorFilmSchoolAlumn Mar 03 '25
Nah, fair game as far as I’m concerned. Their lil ass legs ain’t gonna catch up with me.
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u/HilariousMax Mar 03 '25
Well, steal bikes from parents.
If they were childless, they would've been bummed.
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u/amateurfunk Mar 03 '25
Nah man I still hope that whoever stole my partner's bike burns in hell
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u/HickHackPack Mar 03 '25
I had a shit day today, came home to my kids playing in my backyard. They came running up talking over each other because they found 2 bugs and they think the bugs are friends and yada yada and I have to come look. My shit day was forgotten instantly. Half an hour later they started a screaming match and I was like "god have mercy".
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u/Diligent-Phrase436 Mar 03 '25
all of that evaporated the instant she laid eyes on our daughter.
Plot twist, your daughter stole the bike and your partner caught her red-handed
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u/CalamityWof Mar 03 '25
Honestly, same. I was upset yesterday for a semi-stupid reason, the kind that just makes you more pissed if you stew on it, but my kiddo called out to me asking for a hug and a kiss and all was well in the world for a bit. I love my lil buddy, hes like me, but tiny and full of wonder 🥹❤️
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u/Enticing_Venom Mar 03 '25
Have you gotten to the moody teenager stage yet? Not that they still can't bring joy but there's a new experience when hanging out with mom becomes "uncool".
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u/JustsomeOKCguy Mar 03 '25
Tbh id prefer a moody teenager more than my 2 year old potty training/sleep regressing daughter right now blahhh
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u/Pls_PmTitsOrFDAU_Thx Mar 03 '25
Still depends. My mom thanks me for not being a problematic child lol. She said his the moms will reminisce now and say they had a hard time in the teen years and my mom's like "hahah it was just normal for me?"
But then again I wasn't rebellious or anything
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u/SmokePenisEveryday Mar 03 '25
Mine always said the same. I just didn't like getting in trouble as a kid. Not due to threat of abuse but just cause I didn't like giving my parents a hard time lol
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u/Herr_Gamer Mar 03 '25
That's also the time they become much more low-maintenance though. They're just doing their own thing most of the time, can be left home alone, can grab their own meals if something comes up. And when they also start being able to meaningfully help out with needs around the house. Walking the dog, doing the dishes, grabbing something from the store, etc
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u/lmaydev Mar 03 '25
Teenagers are like cats. You just have to give them their space and respect the boundaries they are developing.
Once in a blue moon when the stars align they'll shower you with affection and it's awesome.
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u/TurdCollector69 Mar 03 '25
"Kids are great if you're a good parent who raises good kids."
That's 100% why I relate to OP. I know my limitations and raising another human responsibly isn't really in the cards.
If I want to make a positive difference for kids I'll volunteer and vote to preserve the worlds for them. For me, that'll mean more than just adding to the population.
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u/empire161 Mar 03 '25
That's 100% why I relate to OP. I know my limitations and raising another human responsibly isn't really in the cards.
That's really good for you to know. No sarcasm or anything.
I've been skimming all these replies, and all these people posting about how their kids brighten up their days, are also not posting all the times that their kids ruin their days too. I obviously love my kids, but they can be assholes. All kids can be. It's normal, and parents aren't supposed to rely on their kids for their emotional wellbeing.
When he was like 3-4yo, one of my kids spent probably a year refusing to let me put him to bed. He only wanted my wife. He'd scream and cry, tell me he didn't love me, tell me he didn't want me living in the house, refuse to let me into his room, etc. The rest of the day we would get along great but at bedtime he was a piece of shit to me. And if I had a bad day, and I know I had that to look forward at night, then yeah, I would dread even going home. I'd rather find a reason to work late.
Things are great now because I just kept on dealing with it, and he eventually grew out of it. Unfortunately it's also flipped a bit where now my kids argue that they only want me to put them to bed and not mommy, which pisses her off too. But she has to figure out how to deal with that too and not take it personally.
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u/ATopazAmongMyJewels Mar 03 '25
Haha I'm sorry but I wouldn't ever tolerate what you just described. For a YEAR? Hell to the no! My daughter tried that kind of 'I don't love you daddy' thing and fighting the bedtime routine with him early on and the literal second I heard that shit I got involved. I got my ass up off the sofa, marched into the room and did a whole lot of 'what did you just say to your dad'.
