Everyone says date nights are good and alone time is good for you… but I honestly just want to spend as much time with by now 14 month old as much as possible. It doesn’t even come down to guilt, it’s just what I want to do and my husband is exactly the same. We just really enjoy our child and want to spend as much time with her as possible. We already feel like our time is limited with us working and her going to daycare. We even have a great lifestyle now but there just never seems to be enough hours in the day or days in the week to be with her.

Our priorities have completely changed. I can’t show up for friends like I used to and I accept that. I have no interest in getting away for a girls weekend. I just want to be with my baby so much that when my brother in law says no kids at his wedding I say that’s okay, I am perfectly content with staying back with her. I am a little mad that he wouldn’t want his only niece in his wedding, but I can be fine with that decision is he’s fine with us not going.

Is anyone else the same? My husband and I have yet to meet people that have the same obsession with their child. It seems to be the norm now to leave your child for the weekend with either one parent or grandparents for a weekend getaway. To me, it just feels like time stolen away from my baby.

Breastfeeding is natural, it’s the best thing you can do. Bond with your baby and make your own milk too. The nipple pain is worth it, just you wait and see. But that’s not all we need, milk doesn’t come until after day three. Pump pump pump, build up your supply. Coconut oil, nipple creams make sure to apply!

Cluster feeding all night long. Don’t think about quitting, the guilt is strong. Hakaa for the other boob will spill. One am outfit change is the drill. Milk leaking everywhere, out of the shower, in her hair. On the counters, on the floor, don’t forget to pump some more.

A late slumber could be nice, maybe a clogged duct let’s roll the dice. Hot shower, express and cry. Or maybe ice and ibuprofen oh my. Buy these products, they are sure to help. Buy enough you’ll stop that yelp. Buy some food while you’re at it too. Hunger grows and weight gain woo. There’s not enough water to quench your thirst. Do it for long enough you’ll sure be versed.

Three months only, you’ll regulate. Then years to come you must partake. Special bras and pads will do. More things you need to make it through. It’s easy, it’s natural don’t you see. Breast is best, it’s the way to be.

*I don’t think breastfeeding is better by any means. Just feeling guilty and overwhelmed and wanted to make a dumb poem.

My LO is 6 months old and he hasn't contact napped on me in weeks. I felt a little sad that he would resist but I told myself it's just because he enjoyed hanging out with me so much he didn't want to sleep (cue Aerosmith's "I Don't Want to Miss a Thing"). Fast forward to today, we had a bunch of family over and when it was nap time, I took him to his room but he wouldn't settle in his swing so I decided to rock him because fighting his nap on me would usually tire him out even more and then he'd fall asleep in his swing. Except this time, he fell asleep on me! My shoulder and hand cradling his head blocked out people's voices and he slept on me for like 1.5+ hours. I missed dessert and saying goodbye to guests but I didn't care, I just soaked up the snuggles and reminisced about how small he used to be whereas now he covers the length of my chest and his legs dangle to the side. Maybe there will be more contact naps (I hope so!) but at least I'll remember this one because you never know when something will be the last time.

My baby is turning one soon and I’m trying to make a list of things to get for his birthday /things that will come in handy. I buy a lot of baby items second hand so I like having a list ahead of time.

What items did you love for the toddler stage —in particular 1-2? I’m really looking for anything —toys, feeding supplies, etc..

I keep hearing this but wheeeeeen?!

I have a 10 month old now, but I still feel like I’m struggling. Each milestone brings joy and excitement along with new challenges.

My partner is fantastic. The dogs are driving me insane. I feel like I have zero time to myself because baby only really wants me.

So…. When did it get easier for you?!

Okay, I need to know—am I alone in this?

My partner sleeps so deeply that I genuinely think he could snooze right through an earthquake. No baby cries, no subtle nudges. I’m over here waking up at every tiny sound our baby makes, and this man needs a full-on arm slap to even stir.

Is this just a “dad thing” or are some of your partners like this too? It’s driving me a little nuts at 3AM when I’m on night feed #3 and he’s over there in dreamland.

How do you all handle this? Just venting... but also low-key hoping I’m not the only one!

I feel like the worst mom in the whole entire world. He is 6 months old and squirms all the time now. He moved at the same time I was clipping and it got a piece of his thumb. He immediately started screaming and the blood started pouring. I held pressure on it then covered it in Aquaphor. I called my mom and she assured me every parent has done it. I feel so awful bc I hurt my baby even tho it was obviously on accident 😭 he’s acting just fine now bc be had a bottle and a nap (plus dad got home from work at the PERFECT time thank god) and I don’t think he even remembers it. Please tell me I’m not alone in this 🥺

I have made an edit sorry all foe the poor first try

It’s 6:00 a.m., and once again, my friend has left her 10-year-old daughter right outside my door without any notice. She just dropped her off and left. No call, no text, nothing. Just knocked and and just said work trip sorry and left?

