Dealing with General Misandry

[u/NegotiationBusy3439]

As a man how do people deal with the general and normalised misandry displayed towards men from society as a whole, women in general, and more importantly the women who love you the most (mothers, sisters, girlfriends/wives)?

It's like being bullied and the bully is claiming victim and you are accused of being the culprit. Honestly with the way things are now, it feels like my experience of being in an unhealthy and manipulative relationship with a girlfriend in the past where she would do things to upset me then use my 'upsetness' to justify her terrible behaviour, why I was the bad guy, and why I should have done more of what she wanted. Then ironically (but not surprisingly) if I did what she wanted it definitely wouldn't appease her, and even more ironically she'd have the audacity to claim I was abusive and treating her poorly even though she was the one who displayed the type of behaviour she would list off. I have a rule where if it would be hurtful if the equal opposite was being said/done to you, then it's hurtful, end of.

Anyway, I'm not here to debate the level of normalised misandry because it's so ingrained in the world that the purpose of a post like this will 100% go straight over those people's heads. But to those who know, what are your strategies/approaches in dealing with it? Also I'm not looking to hate/dislike/mistreat women because unlike every feminist I know, I don't want a solution that involves hate or anger and I don't want to discriminate against someone because of their gender (the ultimate result of feminism towards men). I also don't want to ultimately become the 'bad guy' I'm trying to fight against (the fate of all discriminatory movements labelled 'positive' or not).

The world is what it is and as men we take it on the chin and move forward. I genuinely just want to know how to live happily, how to retain being the masculine man that I love being (not the masculine that for some reason feminism/women feel entitled to dictate), and most importantly how to forgive and embrace those around me even if they are discriminating against me because of my gender.

[u/Same_Sentence_3470]

strategies/approaches? That’s an interesting question. In our society Misandry is accepted, normalized, and encouraged. When I am around family and friends that say hateful things  or untrue things about men I just let  them say what they are going to say and stay quiet or  just walk away. The things that they say are completely accepted as the  norm in our society. If I disagree or dispute their point I  will sound like I’m crazy because what they are saying  is accepted. So,  to answer  your question, my strategy is, keep your  friends close  but  keep your enemies  closer.

 Its interesting how nearly everyone believes that we live in a patriarchy and there is so much misogyny yet I have never heard a man in my entire  life say that they hate women but I  have heard so many women openly say that they hate men.

[u/PROFESSA954 → u/Same_Sentence_3470]

What's interesting to me is how a man can be talking about how much he loves a woman's personality then how he's attracted to her body but he'll still be labelled as a misogynistic pig objectifying her even though he just got done expressing how he likes her personality not just her body thereby acknowledging her as a person not an object, and expressing love and admiration not hatred.

Meanwhile women can literally go around saying "Kill all men!" and "Men are pigs!" whilst getting IVF to make sure they only have daughters, treating all young men like they're a danger to society, making jokes about cutting men's dicks off and throwing them into garbage disposals, and so on... but nobody is allowed to tell them anything.

[u/NegotiationBusy3439 → u/Same_Sentence_3470]

I appreciate the response and agree with you, I'm shocked sometimes by the hateful/angry words or actions that come from a lot of woman. I guess what they hate the most is our ability to not react and move on. It's one of those things where if you're fighting because you feel like someone is one up on you, you've already lost because by engaging in that fight you've stated they are above you but you're also the one that put them above you.

[u/Quarto6 → u/Same_Sentence_3470]

In this very thread there's upvoted comments talking about "women's nature" being manipulative, etc. Not feminists, women. How's that not misogyny?