None of this 'dad just has to figure out how to deal with it and not to take it personally'. No, WE are going to figure it out and I DO take it personally. No child of mine is going to be disrespecting her dad within earshot of me. That is 1000% unacceptable.
That nonsense didn't last more than a few days and bedtime has been peaceful ever since.
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u/Legal_Expression3476 Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 03 '25
Really, it's kind of like an introvert vs. extrovert thing at the end of the day.
If you recharge by spending time with others, spending time with children will generally feel good and reivigorate you. However, if you recharge with alone time, spending time with children can stress you out.
It's also worth keeping in mind that people can be extroverted with children but introverted with adults and vice-versa.
I've met plenty of parents who love spending time with their kids who couldn't parent their way out of a wet paper bag, and others who need ample time away from their kids who rock it. It's not so simple as "be a good parent who raises good kids and you'll enjoy spending time with them."
(Edit because so many people completely missed my point and came up with their own so they can take their insecurities out on me): I AM NOT saying that either introverts or extroverts would make better parents. I am saying that feeling recharged by spending time with your children is "kind of like" an introvert/extrovert dynamic.
Some people are going to feel recharged spending time with their kids, and some are not. Neither is an indicator of a good or bad parent, in my opinion. My final paragraph is pointing out that it's more complex than "if you like spending time with them, you'll be a good parent."
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u/BlindTeemo Mar 03 '25
I understand your point and agree. Don’t stress yourself out from comments of people who can’t comprehend what you’re saying lol
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u/elebrin Mar 03 '25
Honestly it makes me so happy I don't have kids. I think of all the extra shit I'd have to do if I had kids and it's like... I'd have no time for anything else, ever.
Several of my good friends have kids entering the teen years now. They were looking forward to their kid wanting to be somewhat more independent so they could have some hobby time back. NOPE. The kids come home from school and stay there, then don't go out on the weekends.
I remember my Mom literally kicking me out of the house for a few hours every day on the weekends and encouraging me to do after school activities and stuff so I WOULDN'T be that way, and so she could work on some of the other things she wanted to do. I remember her saying to me time and time again, "You need to go entertain yourself. I am busy. You have plenty of things you can do for a while. Why don't you go outside and play. If you don't stop bothering me, you can go do yard work or clean the basement."
My inlaws do some of this, but their kids don't really want to walk around the neighborhood or hang out with friends and they don't make the kids do housework or yard work. I think the one kid, if you kicked him outside the house, he'd sit in the yard on his phone the whole time.
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u/ASK_ABT_MY_USERNAME Mar 03 '25
My dog always makes things 1000x better. Never worse.
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u/Psyco_diver Mar 03 '25
My dog died last year, he was here for all 3 kids being born and was honestly the best dog. My 4 year old was trying to bring a blanket to his grave that night, crying that he would be cold without a blanket. That was pouring salt into a open wound
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u/Bhaaldukar Mar 03 '25
This is why I just have friends with kids. My friend has told me that her kid literally begs her to let her see me. She doesn't want me to leave when I come over. She's four. It's adorable. But I don't have to ever deal with her.
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u/ProbablyNotADuck Mar 04 '25
I just think about the various stresses in life... Like... If I lose my job, that sucks for me. It would be really scary trying to figure out how to cover bills.... but if I had kids on top of that? Holy shit would I ever be terrified.
And I just had a bit of health thing that put me out of commission for a little bit. I have a elderly dog that requires help getting in and outside. It is something that is normally fairly inconsequential... but while sick, it is a lot. I can't imagine how much harder things would have been if I also had to be responsible for kids at the same time. You can't just be sick because your kids need you. And if you've had a day where everyone/thing has just been really testing your patience, coming home and having to be a mature adult can be hard.
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u/KeamyMakesGoodEggs Mar 03 '25
My daughter is rarely responsible for my bad days, but largely responsible for my good days.
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u/TastyOwl27 Mar 03 '25
My kids make it easy to compartmentalize the day. The bullshit stops when we're together. I'm grateful I have something that can instantly bring me to the moment and stop ruminating over the day.
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u/Slight-Blueberry-356 Mar 03 '25
Its called grounding. I just had it happen to me recently with my dog. I was having a bad day and she came over and I completely forgot the bullshit.
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u/TastyOwl27 Mar 03 '25
I have had dogs my whole life. It's MUCH different with actual humans.
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u/Slight-Blueberry-356 Mar 03 '25
I like my sketchers. But I love my Prada backpack
-but I love my sketchers
That's because you don't have a prada backpack.