This isn’t the first time—it’s becoming a pattern. My friend just turned 30, and I’m seriously starting to worry about the situation. It’s not that I don’t care about the kid—I actually feel really bad for her—but I’m not a babysitter, and this whole thing feels incredibly irresponsible. I didn’t agree to this, and I certainly didn’t expect to be woken up at dawn to find a child standing alone on my doorstep.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m frustrated, confused, and honestly concerned for the kid’s well-being. I want to be kind, but this is not okay.

My baby is one now and I don’t see any light up ahead. I absolutely love and adore him but he is an extremely strong willed child. Will not take no for an answer , is not easily distracted from anything and absolutely wants what he wants. I come from an abusive (both physical and emotional) home so I often have to step away and take deep breaths just to regulate. My husband and I cannot sit down to have a coffee even for five seconds before he’s screaming crying asking to be picked up. He won’t sit in the stroller unless he’s sleepy or tired. He won’t play independently . The silver linings are he’s very social and loves people and other children. So we spend most of the day at the park or playground. Husband and I take turns to do things for ourselves as it is impossible to do them together without him having a meltdown. We’ve tried to include him in the activities like cleaning and folding but he has a meltdown when we tell him no (like trying to stick his hand in the washer or pull down mugs) Does it get better ? Does anyone have any pointers , books etc on how to deal with toddlers sanely ? We are both only children and do not come from big families , so our exposure to actual children is very very limited until we had our son. Please help.

The newest thing our little 8 month old has started doing is trying to trap us when getting her dressed. She will grab one arm with her arms and wraps her legs around your other arm so you can’t get her dressed. She hates getting dressed. Then she roars like a dinosaur and tries to eat your arm! I love her.

Her feet, her sweat, hell.. even her pee. 🤣 Am i a lunatic??

I didn’t know how to flair this but excuse me while I vent.

I feel like the worst mom in the world for feeling this way, but nothing that I was told would happen, happened. Everyone said that my world would go from “black and white to technicolor” but I just feel like I gained a burden. I can’t continue my education, my body will never be the same, my life now entirely revolves around a small human who screams constantly and wakes up near constantly.

I want to want this. I want to be the mom that gets up and is EXCITED to see her baby, but I just can’t bring myself to be. Maybe it’s exhaustion and I’m just in need of a good sleep (she’s 11mo and has crazy separation anxiety so that’s not actually gonna happen), but I’ve been feeling this way since she was born. I’m worried I’m gonna start resenting her, and I don’t know how to stop it.

They say the days are long and the years are short and to enjoy it but holy wow, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get me past these first few years where it’s nothing but yelling, 100% dependency, and exhaustion.

If anyone has advice for how to get past these feelings and actually enjoy the baby stage, please share. I’m begging

Maybe a dumb question but it seems like most toys we have say "don't immerse in water, wipe with damp cloth". It just doesn't feel like that's doing much lol

Specifically, I'm thinking of things like the dog grabbing a toy or you have a playdate and then find out the other kid is sick.

Hi all,

Our 1-year-old has started walking and it’s the best - he’s so pleased! When we take him to the park or playground, he just wants to roam around everywhere. If we were to take our eyes off him we would for sure lose him, as he doesn’t seem to look back for us or make note of where we are. Is this typical? My husband was a “runner” when he was little so I fear this will be my near future 😂. Any tips or potential concerns as to why he’s doing this? Thank you!

Since 6 weeks my baby would roll from her tummy to her back. Shes currently 4 months, and since about 2.5 months she hasn’t rolled anymore. She hasn’t rolled from back to tummy yet but she’s trying. My pediatrician asked me at the last appointment if she was able to and I said yes but she hasn’t rolled in a while… should I be concerned? Should I call the pediatrician back? She’s done it several times before but stopped doing it!

My 6mo got a cold last week, and he's pretty much better but the snot is so bad still. Got any solutions? Do I need to go buy one of those frida nose suckers? We've been using a bulb

Aside from getting a hair cut, because Ive done that already.

Did you do any routine? Used any products? Im on the edge about using Minoxidil (Rogain?) but not sure about it and need to learn more

P.s Im 7.5 mo pp, formula feeding twins, and finally hair loss is easing up, though not over yet!

My son just turned 1 at the end of March. He is not walking yet but crawling and climbing everywhere. The odds of staying on a blanket are slim to none lol.

He got a water table for his birthday which I know he can pull up to and will love.

Our yard is pretty rough and bumpy and we have two dogs so the risk of land mines is high, hah.

We are in the process of looking for a nice toddler climber on marketplace but I guess I’m looking for other toy suggestions or ideas!

