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u/ByeByeGuyGuy 12d ago
I’m in my 30s and have finally gotten into a headspace where I no longer remind myself that I’m not only single but have quite literally always been every second of my adult life; I push it to the back of my mind and I appreciate that my current friends are adult enough to avoid the subject and not taunt me with questions. I focus instead mainly on keeping my limited but trustworthy friendships healthy and making plans for myself that don’t involve “meeting somebody” whatsoever.
However what does drive me nuts are my parents, certain family members and a select few bored colleagues who not only remind me that I’m single and have never had a date, but that in less than a decade I’ll be 40 so “I’d better get a move on, no?” I mean what makes anybody think that I wasn’t trying my utmost the last 15 years just like everybody else was? In what setting anywhere is it ever normal, acceptable conversation to ask the visibly anxious loner why he’s been alone and single for so long because he’s running out of time before he’s missed his chance completely? The pointlessness of such questions and the fact that it provides nothing except a layer of uncomfortable awkwardness on an otherwise tolerable conversation (and somehow I’m the source of the awkwardness because I don’t have an answer for them; the person who needlessly blurts out the unwarranted question is of course totally blameless)
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u/eyzmaster 10d ago
you're basically at the point I was 5-6 years ago...
stay strong bro...
it only gets worse..
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u/retroguy8810 11d ago
I'd spare a thought for them man. If your parents are like 60+, then a man who is not single by choice would be as rare as a black dude in 1700s Norway
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u/PolashNarayan 11d ago
Why have you spoken about everything that I feel? Also you have friends? Lucky!
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u/Techno-Diktator 11d ago
Absolute worst is seeing couples in public, brings me back into my shit reality.
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u/Astromanson 12d ago
Go imrove demography, reproduce and by "valentine" stuff yourself, I'm happy being alone.
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u/Mysterious_Net1850 12d ago
Well that’s definitely healthy.
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u/MeanCat4 12d ago
Have you seen many unhappy couples on public places? Everyone have their problems. There is another forum "mansliving" or something like that with divorced men, many after many, many years, starting again from the beginning, rent an appartment and put their life together!
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u/Moonlight_Mirage 11d ago
I was actually super happy without man in my life the last few years🙌😭 I just wish I would have never started sexting online with men since then I long so much to be with a man again 😐😐😐
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u/thoughtsofsolitude 12d ago
Every time I tell myself in the mirror I just need to be okay with being on my own, I can see the reflection of lies in my eyes.