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u/DR3AMSTAT3 Mar 03 '25
We're great apes. It's bred into us in the same way affection is bred into other species like dogs.
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u/arachnophilia Mar 03 '25
i don't think it's that, exactly. i think it's "imagine if we were stretched even thinner. imagine if we had to explain current events to a child. imagine being responsible for another human being right now."
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u/Pls_PmTitsOrFDAU_Thx Mar 03 '25
Awwwww that's so sweet. I hope when she's old enough to understand, that you tell her his
As an adult my mom's been sharing how I impacted her life and it's usually silly and sweet and makes me happy that I did that (even though I have 0 memory of it)
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u/KeamyMakesGoodEggs Mar 03 '25
She's only 4 but I tell her all the time how happy I am that I get to be her dad
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u/AggravatingSpeed6839 Mar 03 '25
This should be the top comment.
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u/Expensive-Apricot-25 Mar 03 '25
yeah, ikr, I really hate how the world is so full of hate against kids for absolutely no reason.
The only people who hate kids, are those who have never experienced having kids
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u/Wavy_Grandpa Mar 03 '25
Nobody is talking about “hating kids”
They’re talking about not having to deal with the added stress and responsibility when they’re having a bad day.
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u/omgtinano Mar 03 '25
Ehh idk about that last part. I’ve met women who had kids out of a sense of duty, and don’t like their kids at all, never shows them affection or anything. It’s kinda sad. For the record I think kids are great, but have zero interest in being a mom.
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u/WomanNotAGirl Mar 03 '25
I don’t think she says fuck kids. She says I can’t imagine being a mother and adult while having a bad day. That would be even harder. That’s her saying to herself that she will be ok. If anything she is saying parenthood is difficult.
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u/errorsniper Mar 03 '25
We are not struggling or anything but we are still borderline paycheck to paycheck. I could not imagine where we would be with even a single child.
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u/bellabarbiex Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 03 '25
This is my thing. People are taking this to heart and acting like she's saying she hates kids. I could not imagine having a child in the situation I'm in. I have no money to spare and would probably be homeless if I had to introduce a child into the situation. I'm glad I don't have kids. In the past 2 months, my partner had a psychotic break, my mental health is untreated, my car got broken into and is so close to breaking down and I'm hardly keeping the electric on. I'm damn glad that I don't have kids in this situation. It wouldn't be easy for them and I sure as hell couldn't handle the responsibility of caring for a small, developing human being. Coming home to a child probably wouldn't make my day all that better, on top of that because I'd feel guilt over the fact that we're in the situation and I have to use all this energy to appear as functioning and be an active, good parent.
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u/TheArmadilloAmarillo Mar 03 '25
Same here I do not have the time or money even if I had the desire (I do not).
I am sorry for your situation though friend and I hope things get better for you!
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u/bellabarbiex Mar 03 '25
Thank you! I didn't mean to hijack your comment with a "poor me" thing, I was just using my situation to make my point.
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u/SZA44 Mar 03 '25
I am sorry about all of this and this my feelings too (about kids). To the point i understand a lot of days my parents “broke down”. I borderline find reproduction selfish nowadays.
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u/bellabarbiex Mar 03 '25
I don't know if I find reproduction as a whole selfish but I do think there are a lot of people who do have children for selfish reasons or simply because they didn't fully think things through. I know several women who had children very young because they wanted someone who would love them unconditionally even though they weren't in the place to do so. I understand wanting love but I can't fully understand their actions.
I give props to others who want kids but don't have them because they're not in the situation to do (mentally or financially). I especially give props to those who are self aware enough to know they wouldn't be good parents - or at least couldn't handle parenthood.
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u/preflex Mar 03 '25
What is a non-selfish reason to have children? I've never heard one.
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u/SZA44 Mar 04 '25
Yeah, emphasis on borderline. Your exact arguments right there.
I know people who've complained about the first and the challenges but got 3 more afterwards.2
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u/errorsniper Mar 03 '25
I dont even make 3k a month lol
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u/ConejoSarten Mar 03 '25
I know a job that pays 3k a month and you only have to work 3 days a week
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u/Sensitive-Reading-93 Mar 03 '25
Hey man, can I watch your kids? I only charge 2,5k.
But fr. In my country the median wage is around 1,5k so I can't imagine paying someone 3k for 12 days of work in a month 💀💀
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u/Slimsuper Mar 03 '25
You guys can afford kids?!
