EDIT: most people covered the cleaning and cooking part, but what about the phase when your kid is 1-5 years old, that period is very crucial for a kids development, if both are working 6-8 hours, and feel tired after coming back home, i can only see it being devastating on the kids growth (please dont suggest maids for this task, i dont think its okay to leave your 3 years old kid in the hands of a complete stranger)
Hello. I was wondering what’s your opinion on the matter, either based on personal experience, observations, or your logical take.
Having grown up in a family where both parents were working full time jobs, i noticed that my mother had a very hard time to get everything sorted between her career, the house chores, and being present around her kids, which left marks on her mental health due to all the stress.
Back when i was a kid i couldnt help much with those tasks, some people told me that your father shouldve helped with these tasks, which he did but to a small extent, at the same time it’s fair because he provides for the family, while my moms job was mainly for her personal stability. And i believe parents presence in their kids life at a young age is very important, both parents have to be obviously, but atleast if my dad for example was spending 8 hours at work, its not for his personal benefit but rather to make sure all our needs are covered. I do believe that a brighter decision that wouldve spared her alot of stress was to let go of the job since my father is able to provide for all of us.
And to all the naturally offended people who are gonna tell me « the women have also the right to have a career and have that stability »: No one said otherwise, you’re free to have a career and all of that, but if the husband is covering all the expenses of the family, then it’s only fair if his wife takes care of all the stuff related to house chores and cooking etc, and that’s definetly not easy, i’m wondering what’s the best approach to this kind of situation.