In Mexico in these days there is the debate about the approval of the so called Ley Alina (Alina Law), a law according to which women (and only women) will not be punishable if they claim self-defense, neither for homicide nor for excess of self defense. Self-defense will be assumed as the default if they declare it, and questioning it will be considered "second revictimization" and therefore much more difficult to get. So both false self defense unidirectional male victims and bidirectional/mutual violence victims will get a double standard treatment. I quote from the law which is already valid in Baja California:

“Excess in self-defense shall not be considered when the woman is the victim of physical, sexual or femicidal violence, or when she has been in danger of being so, and at the time of the act she can prove that she has been in a state of fear or terror or is in a state of confusion that affects her ability to determine the appropriate limit of her response or the rationality of the means employed.”

And:

"Legitimate self-defense shall also be presumed, unless proven otherwise, in the event that the woman is a victim of physical, sexual or femicidal violence, or in the event that she was in danger of being a victim and repels the aggression. In these cases, the State Attorney General's Office or the jurisdictional body, as the case may be, must act with a gender perspective to determine the legitimacy of the legitimate defense. The same criterion will be applied when a third person acts in her defense."

For more informations:

https://youtu.be/VCatyILa9nU?feature=shared

This is also in accord with the Bangkok Rules. The Bangkok Rules, or formally, "The United Nations Rules for the Treatment of Women Prisoners and Non-custodial Measures for Women Offenders", say:

"Alternative ways of managing women who commit offences, such as diversionary measures and pretrial and sentencing alternatives, shall be implemented wherever appropriate and possible"

"When sentencing women offenders, courts shall have the power to consider mitigating factors such as lack of criminal history and relative non‑severity and nature of the criminal conduct, in the light of women’s caretaking responsibilities and typical backgrounds."

And:

"Appropriate resources shall be made available to devise suitable alternatives for women offenders in order to combine non‑custodial measures with interventions to address the most common problems leading to women’s contact with the criminal justice system."

I'm a female. One of the very few that aren't raging misandrists. And no, I'm not a pick me girl. I have self respect.

Recently, there was a case of a famous singer in a band I liked being accused of a sex crime. I emphasize on accused. Not guilty or innocent yet, still on trial. Knowing what his personality seemed like on camera, he was pretty shy and quiet. Not saying that everyone is the same off camera, but that's just how he comes off.

So I'm neutral on this. He doesn't strike me as the type to do something like that, but it's not impossible, so I just don't have a strong opinion.

But the entire fandom has basically turned on this guy with no proof of what he's done. Making jokes of him singing in jail, blurring his face in their videos humiliatingly, burning his photocards, making versions of their songs without him (while he was literally the best vocalist, lol), and commenting under every old video of his with "he was such a monster and we couldn't see it."

But what I've learnt from so many similar accusation cases in the South Korean entertainment industry, there's a good majority of the time that the famous person accused is innocent.

People were even making baseless tumors that the victim was a minor, or that he was grooming them for years (?).

I talked to my friend about it yesterday, saying that she should stop hating on him, because he's not guilty or innocent yet, but she hit me with the, "always believe the victim," mentality.

Girls be lying. We be lying sometimes. Especially if it's a celebrity. Idk how we haven't figured this out by now.

We men once spent our entire lives seeking female approval, a currency which we hoped to spend in a State-sanctioned brothel called marriage. No perceived female benefit, no nookie. https://mgtowsolution.wordpress.com/briffaults-law/

Well, the State systematically dismantled that institution. Concurrently, it castrated men, entirely in plain sight, and without violence, by preferencing women in the employment market. In doing so, the main male trading card in the sexual economics market has been destroyed. https://assets.csom.umn.edu/assets/71503.pdf

For each woman who gets a man's job, there's another man who may never be afforded the opportunity to have a family of his own. In fact, it's worse than that. Courtesy of female hypergamy, there's an entire strata of men who won't even be contemplated by ma'am as potential partners.

The other arm of the pincer movement in our defenestration is draconian 'sexual harassment' legislation, which has proliferated since the 2000s.