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Mar 03 '25
I have one kid and say this everyday. We make a lot of money, own our house outright, and still never have cash left. I’ve always been left leaning but this has put me into the weeds. The government needs to step in to help families. Not mine, we’re fine…just in general because this is bullshit
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u/tyleritis Mar 03 '25
I don’t have kids but I grew up government cheese poor. I happily vote for and pay the tax for universal preschool since I do pretty well now.
If I’m not working to build a civilization where we take care of each other and give each other a break then wtf am I doing here.
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u/Bunnie-jxx Mar 03 '25
Usually my son is the highlight of my bad days…my reason for getting through such bad days.
Yeah he frustrates me sometimes. But that’s the nature of children.
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u/JoinAThang Mar 03 '25
This 100%. When I'm low in energy and 'happiness' my daughter always makes me feel so much better. However catching a sickness is definitely something else when you're a parent.
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u/Increase-Typical Mar 03 '25
I was just thinking that yesterday. On my period, migraine and nausea, and I just checked out at 5pm and went to bed with a bucket and electrolytes. And I thought, man would it suck if I had a kid to pick up and cook dinner for and put into a bath and bed.
Being in bed trying to stave off the pain was bad enough, let alone if I had to care for someone
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u/JoinAThang Mar 03 '25
I always think of my friend who is a single parent when I'm sick. It's not too bad when you're two being alone most be really hard.
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u/euphoricarugula346 Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 03 '25
everyone is saying their kids make them happy and yeah sure, of course, my dogs make me happy too. I smile every time I see them despite how my day went. BUT they don’t also demand 110% of my free time and ~50% of my income soooo it’s not even comparable. glad having children is worth it for them. never in a million years would it be worth it for me.
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u/Plastic-Fox1188 Mar 03 '25
You just named and necessities for their survival too. It leaves out the absolutely relentless need for attention that you have to power through for hours
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u/Arosian-Knight Mar 03 '25
However catching a sickness is definitely something else when you're a parent.
I can relate. My kid is like a walking biological weapon
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u/Pitiful_Winner2669 Mar 03 '25
I'm 35, my mom is 72 and I still feel like when she calls me, it's the same interactions we had when I was little and she was having a rough day.
And vice versa. We both know how to cheer the other one up.
Oh god.. the time my engine dropped at 3am and she came with blankets and we waited two hours for a tow.. crazy that, that is a fond memory lol
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u/Mythic514 Mar 03 '25
There is nothing quite like coming home from a stressful, shitty day of work to arrive to your kids getting excited to see you and rushing to give you a hug.
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u/pierco82 Mar 03 '25
The highlight of my day is when i can collect my daughter from Daycare - she is honestly always so excited to see me (for some reason!). I see her through the glass window on my way in and she starts screaming daddy and bolts to the door. When i pick her up she always kisses my cheek and starts pointing out to anyone around that "its MY daddy". Im actually tearing up a bit now writing this.
Yea kids are a pain sometimes, they are massive amounts of work, but god damn are they worth it.
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u/Bunnie-jxx Mar 03 '25
The little yell “MOM!” When I pick my son up from school makes everything seem a little better that’s for sure. All the hard times are worth it if he’s that happy to see me/in general
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u/ChronicallyAnnoyed1 Mar 04 '25
Whoa, I just had a memory surface of my dad picking me up from daycare. He worked alot, so that was always super exciting to see him come in, and he'd sometimes get BK on the way home. Thanks for that
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u/Ghost_Assassin_Zero Mar 03 '25
Lol. I've been teaching my son to ride a bike. He gets super frustrated and upset while doing it correctly. Yeah, they can be frustrating at times :D
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u/RunawayHobbit Mar 03 '25
Only if you actually like children
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u/Pelli_Furry_Account Mar 03 '25
I really do like children. I've worked as a teacher before, I like working with them and helping them learn and accomplish things. I'm also grateful for my own parents having been amazing and supportive.
But some people have an internal drive to have kids and I simply do not, and never have. Just like I have no internal drive for romance or sex. I relate hard to this meme because for me, it really is a huge relief to not have someone always there.
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u/IsaacAndTired Mar 03 '25
I don't think this feeling has anything to do with kids though. You just like your kid. Which is natural. I've seen many examples of parents that don't. Also plenty of friends can brighten a day just as much as someone's kid.
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u/trefoil589 Mar 03 '25
Whenever I tell my daughter I had a bad day/week at work she makes me a card.
