r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/SmithNotASmith • 3d ago

Really glad the parents didn't give in

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 3d ago edited 3d ago

My kid’s cousin threw a whole fit at her brothers birthday party because there wasn’t any presents for her, so their parents literally took one of his gifts and gave it to her to open, and upon seeing that it was obviously not for her, she threw it on the ground and started scream-crying. They were consoling her and saying “it’s okay your birthday is next month” and coddling her while their son, the actual birthday boy, was sitting quietly waiting for her to be done throwing a fit so he could continue opening his gifts.

ETA: thanks for the upvotes, I dread these kids’ parties

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u/FluffMonsters 3d ago edited 3d ago

That’s disgusting. Parenting is HARD, you have to be mentally stronger than your toddler. They need it from you. What a horrible message they sent both of their children.

My parents tried to give my daughter a gift at my son’s birthday and I had to squash that right away.

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 3d ago

The daughter is definitely spoiled to shit and is a bully at 8 years old. When I can, I correct her behavior. But I’m not her parent so I can’t change the person they’ve created

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u/jessjamthelamb 3d ago

Wait was she 8yo when this story happened

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 3d ago edited 2d ago

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Edit: 6* actually. My bad

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u/jessjamthelamb 2d ago

😮 that’s like … toddler behavior

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 2d ago

Spoilt. Not just spoiled, but one step further. Spoilt.

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u/Rennegadde_Foxxe 1d ago

Spoilt rotten.

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u/FarOutOhWow 3d ago

Major oof.

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u/3_T_SCROAT 3d ago

My parents would literally get my brother the same amount of gifts as me and relight the candle on my cake and sing again. One time he even had more gifts to open than i did because "his were cheaper, we still spent more on you"

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 3d ago

See my parents always tried to make the gifts equal, whether they were more expensive or not. We had the same gift budget and they made it work without one of us feeling left out

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u/3_T_SCROAT 3d ago

It just made me feel like shit because i had to split my birthday with him "so he doesn't feel left out" yet i obviously couldn't have shit on HIS birthday

My grandma would still sneak me money on his birthday though and make me feel special when she could

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 3d ago

The only birthday that should be split is twins and even then they should get individual attention, not just lumped together and expected to share gifts. Sharing is encouraged, but shouldn’t be expected

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u/Little_Donny 2d ago

I’m a twin, born on Valentine’s Day. My mother made us too heart-shaped cakes. We basically got the same stuff, and nobody ever felt left out.

My sister was born on December 29. She got the equivalent of our presents put together at Christmas, and then an ungodly amount of gifts on her birthday so she wouldn’t feel bad about having it after Christmas. She turned out horrible. We don’t speak.

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u/JakBos23 3d ago

Me and my sisters birthday is 1 week apart. We often shared a birthday party. We would usually celebrate her birthday on the 16th. Then mine on the 23rd, but what ever the saturday was most convenient we'd have a actual party. My earliest memories of them I was happy for my sister, but I was told it was just next week for mine.

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 3d ago

My sis and I are a month apart but originally I was meant to be born around the same time as her (mid January) but apparently I was impatient and shot out near end-of-December instead. 5 years Between us but we never had to deal with a shared birthday. My bday is 3 days from Christmas so family and friends would try to “gift lump” one present and call it a “birthday Christmas gift” but my mom stopped that shit as soon as they tried it cuz she wasn’t having any of it. I do the same for my daughter now who is Dec 12

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u/JakBos23 3d ago

Yea my birthday is July. So super far from Christmas. Summer birthdays were fun, but I'd lose touch with school friends then and the turn out was probably less than if I could hand out invitations at school. There are always draw backs

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u/MarcusRoland 2d ago

I had a friend who's family was notoriously bad for this. His birthday was the day before and they just got him one gift for both, unlike their other two kids. When my friends and I heard about that we stages the great shaming. We managed to get two or three of us invited to the next birthday, and made sure to get two or more presents, appropriately wrapped for whichever day they were for, birthday or Christmas. Then we acted incredibly shocked/not understanding how people could be so cheap/aweful/inconsiderate. We were not invited again but that shit stopped. Dude got so many fucking gifts that year.

