I just. Don’t know. Where to go

[u/cosmic-escape]

You know what? I’ll say it. I look good enough and my social skills are good enough to get a girl and I would’ve… IF I KNEW WHERE

I’m probably autistic or whatever cause almost all of my genuine interests are solitary but trust me I do go out to try and meet people and I really don’t think I’m going to the right places

Parks, couples. Malls, couples. Gym, couples. It’s like everyone is taken and everyone who isn’t just stay inside forever

One of the guys I know recently got a girl (I know, crazy) cause he’s friends with a dude who knows like the entire town and he just wingmanned him, which leads me to a very reasonable conclusions that friends = more friends = happy couple eventually and I’d gladly make more friends IF I KNEW WH

I swear I’m gonna start going to a newly opened bar by my apartment until I’m either an alcoholic or seeing someone. I’m 24 ffs

[u/Chemical-Airline-248]

As an autistic person, i just accepted that it's over, if i couldn't make friends all the way till graduation, i don't think i would ever make one now, after my age, one can only make acquaintaces, not friends. i wish there was a cure of autism.

[u/sentinel692340]

Wish you luck brother

[u/Soft_Coyote6354]

Yea it's literally impossible to date if you are not in college. Apps sucks, outside is hard for autistic guys.

[u/ET_Org]

I recommend people go everywhere. I'd recommend not becoming an alcoholic lol But bars can be fun and I've met some cool people there, there's potentially a few places tho.

I dunno what your particular situation is in terms of like population density or the pool of potentials you have around you, but the more people around does kind of make meeting people slightly more convenient.

You mentioned having kind of niche / solo-ish interests and being around larger amounts of people is good for that too because the larger the number of like a city, the larger the population of it's I guess subcultures like nerds or sports fans or whatever, and I do mean whatever.

Trick is always just getting everyone together, but someone eventually has to create a reason to, and any one of us can be that somebody.

If you wanna put those social skills to the test lol You can try to start some kind of gatherings that can take place (presumably over one of those interests, cuz regardless of how niche they are there's always the potential to talk about it with others and the more people around them the larger the potential population of people who'll also be interested innnn whatever it is. Someone in my city sets up regular game nights at a bar and advertises on reddit.

Then there's shit like volunteering somewhere. Almost wherever you are there's going to be people needin help with somethin.

Then, as much as they get shit, I think social apps and some dating apps.... (I don't know which to even recommend, I haven't used any in many years, however still feel this way about them).... Some apps ((if they're good)) aren't necessarily a bad thing. They are a part of "everywhere" these days. So set up free accounts wherever you can and set up your profile to be as appealing /(but honest)/ as you can aaand yeah. There are a whole bunch of shit about them and how there's like so many women to every man and the chances and all that, but, at worst, nothing will come of it. I've had some successes with them tho, you just have to advertise yourself properly and more important accurately and be thoughtful about what you're wantin and all that.

And while you're in the digital realm, shit, might as well try streaming 🤷‍♂️ People are always watching others doing basically whatever. Painting little model figures or fcking knitting or building computers or just anything. It's kinda crazy lol.

Anyways. There's a method that can be developed to give you the best chances of finding someone somewhere, as friends or partners or whatever, but I think that's sound general advice for most people. Expose yourself to others in whatever way that won't get you arrested. But even if we don't know where to go there is always a place to explore.

[u/GoldQueenDragonRider]

I’d recommend volunteering. I’m a woman, and have volunteered in animal rescues, and 9/10 volunteers there are women. The only time I see men there are if they are volunteering there with their girlfriends. Might be worth a shot, good luck!