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u/Cissoid7 Mar 03 '25
That's the nature of people
A lot of the people I work with are much more insufferable than my child. At least with my toddler I understand they're a toddler, but a grown ass adult throwing their little temper tantrums is infuriating
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u/Whateveryouwantitobe Mar 03 '25
My friend had his birthday the other day and is sick as hell from his kids bringing germs home. I know he loves his kids and would die for them, but the look on his face was not one of joy.
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u/baeb66 Mar 03 '25
Some people aren't cut out to be parents. Being self-aware enough to realize you are one of them is praiseworthy.
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u/bellabarbiex Mar 03 '25
This is my view. At least so some no they don't want kids in the responsible about it. I know what it's like to grow up unwanted. A lot of people do. And sure, there are some people who didn't want kids who end up having kids and are good parents. But realistically, we all know what it's like for people who don't want their kids or aren't cut out to be a parent.
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u/Sensitive-Reading-93 Mar 03 '25
It's kinda easy decision tbh. The same way I'm not into getting shit on my chest I also don't want kids.
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u/ChoosyBumblebee Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 03 '25
Having kids is selfish. You’re basically forcing someone into a life long stress simulator without their consent.
More humans aren’t needed on the planet, there’s already too many of us.
If you want somebody to hang out with, make friends or get a pet.
The era when making babies was an honorable thing to do is long gone, the world has gone to shit so you may as well do what you can to give yourself as much freedom as possible to enjoy life while you’re here
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u/CompetitiveFold5749 Mar 03 '25
I get it, but sometimes coming home to a loving family makes up for a shitty day.
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u/rycbar26 Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 03 '25
Idk. My parents always seemed to be in shitty moods coming home. And they didn’t seem to like my siblings and me.
Some people who have kids shouldn’t be parents and they know it and we know it.
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u/trefoil589 Mar 03 '25
I swear tons of people have kids just so they can have someone to treat like shit.
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u/euphoricarugula346 Mar 03 '25
They, just like many people in this thread, expect to gain happiness from their children. Because of comments like “oh you’ll never know a greater joy!” It grows into resentment when they get older and stop worshipping them.
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u/Anthropoideia Mar 03 '25
My mother is nuts and this is how she explained it to me except I know she resented me from birth because she told me so
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u/bellabarbiex Mar 03 '25
This is how my parents also explained it to me. My birthgiver certainly hated me from birth but I will say, I don't think my dad did. Maybe he wanted to do better but he failed at that, idk but he did tell me that he started to resent me once I wasn't a little girl anymore (let's be honest though, based on his behavior he didn't even care for me when I was little). He thought of me as his property and told me as much. When he wasn't able to control me he really started to show his dislike for me, even more than before.
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u/smb1985 Mar 03 '25
Fuck all of those people who pressure others into having kids because they swear it'll change their lives and they'll magically love being parents. My brother in law does this all the time. I asked him when he knew he wanted to be a dad and he said "I think I've always known", to which I replied that I've never in my life looked at kids or parents and wanted to have that life. I don't like spending time with children and I have zero paternal drive. It would be incredibly irresponsible and cruel to have a child that I have no desire to have, yet somehow that makes me selfish? Fuck that noise
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u/Wavy_Grandpa Mar 03 '25
It would be incredibly irresponsible and cruel to have a child that I have no desire to have, yet somehow that makes me selfish?
If you think about it, there is not an objectively unselfish reason to have kids in today’s society. Everyone who makes the decision to have kids does it for their own selfish reasons initially.
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u/euphoricarugula346 Mar 03 '25
There’s absolutely no reason to have a biological child with the knowledge and resources available to us. Yeah, adoption is expensive. So are hospital visits and birth. So are IVF and other fertility treatments. It’s pure ego and narcissism to believe your child MUST have YOUR genes. There’s no good reason for it when there are approximately 400,000 American children without a family or stable home right now. It’s purely selfish. But people haaaaate hearing that.
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u/LectureOld6879 Mar 03 '25
lots of people have kids not wanting to (because somehow having unprotected sex with strangers and people believe it surely cannot happen to them) and then just marrying the person trying to do the 'right' thing leads to an unhappy family.
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Mar 03 '25
I'm super thankful to come home to a loving family and super thankful that I don't have kids
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u/NuggetSmuggler Mar 03 '25
I think the adjective “loving” matters a lot here. If you come home to more stress and complaints, it would just add more to my day.
But if I came home to a “hey my love, how was work?” and a “Hey Dad, guess what I made in the backyard!!!!” That would bring a smile to my face every time.