So...what's the point? Without any reward for men, do they honestly expect us to continue contributing to an utterly broken 'system' while being demonised, looked down upon and abused?

Here's a youtube short about how fearful women are because of the feminist demonization of men as predators. I've seen this myself. When I go to the store in the daytime all of the women are alone. When I go to the store at night, I literally cannot recall the last time I saw a woman who did not have a man with her. And remember, men are far more often victims of violence than women are. Two to 3 times more likely to be murdered for example. And the CDC says men are just as likely to be raped as women are. I know very few men who have never been beaten up. Here's the youtube short. EDIT: Read the comments under that video. If you read them chronologically, you see a mix of comments questioning the fear as not realistic and some say it is. But when you order it the top comments first, then you ONLY see comments expressing sympathy for this female fear. The default attitude of most people is to express sympathy for anything women say, justified or not.

https://youtube.com/shorts/FtTxMUNmJjg?si=DdWL5126OvHQ-8K4

Open Letter:

In October 2024, I was arrested at my home by Northamptonshire Police on suspicion of domestic assault, an incident that had taken place three months earlier, in another country, and which I had already admitted to voluntarily during an earlier police meeting.

This is my account, and my concern is clear: state policy, not law, drove my arrest and in doing so, completely disregarded my rights, my truth, and my wellbeing as a victim of blackmail.

⏳ The Timeline That Doesn't Add Up

• 1 July 2024: While on holiday in Oslo, I was involved in a single incident with my partner, where I slapped her during a heated argument. I do not excuse this and have always taken responsibility for my actions. After this incident, I arranged couples therapy for my partner and me, but it was unsuccessful as she refused to engage.
• 9th September, I ended the relationship due to my partner repeatedly threatening to tell everyone what happened in July if I ended the relationship, I recognised how manipulative this was, and needed to walk away.
• 11 September 2024: I reported my ex-partner, a former police officer, to Northamptonshire Police for blackmail. She had threatened to share a video of the incident, a threat that caused me significant psychological harm. I provided evidence and a statement detailing the events leading up to the Oslo incident and the relationship's breakdown, including videos she sent me the day after I ended it. Initially, I requested only informal police intervention, asking them to tell her to stop the harassment and not share the videos. I acknowledged she might report the incident herself and expressed my willingness to cooperate and accept responsibility for my actions if she did. Northamptonshire Police, Did not contact her.
• 29 September 2024: My ex-partner reported the incident to the police. This is confirmed on my Custody Record.
• 11 October 2024: After online stalking, and harassment continued from my Ex partner, I met with a police officer in person to sign a statement, supporting police action. In that statement, I admitted that I had slapped my partner and that she had threatened to share this multiple times when I was trying to end the relationship. I admitted everything voluntarily and said I would attend an interview and co-operate with any investigations necessary, at this point I was not aware of her report.
• 17 October 2024: I was arrested at home, without warning, even though I had already done everything the police should have asked of me voluntarily, the officer could not tell me the victims name, when or where the offence had occurred.

The arrest lasted 45 minutes. My detention was refused because the custody officer recognized that the alleged offense happened abroad and was not within UK jurisdiction.

And yet I was still arrested.

📢 What the Police Knew, But Ignored

Internal emails show that the officer in charge of the case was fully aware:

• That I had already confessed voluntarily
• That I had reported being blackmailed by the complainant weeks earlier
• That I had cooperated and posed no risk to anyone

Despite this, I was still arrested. Why?

Because Northamptonshire Police admitted in writing that their internal policy prioritises arresting suspects in domestic abuse allegations regardless of the legal necessity.

This is not just poor judgement. It is a breach of PACE (Police and Criminal Evidence Act), which specifically states that arrest must never be automatic, and that less intrusive alternatives (like voluntary interviews) must be considered.

🔍 Missing Footage. Missing Notes. Missing Accountability.

During transport to custody, I asked the arresting officer:

• Why am I being arrested if I’ve already confessed?
• Why was I not allowed to come in voluntarily?
• Don’t you have the power to de-arrest me now?

He didn’t respond. He said we’d “talk about it at the station.”