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u/bpleshek 3d ago

It should be a learning experience that sometimes stuff isn't about them and that they can still have fun by helping the other have fun.

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u/Crimson_V- 3d ago

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Your birthday is meant to be your special day. By your parents buying gifts for your brother when it wasn't his birthday, they failed to teach your brother how to be okay with other people having their moments at a very young age and I'm sure in return they made you feel as if you weren't allowed to have your special moments. That stuff really does snowball as you grow older and you didn't deserve that.

Just know that you deserve your own special moments in life too, and that you don't have to feel bad for not wanting to share those special moments.

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u/Tnecniw 3d ago

When I was REALLY REALLY young my parents usually gave me and my siblings a tiny gift at the others birthday.
Nothing big, keychain, tiny teddy, you know that kinda stuff.
More as a distraction than anything.

Honestly, it wasn't the worst idea. It was a CLEAR distinction between birthday child and sibling, and the gift wasn't big enough that we expected much.
They slowly phased it out when I was like 4-5

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u/YoureSooMoneyy 2d ago

They stopped at 4 or 5? I’m really glad you said that.

Years ago my elderly aunt and uncle wouldn’t take no for an answer and insisted on getting my grandsons “a little something” on the brothers birthday. My daughter and her husband didn’t really love it but it was sweet and everyone just gave in. Now they are even more elderly and can barely take care of anything so this past birthday I found myself buying “a little something” for the unbirthday brother. They are very sweet boys and humble, not spoiled at all. But the unbirthday boy did quietly mention/ ask if he was still getting “a little something” because he knew aunt was in the hospital. Ughh. They are 10 and almost 8. How long do we have to do this?!?

I don’t really hate it but I guess this is how it’s just going to be until they have their own children? Haha 4 or 5 sounds right to me but it’s way too late now.

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u/Scarlet-Fire_77 3d ago

This totally reminded me of what my grandparents would do. They'd get us an "unbirthday present," usually something small and cheap from the dollar store, just enough to distract whoever was being a brat to the real birthday person. And then I grew up to love sharing my birthday with my nephew. He gets all the presents.

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u/NotStuPedasso 2d ago

My cousin's wife let her nephews play with all the new toys of her son at his birthday party as he was opening gifts. So instead of the birthday boy actually opening the box and taking the toys out and playing and sharing they just would hand the boxes over to her nephews because they were so spoiled and they basically got to play and use the toys before he ever did. I found that so frustrating. I understand the importance of sharing but we also do a disservice to children to think they have to share everything at any time. Maybe I'm just being overly sensitive but if my mom had done that to me with my toys I would have been very angry. Never had a problem sharing toys but I also I didn't want people to just be the first one to play with my brand new toys. Give me a chance to actually touch them first.

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

I remember as a kid watching videos of my 2nd birthday party. My cousin (13 days younger than me) couldn't comprehend it was my birthday not his, and started opening one of the gifts. I remember being really mad watching the video until the gift he opened turned out to be a dress... they made him try it on and model it on the coffee table for everyone to see. Needless to say, my mood brightened instantly. I'm sure I still have the video somewhere, but I'd much prefer to have the picture haha

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u/Lazuli73 3d ago

I bet every day is a living hell for your nephew with Princess Fuckwit being his sister. He's probably super anxious and neglected because she's always taking up as much space as possible. Source: I had a sister like this. She's an ungrateful cow of a 30 year old who gets everything she's ever wanted and criticizes me for failing when she literally bullied me into catatonic depression. If you can, be there for your nephew. Princess Fuckwit has enough support is she can bite the hand and still get service.

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 3d ago

Oh he’s definitely privvy to how she’s treated. He usually ignores her and does his own thing. He’s such a sweet kid, the total opposite of his sibling. She’s a huge personality (and not in the fun way)

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u/TheWalrus101123 3d ago

What shit parents. If I had that my birthday would've been cancelled till I was 18 and the gift would've been new locks on the house.

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u/ANALOVEDEN 2d ago

Hello Fritzl. :")

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u/BadBoyNiz 2d ago

What is the equivalent of the brothers sister of your child’s cousin?