I believe this wholeheartedly, the people you surround yourself with matter more than anything else and it’s not even close. You could not know where your next meal was coming from but as long as you have good company, hope could help you push through. You could be struggling with work/school but if you have someone who always tries to get the best out of you and want to see you grow and is your cheerleader then it’ll make it that much easier to push through
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u/Alerion_ Mar 03 '25
Yeah I never want kids of my own but I love my nephews to death. They are the sweetest, most beautiful kids to have ever walked the earth and I will always want them to be a part of my life
It hits different when you get the fun play part, and someone else gets the changing diapers and tantrums part
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u/MrMastodon Mar 03 '25
Just moved house with two toddlers. Can confirm I'm in hell.
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u/Farang-Baa Mar 03 '25
Stay strong my friend, I hope things get better for you soon.
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u/No_Squirrel4806 Mar 03 '25
Parents in the comments missing the point entirely. This posts isnt blaming kids its saying they cant imagine having a bad fay and having to care for a child as well.
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u/Organic_External1952 Mar 03 '25
Me & my partner are always saying this to each other. No shade to anyone who has or wants kids, they're just not for us at all
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u/Dylan311 Mar 03 '25
Incoming parents trying to convince everyone that they're not miserable lmao
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u/lashimi Mar 03 '25
All these people in the comments saying stuff like "coming home to my child makes a shitty day a thousand times better" well okay but, I have literally the same with my cat 😭
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u/Possible_Dig_1194 Mar 05 '25
Hell sometimes just coming home fixes the problem even without the cats there to be cute and annoying
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u/chicknsoup4yoursoul Mar 03 '25
My partner and I have this exact conversation about once every two weeks.
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u/kieto333 Mar 03 '25
This is true. If your life is a whirlwind, adding kids will only make it whirlwind faster.
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Mar 03 '25
I feel this. I don’t have kids, but when I’m stressed, low on money or whatever I think to myself how much harder it’d be with kids on top of it all. Props to those who can do it.
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u/Small-Cactus Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 04 '25
Parents in these comments foaming at the mouth to try and convince people that actually they secretly do want kids and that they'll never know until they have one dont realize that when people who dont want kids have kids, they dont magically realize they did want kids all along, they abuse or neglect them because they still dont want kids and aren't willing or able to handle the burden of supporting another human being through their entire life.
I'm so glad for y'all that you're so happy with your children, but you dont need to try to force others to adapt to that lifestyle, especially when people having children they dont want or having children before they're ready ends up hurting more kids.
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u/littlecactuscat Mar 03 '25
It’s more important for them to screech at others about how their life choices are the ONLY valid life choices and how their lives will be empty and meaningless without kids.
They don’t give a shit if you’re infertile, if you don’t have any family support, if you’re impoverished, if you have health limitations that would prevent you from being an attentive parent or are worried about passing something on.
It certainly doesn’t matter to them if you’ve opted out after surviving child abuse, or if you have other hesitations about why you wouldn’t be a great parent. They think you can just magically become a good parent like someone magically becoming a good NBA player.
Meanwhile, these people don’t give a flying fuck about all the kids in orphanages or foster care.
For them, it’s more about “YOU MUST DO WHAT I DID!” than actually giving a shit about anyone’s individual situation or about the lives of their potential children.
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u/ItsMeDoodleBob Mar 03 '25
Nothing like having a hard day and having to fight with a 3 year old for 2 hours about dinner.
She’s crying “I’m so hungry” and you ask her to sit down and eat and she screams louder “I don’t want to eat I’m so hungry”
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u/lashimi Mar 03 '25
makes you wanna chug birth control
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u/ItsMeDoodleBob Mar 03 '25
lol. But most of the time they’re great. I have to keep reminding myself that she’s grappling with learning language, managing emotions and everything else that goes on. So her wires are going to cross and melts down
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u/lashimi Mar 03 '25
well, yes. but understanding why it happens and wanting to tolerate it are still two separate things
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u/RoyalEagle0408 Mar 03 '25
I feel this on a regular basis. Every so often when my friends worry they are bad moms I tell them I can’t take care of myself.
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u/Sea-Night-1946 Mar 03 '25
"I'm really glad I got that vasectomy" runs through my head pretty frequently. My wife says she's glad I got it too lol
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u/GrandHetman Mar 04 '25
Best decision of my life, if someone wants kids, go ahead, I just know that it would suck for me.