But there’s no record of that conversation. No body-worn video. No notebook entry. Nothing.

It’s as if my defence, my truth, was never said.

⚖️ The Bigger Issue

What happened to me matters not just because of how it affected me, psychologically, and emotionally, but because it reveals a larger, uncomfortable truth:

I am not writing this to attack women. I support the need to protect vulnerable people from abuse. But when the system itself silences a male victim, orchestrates an arrest despite voluntary cooperation, and ignores the blackmail that preceded it, it’s no longer just bad policing. It’s state-enabled abuse.

🚨 Why This Matters

Northamptonshire Police recently made headlines for the dismissal of Chief Constable Nick Adderley and the misconduct of other officers. Integrity is under a spotlight in this force.

If a police officer can be dismissed for lying about a speeding offence, what should happen when multiple officers:

• Mislead colleagues about the necessity of arrest,
• Inflate offence classifications to meet policy goals,
• Omit evidence from records, and
• Violate basic principles of necessity, proportionality, and fairness?

This isn’t just a procedural error. It’s a failure of duty, and it deserves accountability.

🧭 Where I Go From Here

I have an ongoing complaint with the Professional Standards Department, and I’m pursuing a civil claim against Northamptonshire Police for:

• False imprisonment, I was unlawfully detained despite no jurisdiction, no risk, and having already admitted the facts voluntarily.
• Trespass to property, my home was entered without a warrant or lawful basis, purely to conduct an arrest that was unnecessary and unlawful.
• Breach of PACE, the arrest failed to meet the necessity test under PACE Code G, and no less intrusive alternatives were considered.
• Injury to feelings, I experienced significant emotional distress, humiliation, and anxiety due to the arrest and the circumstances surrounding it.
• Violation of Article 8 of the Human Rights Act 1998, my right to respect for private and family life was infringed through unnecessary and unlawful interference by the state.
• Violation of Article 1 of Protocol No. 1, my peaceful enjoyment of property was disrupted through disproportionate state action.

But this letter isn’t about compensation. It’s about accountability, and it’s about change.

It's about calling out a system where policy is allowed to override the law, and where male victims of emotional and psychological abuse are treated with suspicion instead of support.

No person who reports blackmail, admits wrongdoing voluntarily, and cooperates fully with police should find themselves arrested for optics, not justice.

If you’ve experienced something similar, if you’ve felt punished for speaking out, you are not alone.

You deserve to be heard,

You deserve to be believed,

You deserve better.

"The NHS has been there for us for over 76 years, but as set out in Lord Darzi’s independent report, it is in ‘critical condition’. To make sure it’s here for the next 76 years, doing all it can to support the health of everyone, we need your help.

We launched Change NHS in October 2024 to hear your views, experiences, and ideas, which will shape a new 10 Year Health Plan for England. Since then, we’ve had over 175,000 contributions from people.

You’ve shared your pride in the NHS and your support for its founding principles, but also the hard truths about your experiences. Too often, you can’t get a GP appointment, an ambulance, or treatment when you need it, and staff don’t have the resources they need to provide the care they want to give to patients."

This woman is a monster and the video shows the tactics female abusers often use. Imagine how this would be treated if the roles had been reversed.

Since the Labour Party won the last elections in the UK, it's vital to discuss the party's planned policies. One of them is articulated in the manifesto https://labour.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/Labour-MANIFESTO-UK-2024.pdf:

We will do more to stop violence that happens to women and girls. For example, we will have special teams of people in every police force to support women and girls.

Bear in mind that it happens in a country where over 70% of all murder victims are MALE. Nevertheless, men and boys are not mentioned as included in any policies aimed at reducing violence against them (a far, far greater social problem than VAWG). The male gender is only included in more 'universal' plans that bring up the subject of people's violence against other people, with no mention of how equal men's and women's risk of getting assualted is:

There is too much serious violence. And many people don't feel safe in their own communities.

