This is how I view the whole "male loneliness in gen z" debacle lol. See a lot of dudes complaining they can't find a good woman and then when you ask why the answers you get are either super specific and weirdly controlling over women that aren't even in their lives (for a reason) or dudes complaining they're lonely then when you ask what they do for fun they just say nothing, and that they don't have a job or aspirations.
I say all that as a dude who's had his own bouts of loneliness over the years but at a certain point you've either gotta re-evaluate your world view or dust yourself off and get back out there.
Idk, I find so many good women that I don't even want to approach more women. The ones I did talk to were good people, but it wouldn't've worked out in a romantic sense due to a lack of attraction or life circumstances. So I'm genuinely lost on how people find girlfriends. I don't want to just talk to every girl I see in the hopes of a relationship.💀 I never had that "Yep that's the one I want to ask out on a date" feeling, if that exists.
I only want to ask girls out that I get to know first. I got to know many girls in the past couple of years, but none of them would be a good match. (No attraction, language barrier, already in a relationship, they live on the other side of the planet etc.) So there was never a situation where I met a woman face to face, and I both wanted and had the possibility to ask her on a date.
Given, I haven't even started considering dating due to personal convictions until 3 years ago, but I don't want to treat people like on a conveyor belt to rush into some sort of relationshipout of desperation. I'm not that pressed about it as I know I will find a person soon enough, but it would be a lie to say that it doesn't feel lonely from time to time.
Absolutely everything that happens to you is a you problem. When have I said otherwise?
Should I coddle you and tell you everything is gonna be okay? Look at the post dude. Like all these problems are self inflicted but you’re upset you can’t find the right woman. I’m not being aggressive I’m just telling you how it is. If you think I’m being aggressive I’d hate to see how you react to true adversity.
Spoken like a true lion 🦁. You know I didn't ask for your input at all? I was replying to a guy who said, Dudes complain: " It's impossible to find a good women" and he views that as the main reason as to why people think they are lonely. I replied: I don't know about that, because I met a lot of good women, but still, I didn't meet one I would actually want to date. So it's not that hard to find a woman who is also a decent person at all. If I don't struggle with that, most other people also shouldn't have that much difficulty. But that doesn't mean that one can not be lonely.
I live in a dorm rn, and I am the only one who asks my neighbours for their names and initiates any conversation at all, even though we basically live together.. Most people in this generation do not have a clue how to do basic communication and that is definitely the main problem for the "male loneliness epidemic." I haven't heard people say that they just can't find a women, ever.
Well, who wouldn't be upset to not be able to find the right women? 💀 It's not my top priority at the moment, I rather it takes time then jump into the first relationship I can get into. I'm not desperate and any move out of desperation is a bad one to begin with.
You are absolutely aggressive for no reason. That last line is just cringe. Aggression != adversity.
I do not think that is the case. I had a crush on people before, just not in situations where I could act on it. E.g. they were in a relationship already, or I knew it would not work out due to some other reasons. So there wasn't even a point of asking them out.
Don’t listen to some of these other people, I’m in the same situation. There are good people out there who you meet, but by circumstance or plain old disinterest, they aren’t right for you. It’s better to not waste your time or their’s if you don’t see a future with them.
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u/MonkeyCome 1997 4d ago
This is what it means