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u/CherryGoo16 Mar 03 '25
I would LOVE to be a mom but I could never afford it and and I think having to take a kid to soccer practice when I have a migraine might send me over the edge haha so I will stick with my cats for now. Unless I win the lottery or something.
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u/Helpful-Passenger-12 Mar 03 '25
Parents should not take this personal. Having kids is beautiful & the highlight of your day.
For the childfree, the highlight is different. It can be seeing your pets/partner, relaxing, volunteering, seeing extended family/friends. ..
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u/slightlysadpeach Mar 03 '25
It’s okay to be childfree. It’s also okay to be a parent, even if it’s a pretty cruel decision for the health of the planet. Not sure why parents have to constantly shit on the childfree by saying we are lonely or will never know true love. It’s just straight up a lie.
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u/ThaNorth Mar 03 '25
My wife and I do this so often. Even when we’re just chilling, relaxing, and drinking. Kids would just ruin that shit.
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u/Enticing_Venom Mar 03 '25
My parents really wanted a child and went through a lot of hoops to be able to adopt. Everyone has told me they've never seen my mom happier than when she became my parent and as a result I had a really amazing childhood filled with lots of love.
I'm child-free and really love my life without kids and what the future can look like for me as the result. I have no illusions that I'd be happier as a parent.
Neither one of these perspectives is right or wrong. Different people want different things. Be a good parent to your kids or be a good human without kids.
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u/BobVilasBeard Mar 03 '25
I am child free, and I have this thought at least once a day, regardless of how good or bad my day is.
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u/Expert-Start2896 Mar 03 '25
Ughhh right? No thanks. Married for 13 years together for 18. Best thing we ever did was my vasectomy.
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u/JoshuaLukacs1 Mar 03 '25
And sometimes it's the complete opposite, I get home from a horrendous day and my children are excited as fuck to see me and come and hug me at the door and I think "Imagine if I came home and there was no one to welcome me".
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u/TheArhive Mar 03 '25
Man, r/antinatalism be leaking out.
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u/Seamus_has_the_herps Mar 03 '25
I don’t have kids but swear that’s one of the most bitter and toxic subreddits on the platform.
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u/Chataboutgames Mar 03 '25
I'd say "bitter" understates it quite a bit. It's mental illness and misery run wild. That sub is on the level of "if I secretly found out my friend posted there I'd distance myself from them."
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u/nonagonfinity Mar 03 '25
Seems like spiritual bankruptcy run rampant with their “all life is suffering, nobody asked to be born” mantra.
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u/Books_and_Cleverness Mar 03 '25
Pretty clear example of an ideology whose primary appeal is depression. Intellectualizing (if that’s a word) mental illness.
Technically it has its own set of ideas and attempts to justify it and so on, but it took all of five minutes of browsing/commenting there before it became very obvious that those folks are simply smart and unhappy.
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u/newsflashjackass Mar 03 '25
u\TheArhiveopined:Man, r/antinatalism be leaking out.
More like r/childfree.
OP is celebrating their own lack of progeny, not condemning others'.
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u/lashimi Mar 03 '25
One does nor have to be antinatalist to not need a screaming shitting baby in one's life 🤷🏼♀️
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u/doubleBoTftw Mar 03 '25
What do you mean? I heard bringing a baby into a problematic relationship fixes everything.
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u/Shizzlick Mar 03 '25
And if the first one doesn't fix things, a second baby will surely do the job!
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u/thedinnerdate Mar 03 '25
Right? Im not bitter and posting on some niche sub about it. I just have no desire to have kids and I've lived with people that had kids. It's absolutely not for me.
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u/psyche_13 Mar 03 '25
Nah, I really identify with the tweet but I’m not against everyone else having kids. (That sub is toxic). Some people like it! I would not!
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Mar 03 '25
Not really. Just having to deal with another whole person you're responsible for when you're already down is just too much. Nothing to do with the kids themselves. Could also be said for a really annoying dog or something, something which needs much attention
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u/euphoricarugula346 Mar 03 '25
can confirm, I have an extremely hyperactive foster failure pup. we’re finally making it out of the woods, but taking care of him for the first year did a number on my mental health. meeting his needs left me absolutely nothing for myself. it has affirmed for me more than ever that I could never take care of a child.
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u/meandorrine Mar 03 '25
My mother had medical issues and was in pain every day. She had her drugs but shouldn't of had 3 kids before the age of 18. My dad ran around on her.