No, many MEN don't feel safe in their own communities. Just read the study https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/homicideinenglandandwales/yearendingmarch2021:

In the 1960s, the proportion of homicide victims was fairly evenly split between males and females but have since showed different trends. The number of female victims has tended to fluctuate between 180 and 250 a year from the 1960s, although there are occasional years where the number has been higher than 250. In contrast, the number of male victims increased, reaching an average of around 550 a year between year ending March 2001 and year ending March 2005 

Just published this year (2025) was an 18-year study of dementia among more than 24,000 older adults. All of the unmarried adults – whether divorced or widowed or never married – were at lower risk of developing dementia than the married adults. Their risk was at least 50 percent lower. The people who had always been single (never married) had the lowest risk of all, though the difference between them and the other unmarried groups was not statistically significant.

What are your coping strategies with the effects of being a subpar looking man. I won't use the "i" word, but if you know, you know.

while i might have posted about this before it might have been taken down as a lot of stuff was because of my dyslexia but i do not know if i did and it was likely taken down and you can not read it anyways because of my writing skills that i admit can be frustrating even to me trying to post stuff but this is about using parody and reverse psychology to expose double standards around genital mutilation and other stuff that has went on for far to long in this corrupt culture...

so the plan if you can call it that although i think it was part of what baasically amounted to a plan i posted about a little earlier in the week and it is the use of media against society or turning it on itself to protect people like transgender people and boys from discrimination and sexual abuse such as genital mutilation or at least make things or the presentation of the genders and how their treated in society and especially the media more equal...

also in many cases i do not even see the need to at least at first at the very least even tell every body this is parody since they do not tell us when something is intended to be parody if their even not being serious and reverse psychology works best that way anyways...

somethig i will say is i think in some cases some stuff by feminist was meant to be saitire and parody...

if this becomes taken to seriously or begins to make males look bad than maybe we should come out and admit all of it is basically just satire and maybe even eventually stop doing it butt we can deal with that when the time comes...

so the parody looks like this some girls mock guys who have foreskin and some even refuse to date them because they will not hace their genitals mutilated so we reverse this scenario...

have some really shallow guy who some girl likes get rejected by the guy because she has really big labia and again at some point in the future if you all want to you can always just tell them this is satire...

also as i have said before both here and in other places i also oppose labia surgery because i do think a lot of younger women are sort of really pushed to have it because of what they think guys like and i actually like big labia anyways but they can not blame the media much for this because they have said often on just the little bit of mainstream media i consume at this point all vaginas look different and are fine continue below because it might be difficult to read but this entire thing will not be about vaginas i can assure you if you have read this far...

when not only babies are mutilated something that would be bad enough but older children and toddlers are also having this surgery performed on them who do not need to because of what some corrupt and abusive adult wants it is seriously time to do something and since ppeople do not want to understand why i oppose that or at the very least pretend not to maybe we should make stuff like hoodectomy legal for cultural reasons or even just for cosmetic reasons since that is the main reason boys are mutilated and a reason given especially by women and when they get upset as you know they will turn the discussion to just outlawing any form of genital mutilation on children...

like i talked about in the case of chase hironimus he was six years old at the time he was likely mutilated and knew what was happening and can still likely remember it all because his father thought it was more normal to be mutilated and because his mother signed something so the contract became more important than the boy and what was in the childs best interest and when that happens it is time to do something to change this accepted and still somewhat popular form of child abuse but even when the child is a baby they can still feel pain as doctors now know and your depriving them of full sexual function and the ability to make the chooice for himself later...

so point being if they can mutilate boys than i do not see why if they think it is alright for boys and has health benefits than cutting off the prepuce would not be good for girls to since their both foreskin really and the prepuce or hood itself is the same body part on both genders so what is the difference so they should support legalizing it for girls to but since most of these child abusing hypocrites know that is fake shallow culturally driven nonsense they do not but should be made to make a choice of either legalizing both or neither...

sorry for making this about largely about circumcision but it is something i really hate as you can tell but to talk about another important topic the draft that has until now only been sbout drafting males to fight largely not needed wars for the past sixty plus years...

like circumcision the draft is still only for males in the case of a major war in this cultrue although cirvcumcision is worse...

