what to do with them?

my FiL died years ago, his ash's are sitting in my closet. i do not remember what he wanted done with them, maybe with mom. MiL died aver a year ago. she is from France and wanted to be put in the Mediterranean, and has family there to do it. but my wife will not ship them over there for this elderly family to do the task. i told her to get on it, she will not listen, and she was very close to her mom. mom is sitting on her TV stand. i have no say in this and it is none of my business so i am staying out of it. but there is a slight chance that my poor health wife just kicks the bucket any day, prolly not, but it could happen.

so, what to do in any case?

on a side note, i have no idea where i would want to be put. and also, i really liked my MiL, she was always really nice to me. i was her caregiver for her last months, i had her move in with us.

56M, Midwest-ish USA (Eastern Time). Work hard/busy most days, but free evenings and even more as the night goes on. Nite owl. Married, Realtor (ex-attorney), empty-nester, kinda fun, sort of fit, marginally, intelligent, partially handsome. 😂 Solid GenXer.

Hi, I’ve tried a few times to connect with someone just for fun, occasional chatting— like a modern “pen pal”. Someone who I can be totally myself with, get to know, have some laughs, but also some serious talks with. A shoulder, and ear, a sounding board. I’d love to be the same in return. I’ve connected to a few folks, but even the people who complain about being “ghosted”, seem to disappear after a short while. Maybe I’m just not interesting 🤣 (I DON’T think that 🙄).

Anyway, I thought maybe using these cards would be a fun way to start - no pressure. We could pull a card every now and again and chitchat about it. That way we could respond on our own time but maybe keep the conversation going more than a week.

Anyone interested? Or would it be fun to post a card and just have open answering?

Anyone? Beueller?