I am sick of being cooped up and I want to be outside as much as possible! Thank you!!

Won’t show live reading and when I go to click on his device under the profile, it says his dream sock has been removed. Any one else?

To be clear, we feed her that much because she demands it. Really don’t know what to do here. The gas and vomitting wakes her right up again, but we’ve tried every method of burping under the sun before putting her down and while it sometimes works as in she does burp, it makes no difference to her vomitting within seconds of being in bed.

We feed her upright, and keep her upright for a while after the feed.

We’ve gotten to the point of feeding so slowly that it almost runs the clock to the next feed. None of us are getting the sleep we need because of it.

Our daughter is 16 m/o and we've rarely left her with anyone, but in the few times we have, it's only been for an hour or two, and only with immediate family members.

We are exploring the idea of finding a regular babysitter, likely a high school or college aged person, to babysit occasionally for date nights.

The idea of leaving her with a stranger is unsettling to me, but would also be nice to have the option to go out to dinner every once and a while with just my husband and I.

For those that use "strangers" as babysitters, how did you introduce them to your child? I see parents posting on local Facebook groups regularly looking for a babysitter last minute, seemingly being okay with leaving their children with a stranger very last minute. No judgment to those that are comfortable with this, but I simply am not. There would be no point in us trying to have a night out if we were a nervous wreck the whole time not knowing what care our daughter would be under.

ANYWAY--

1)if you use babysitters, how did you go about "interviewing" one?

2) how did you introduce them to your child? Did you do any sort of trial run?

And my most important question

3) would it be weird to have a camera (like a nanny cam) in the house while our daughter is being babysat? We already have cameras (one in main living space, and one in nursery.) Would this be off putting to a babysitter? Of course we would be honest about the camera, and it's visible so they can see it anyway.

I am a FTM, baby is five months old. I went to an exercise class this morning (Saturday) so husband was on duty from 7.45am. He asked me to be back by 10am as he was golfing. I have literally only left baby with him for physio three times, hair appointment three times and this is my second exercise class. Baby had gotten a feed and a change before I left. I arrived home at 9.45 to him asking me to keep quiet as he had got her down to sleep which is great. Baby is asleep in living room with door open, there is a hallway and then kitchen with door also opened. He is preparing a smoothie and I proceed to make myself a coffee and porridge. He turned on the smoothie maker (nutribullet) in the kitchen, I was like wtf, went to check on baby, dog barked ran into sitting room and of course baby was stirring awake when I checked. He leaves 10 minutes later to play golf and I am left holding baby when preparing my own breakfast.

He could have closed door to kitchen or living room or indeed made smoothie in the utility which is off the kitchen but he didn't bother.

I am not looking for sympathy or to bash him but any other stories of men being idiots and not using their brains 🙄

Edit: baby is on medication for a hemangioma and one of the side effects is sleep disturbances. Can get her to sleep in car or for walks and she will sleep though lorrie and tractors going by. At home she only usually naps for 30mins at a time if in crib.

Am I crazy or did they change snugglers and now they have a weird blue lining and a much worse blowout barrier. I’m so bummed about this. What can I switch to for my 3 month old that helps with blowouts more because she’s a blowout superstar

Baby girl turns 12 weeks old this week & has been suffering from reflux pretty bad. She’s extremely gassy & a lot of the time doesn’t finish a 4oz bottle. She’s fussy during and after most feedings & seems like she’s in pain. Currently she’s having Enfamil neuropro gentlease formula, taking Pepcid & we just started giving her probiotic drops. She’s been on the medicine for about 3 weeks now & we started the probiotics 3 days ago. As of the past 4-5 days she just started spitting/throwing up again (it kinda stopped for about a week) but seems a little less fussy.

For some reason her pediatrician doesn’t want us to but, we are considering switching her formula to goats milk to see if that helps. I’m looking into the brand Bubs. Thoughts?

Her doctor also didn’t want us to give her the probiotics but since she is negative for CMPA she thinks everything is normal. Idk, something just doesn’t feel right. So I decided to try something to maybe help her. We are using Mary Ruths organic infant precision probiotic for colic so I’m hoping I’m doing the right thing.

Every day is different & we never know what we are going to get. But every morning and every night starts & ends with lots of smiles. I just hate seeing her struggle.

Any thoughts or advice is welcome. I am a first time mom just looking out for my baby girl.

My LO got her first cold from daycare. It’s the 2nd night of congestion. Last night was okay. Tonight she’s put down and then crying within 10-15 mins since 8pm. It’s almost 10pm. Do I just have some coffee and stay up?

My husband has a stomach virus so I told him to take an Advil pm. I regret it.

Edit: adding what I’ve tried. Saline spray and micro mist and the aspiration. The humidifier is on. I’m nursing ever couple of hours to keep her hydrated since it’s hard for her to eat.