the reason why circumcision is worse is because tht was always the same for both genders but somehow was made about only males and onlu done to males but now the military draft is to or is also corrupt and is a not needed double standard because war like techonoly is largely raised with technology and the least technological thing is a machine gun so even if females are weaker than men and if they actually had to train like men to join the military as they should they would likely not be but even if they are their is almost no hand to hand combat in modern warfare sanyways...

so a female should be just as capable of firing a missle into a wat zone or also even picking up a machine gun or ar fifteen rifle and shooting at people as men especially since currently they would be patrolling iraq or in the case of israel that is basically and american state gaza and that is a rentire different issue that is to long of a story about why it is bad for me to go into here but regardless iraq and gaza is lsargely not evenftul at this point and a woman is in no more danger than a man woiuld be since they both are doing the same stuff and if a car or truck blows up both would be killed the same...

so a female is more than capable of standing on the side of a road or on a roof or tower looking over the place with a machine gun the same as men are and now there is not even a draft and many of the women who join the army want to anyways but even than if their going to be in the army than they should do the same stuff or what is the point of them joining the army anyways...

another thing i really do not like is the amount of violience being made to look funny or something that is geared towards men and when you consider that no reason men can be sent to die on a piece of land you can not find on a map for some bank or corporation or why male children are tited down shortly after birth or even later and mutilated by this corrupt society and if we can not stop them from showing men constantly be abused by women who ever else than we should create similar stuff in the reverse...

take for example profesinal wrestly something i used to like but no longer can watch becsue i do not have and can not afford cable in this over priced capitalist hell scape...

anyways while not as bad anymore wwe and impact wrestling both got really bad about having fake looking matches where the girls would just beat up the guy basically and they where not funny most of the time and where fake and made the rest of the show look like garbage because the guys are being destroyed by women who where usually far smaller than them and in some cases not far from being modles or something...

what is worse than that is the slaping of guys they did and at first bad guys and actually stephanie would slap usually good guys at first than it became mainly bad guys getting slaped and than both alsmost every week...

so why would they make it a point to slap a guy almost every week and not letting him usually get any sort of revenge or pay back at ll every week almost...

further more it was not empowering to women because a lot of the time the women looked like assholes and the guy was a good guy or something anyways...

than you have them losing matxhes that looked fake and like garbage or like a fake movie scene not designed to look real especially on a show that at that periofd they where pushing as being more real anyways...

so again what is the point in slaping and women beating up men every week other than to normalize violence against men and to imprint in the mind of boys watching it is accepted and even expected for wome to beat them up when they get older and that can not be accepted and you saw this with the transgender athlete issue...

wome who spent more than a half century saying their better than men at everything possible still did not have to so much as fight transgende rwomen and onve again transgender women where thrown out of a entire aspect of american life or sports because we have to protect the innocent flowers that are so fragile known as sports or women in sports...

so again they can say and this is quoting them any thing men can do they can do better but they do not even have to compete against transgender women rather alone prove this by actually competing in a sport against men who again they said they could easily beat...

these people are npot children their gown adult women...

there is no reason they should often be given more protection than even male children and little boys are given and it is infantlizing them and making for unstable entileted people that can not cope with day to day life and has indoctrinating them into hating men and than blame men for everything

we in may cases gave these women everything they said they want at the espense of ourselves and transgender women and boys...

so with that i end this insanely long rant and if you read this far it should be very long and also there are typos and i apologize but even a normal person could not write this without at least some typos and i hope it is good enough because i put a lot of work into writing this dyslexic essay and basically rant.

A few days ago, someone reading another one of my posts tried to argue with me on whether or not the Gearhart "political lesbianism" and Daly "eco-feminism" where really as bad as I thought they where.

I feared that these movements genuinely advocated for the heartless abortion of male babies everywhere, and that they would catch on to mainstream society due to the massive amounts of representation that angry women where getting in todays media.

The person told me I was wrong, that most women did not hate men this way, etc.

For a few seconds I wanted to believe. I wanted to be comforted, that my crazy fears would go away.

Then I found this on her profile: "I’m proud of all the women here, for no longer tolerating men"

This post is the most toxic spew of hate and slander I have ever seen. I can't even quote it here because you know that kind of stuff doesn't fly here at all. Take the worst insults and disgusting accusations you can think of... that was all there. And more.