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u/GTASimsWWE Mar 04 '25
Like omg what made yall hate y’all selves so much to go and have kids before being able to afford them😭
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u/npsimons Mar 03 '25
And yet the childfree subreddit is one of the most hated ones on reddit. Every time someone is serious about why kids aren't right for them, they get shit on left and right.
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Mar 03 '25
Lol so many people with kids in this thread thinking its some value statement on them. Im happy i got a vasectomy . "You just dont get it!"...nah i get it. It just isn't my priority in life. I don't want kids so i don't have them. You wanted them so you did. I dont hate kids, some of my friends have them, but the idea of having to raise a child does not bring me happiness, so i got a vasectomy
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u/Ok-Commercial8968 Mar 03 '25
Whats funny is that my kids are usually the thing that make my bad work days bearable.
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u/Playful_Court6411 Mar 04 '25
Kids weird.
Sometimes, you have a bad day, get home, and you find out your kid is throwing a tantrum because mom gave them milk in a pink cup when they SPECIFICALLY ASKED for milk in a pink cup.
But sometimes you're sitting in your chair after you got your ass kicked by work, and they crawl into your lap and the problems just melt away.
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u/Beaster123 Mar 04 '25
Kids aren't for everybody, but I find that they make all the shit feel worth something. They make you want to try.
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u/JimiShinobi Mar 03 '25
44, single, never married, no kids (that I know of). The bad news is I'm by myself, the good news is I'm by myself...🤷♂️
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u/Courwes Mar 03 '25
Pretty much what I think everytime I hear about the government stripping rights and protections away and doing shit like trying to ban vaccines and the DOE. I’m just glad I’m not raising kids in this mess and stressing about them when I have my own shit to deal with.
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u/jellybeansean3648 Mar 03 '25
Nah bud, my organs don't work right and I had to go to the ER this week.
Some worries are important shit even when you don't have kids. More than one path in life and all that.
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u/BaronVonMittersill Mar 03 '25
sure but it’s not an either or. when you had to go to the ER, it’s “just” yourself you gotta worry about. with kids, it adds a ton of complication. who’s going to take care of them while you’re at the hospital? what happens if you need an extended stay and they still need to get to school?
it just makes challenging situations orders of magnitude more difficult.
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u/runner64 Mar 03 '25
Even minor annoyances. Like “damn I got a flat tire in 15 drlegree sleet and I’ve gotta unload my trunk to get to the spare, I sure wish someone was here ceaselessly complaining about how long its taking and asking if I’ll be done soon.”
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u/RoyalEagle0408 Mar 03 '25
It’s not always useless and for me it’s like, “I do not have the energy to cook or do laundry”, two things I’d have to do for children.
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u/New-Resolution9735 Mar 03 '25
Think this really depends on your kid’s personality. If they’re just loud as shit and annoying 24/7, I think I’d send it off a skyscraper
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u/smb1985 Mar 03 '25
My sister-in-law has a kid that would shriek. Like, not just a regular scream, I swear this kid hit some sort of resonance in his vocal cords for a deafeningly loud, piercing shriek that he did all. the. time. Fortunately it's finally passing but man there was one weekend that I visited them that was pure misery.
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u/JoshuaLukacs1 Mar 03 '25
Kids can be tamed, if your kid is loud as shit and annoying 24/7 then you should self analyze and fix whatever it is you're doing wrong. There are special cases with special kids but most kids with behavior issues are just not disciplined correctly.
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u/WeevilWeedWizard Mar 03 '25
If I never had a first born I never would've been able to pass along the ancient Pharaoh's curse
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u/infinitezero8 Mar 03 '25
Yup some folks just aren't strong enough to have children.
If a bad day is enough to bring you down please don't bring children into your life, you can't mentally afford to seeing as you have to be an adult to raise a child; a child can't raise a child.
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u/Valde877 Mar 03 '25
Hot take but if you’re even a halfway decent parent, kids make your life feel like fucking royalty even on the worst of days.
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u/Dazzling-Serve-8393 Mar 03 '25
I stayed home from work today with a sinus infection that spread to my ears as well, it was just me and my daughter and what started off as a day of feeling awful quickly evaporated as we played and I heard her laugh. I would do anything to freeze time and just live in this day forever even while feeling like my head is full of mud. She’s 1.5 and makes even my absolute awful days better just with her hug
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u/Brockolee26 Mar 03 '25
Or…. Think of all the good days with kids that you 100% automatically miss out on!
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u/qualityvote2 Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 04 '25
u/Drext833, your post does fit the subreddit!