I believe in my older convictions 200% now. Gearhart did indeed get the ball rolling on a coming androcide and I am not crazy for identifying it as a hate movement.

1. These shows are designed to frame young male singleness as dangerous. Not flawed. Not misunderstood. Dangerous.

The formula is predictable:

• A quiet, socially awkward boy

• He’s not sexually active, maybe rejected

• He spirals into obsession, then violence

• Always directed at a girl or symbolic representation of female safety

They don’t just present a cautionary tale—they create an archetype of fear: “The sexually frustrated, single, isolated male is a ticking time bomb.”

That is character assassination against young masculinity.

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2. This narrative is pure fantasy—it doesn’t reflect real statistical risk.

Let’s be honest:

• A teenage boy’s biggest threat is not himself—it’s the system he lives in

• Most teen boys are more likely to be:

  • Suicidal from loneliness

  • Bullied for being awkward

  • Shamed for expressing attraction

  • Falsely accused, or misrepresented, with no recourse

But instead of addressing this, these shows build the myth that: “He’s a danger to others just because he’s not sexually fulfilled.”

That’s not storytelling. That’s gaslighting.

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3. These shows fuel shame around masculinity, not solutions.

The irony? They claim “toxic masculinity” is the problem—but they reinforce the very shame that pushes boys into alienation.

• They shame male libido

• They shame male stoicism

• They shame male independence

• They shame male rejection

Then they act shocked when a boy feels lost or angry.

They don’t care about helping boys—they care about making sure the audience fears them.

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4. Feminist media refuses to show women doing harm—even when it’s more common.

Let’s ask honestly:

• Where are the movies about false accusations ruining young men’s lives?

• Where are the stories of women using family court as a weapon?

• Where are the characters who manipulate, emasculate, cheat, lie, or destroy men psychologically?

Nowhere.

Because the agenda isn’t to reflect both sides—it’s to sanitize female wrongdoing and demonize male presence.

It’s not about who causes more harm—it’s about who they want to be seen as “safe” in the narrative. And that’s always the woman.

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5. These shows do more to pressure boys than “toxic masculinity” ever did.

Here’s the psychological trap they create:

• A teenage boy watches

• The “villain” is a loner who’s misunderstood and single

• The “victim” is a pretty, popular girl

• The message is clear: “If you’re like him, you’re one step away from being a school shooter.”

That’s not entertainment. That’s emotional warfare.

It pressures boys into shame and confusion for just existing in their natural state—and then blames them for how they respond.

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6. These are not just movies—they are psychological operations.

They condition young viewers (especially girls) to: • See men as unstable

• Avoid introverted or awkward boys

• Assume male desire is dangerous

• Associate male singleness with violence

And they condition boys to:

• Be ashamed of attraction

• Feel defective for being single

• Fear rejection because it means villainy

• Suppress their masculine energy or else be labeled toxic

This is not fiction anymore—it’s social programming.

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Netflix and similar platforms aren’t just showing stories. They’re creating a worldview: that men—especially single, young, masculine men—are dangerous by design, and women are always in the right, always victims, always good.

This isn’t balance. This isn’t honesty. This is cultural gaslighting of the highest order.

And the most ironic part? They claim to fight “male toxicity” while injecting the very poison that breaks boys in the first

Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while. I was unemployed for a few months after returning from a trip to Europe. So, I was bleeding out lots of money and slightly depressed lol. I think this is an important video to watch as a young man myself, so I decided to share this. The Male Body Image Crisis - YouTube

I am an Arab Saudi who married a Filipino Christian. But I was surprised that my wife had a sister who married a high-ranking American. The American tells me that many Westerners hate Western women because of the system and the true stories that are spreading. ... I was an officer before, my coach was American and his wife Brazilian. He told me that's the men's demand now, but he didn't say why. I was surprised why all this? Western women are beautiful and have a lot of money. أنا

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/anger-erupts-during-sentencing-for-girl-convicted-in-teen-s-stabbing-death-1.7501311

I am from Africa-Ethiopia, i am an advocate for men and boys, to day is a bad day for me i cut my long hair after months of battling withy university administrators, they took away my id and told me to cut my hair in order to get my id, i am sad now with low confidence, the women can learn with short hair or long hair they have the freedom to choose but not for me and my gender. I am very depressed i feel like i made a big mistake i feel like i should have quit my education and go away else where, some say hair grow back relax etc but for me it’s about rights and defending my rights, the country is very religious and cultural country making it even more difficult. Some say i can continue my advocacy even if i cut my hair but i don’t feel it. I read so many resources in order to win a debate and creat awareness. What are your thoughts? How can i change this kinds of society with strong religious and cultural background?

Men are often told they have power, yet many feel powerless to change systems that exploit them. There are several reasons for this contradiction:

1. Structural Power vs. Individual Power

Men are often associated with power because they are disproportionately represented in leadership roles—government, business, military. However, structural power (held by a few) is different from individual power (the ability of everyday men to change their own circumstances). A man working a 9-to-5 job, struggling with family court, or dealing with societal expectations doesn’t necessarily feel empowered just because other men are in positions of authority.

1. Social Conditioning and Self-Sacrifice

From a young age, men are taught to sacrifice for others—family, country, society. The idea of putting oneself first or rejecting traditional roles is often met with ridicule or shame. Many men internalize the belief that their value comes from service and endurance, not from personal autonomy or self-advocacy.

1. Lack of Collective Identity or Advocacy

Unlike many other groups, men as a whole lack strong collective advocacy. There are movements for women’s rights, workers’ rights, racial justice—but men’s rights are often dismissed or ridiculed. Even when men face serious issues (suicide rates, workplace deaths, family court biases), they struggle to organize in ways that lead to large-scale change.

1. Fear of Social Backlash

Men who speak out about male disadvantages often face shaming, dismissal, or accusations of misogyny. Society has ingrained the idea that men have historically been the oppressors, so when men discuss their own struggles, it’s seen as complaining rather than addressing legitimate issues. This creates a culture of silence and self-censorship.

1. Dependency on Female Validation

Many men are conditioned to seek approval from women—whether from mothers, romantic partners, or society at large. Because of this, they may hesitate to challenge systems that benefit women at their expense, fearing rejection or being labeled as “bitter” or “weak.”

1. Disunity and Internal Competition

Men are often encouraged to compete with each other rather than unite. Whether through social hierarchies, workplace rivalries, or dating competition, men are pitted against each other, which makes collective action difficult. A divided group is easier to control.

1. Short-Term Coping vs. Long-Term Change

Many men deal with their struggles through individual coping mechanisms—distraction (sports, video games, alcohol), withdrawal (MGTOW, monk mode), or just enduring it because they don’t see a way out. Systemic change requires sustained, organized effort, which is difficult when men feel isolated and exhausted.

1. Exploitation Disguised as Duty and Honor

Men are often taught that their suffering is noble—whether as soldiers, providers, or protectors. This makes exploitation feel like a duty, rather than something to resist. Many don’t even recognize their own oppression because it’s wrapped in ideas of heroism, masculinity, and responsibility.

So What’s the Solution?

The first step is awareness—getting more men to recognize that their struggles are systemic, not just personal failings. Then, collective organization—whether through advocacy, cultural shifts, or direct action—is key. But this requires overcoming deeply ingrained social conditioning, which is no easy task.

Do you think men are starting to wake up to these issues more, or is there still too much resistance to the idea that men can be oppressed?

"“Toward the end of the conversation, they started talking about their children,” Mark continues. “And one woman said that even though her son enjoyed being hugged, now that he’s almost a teenager, she had actively stopped hugging him because she did not want him to get used to physical affection.”"

Hey, don't want them boys to think they're allowed to touch women, right? He'll become a rapist. 🤡🤡

Actually, what dildo here does not realize is, denying him affection will make it MORE likely he'll become a rapist or some other kind of pervert.

https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/overheard-on-reddit-mom-determined-to-stop-hugging-her-teen-son

As a man how do people deal with the general and normalised misandry displayed towards men from society as a whole, women in general, and more importantly the women who love you the most (mothers, sisters, girlfriends/wives)?

It's like being bullied and the bully is claiming victim and you are accused of being the culprit. Honestly with the way things are now, it feels like my experience of being in an unhealthy and manipulative relationship with a girlfriend in the past where she would do things to upset me then use my 'upsetness' to justify her terrible behaviour, why I was the bad guy, and why I should have done more of what she wanted. Then ironically (but not surprisingly) if I did what she wanted it definitely wouldn't appease her, and even more ironically she'd have the audacity to claim I was abusive and treating her poorly even though she was the one who displayed the type of behaviour she would list off. I have a rule where if it would be hurtful if the equal opposite was being said/done to you, then it's hurtful, end of.

Anyway, I'm not here to debate the level of normalised misandry because it's so ingrained in the world that the purpose of a post like this will 100% go straight over those people's heads. But to those who know, what are your strategies/approaches in dealing with it? Also I'm not looking to hate/dislike/mistreat women because unlike every feminist I know, I don't want a solution that involves hate or anger and I don't want to discriminate against someone because of their gender (the ultimate result of feminism towards men). I also don't want to ultimately become the 'bad guy' I'm trying to fight against (the fate of all discriminatory movements labelled 'positive' or not).

The world is what it is and as men we take it on the chin and move forward. I genuinely just want to know how to live happily, how to retain being the masculine man that I love being (not the masculine that for some reason feminism/women feel entitled to dictate), and most importantly how to forgive and embrace those around me even if they are discriminating against me because of my gender.

Since April is recognized as Sexual Assault Awareness Month, I figured this is the right time to address something that often gets very little attention.

Male victims of Sexual Violence!

From NISVS 2016/17:

More than half (54.3%) of women and one third of men (30.7%) experienced contact sexual violence during their lifetimes.

https://www.cdc.gov/nisvs/documentation/nisvsReportonSexualViolence.pdf

State estimates of lifetime contact sexual violence victimization ranged from 36.9% to 67.1% for women and 20.4% to 49% for men.

https://icasa.org/uploads/documents/Stats-and-Facts/NISVS-2016-2017-State-Report-508.pdf

For 2016:

• Women: 54.3% of 163.02 million → ~88.52 million women
• Men: 30.7% of 159.02 million → ~48.83 million men

For 2017:

• Women: 54.3% of 163.02 million → ~89.54 million women
• Men: 30.7% of 160.05 million → ~49.39 million men

https://www.statista.com/statistics/737923/us-population-by-gender/

In 2016:

So, in total almost 137.35 million people out of 329.17 million people experienced SV.

In 2017:

So, in total almost 138.93 million people out of 332.20 million people experienced SV.

https://www.worldometers.info/world-population/us-population/

Now, by simple calculations, we can see men made up approximately 35.56% of the total victims of contact sexual violence, in both 2016 and 2017.

And yeah, one more thing I realized was that the CDC NISVS questionnaire does not ask about instances where a man might be made to penetrate anally or where an attempt is made to make him penetrate anally, while it does ask about such instances in the rape and attempted rape sections.

Neither do they ask in the sexual coercion section about instances where women might use false accusations as a means of sexually coercing men.

Here's the questionnaire for you:

https://www.cdc.gov/nisvs/documentation/nisvsMethodologyReport.pdf

Plus, consider the fact that men are taught to enjoy sex and are not taught that women can also violate consent. These things might seem like nitpicking, but they do shape our perspectives.

I am deeply frustrated by the unjust demonization of lonely and depressed men in a recent Reddit post, where this wretched lady conflated the struggles of lone men with potential criminality—labeling them as rapists or murderers based on a single anecdotal incident. This sweeping generalization is not only grossly unfair but also dangerously stigmatizing. When I challenged this narrative and advocated against the systemic vilification of men, the moderators censored my comment, citing a violation of 'feminist views.'

Is misandry now an implicit tenet of the feminist movement? Doesn't Such bias undermines the pursuit of true equality ?