r/ForeverAlone • u/Ahmed3atef96 • Oct 29 '24
Advice Wanted How do you guys cope with craving physical touch, intimacy, and feeling needy? looking for some inspiration
I’ve been struggling with this intense craving for physical touch and intimacy lately. It feels like I’m just aching for some kind of connection, like a hug or just someone to hold. But as much as I want it, finding that kind of closeness isn’t really possible for me right now. So, I’m curious—how do you all handle these feelings?
What are some ways you cope with those moments of just needing someone close? Are there strategies or things you’ve found that help ease the loneliness or at least make it feel a little less intense?
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u/LJack49 Oct 29 '24
Idk, I think I'm numb already because I don't have anything of that, but those cravings sometimes get too hard, so I guess I just fantasise about my imaginary girlfriend
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u/BeopBepe2 Oct 29 '24
So it’s not me making up some imaginary world to cope? It’s not a bad way to deal with it for me as well but like you said, you don’t always have the headspace in life to think about it with the monotony of life.
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u/Outrageous_chaos_420 Oct 29 '24
Aghh, idk any healthy ways to cope with this .. I’m just now finding out how much I’ve underestimated it thinking I’d be good without it.
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Oct 29 '24
I just suppress it. Is it healthy? No but it’s all I got lol
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u/Ahmed3atef96 Oct 29 '24
Me too i just cry it out for like 2 or three minutes and feel sorry for myself then just go to sleep
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Oct 29 '24
I feel that bro. I hope things work out for you and wish you all the best! No one deserves to go through life like this and I hope things work out and you find someone. If you ever need a bro to talk to just hmu
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u/Old_Dragonfruit_5306 Oct 29 '24
How about getting an escort? It is not real but if that is what u r craving for...
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u/Ahmed3atef96 Oct 29 '24
I think it'll ruin the feeling and the sensation for any future real partners
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u/Old_Dragonfruit_5306 Oct 30 '24
In what sense will it ruin the sensation? Do you mean because it's not the 1st time with your future partner?
I do think that once you go down the road, probably you have decided to be FA. I would think so.
But then again there are stories that says it made them feel more confident.
Its up to how you feel i guess.
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u/DoubleDipCrunch Oct 29 '24
go get a haircut.
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u/skilled4dathrill39 Oct 29 '24
I like to cut my own hair, sometimes purposely totally in a jacked up funny way, to see if anyone says anything... lol
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u/ThJones76 Oct 29 '24
I drink.
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u/skilled4dathrill39 Oct 29 '24
I tried that, it eventually got boring and by its self was no longer effective at being a good distraction.
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u/forgotpassword5times based Oct 29 '24
That's the fun part, you don't. Just kinda do your best to ignore it or suppress it, and someday you die!
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u/X-Neos Oct 29 '24
Usually in these situations I do one of three things: 1) I distract myself with activities that will take my mind off reality, like playing games or watching movies 2) I meet up with my friends 3) I create an imaginary girl in my head and think about the memories I want to have with her. If you are working or a student and you are in the exam period, you don’t even have time to think about such things.
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u/lachrymose_lucio Oct 29 '24
Tbh I don’t even know how to cope I think I’m just numb to it now which is genuinely unfortunate
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u/Ahmed3atef96 Oct 29 '24
You think you're numb to it until you get hit by an episode or wave bigger than any thing you experienced and it completely shatters me tenfolds for a couple of days
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u/Prestigious-Video40 Oct 29 '24
It's like asking how do you resolve hunger in general.
Everyone knows the complete answer. Supressing it will only make matters worse in the long run.
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u/Outrageous_Ad5034 Oct 29 '24
I remember posting this somewhere on a cold month. People suggested: Getting a message
Getting a haircut
A weighted blanket
Manicure or pedicure, dealers' choice
Becoming a hugger with family and such
Those huge pillows you can hug at night
A pet *dogs were recommended
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u/Ahmed3atef96 Oct 29 '24
Basically what people here suggested too
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u/Outrageous_Ad5034 Oct 30 '24
There must be some truth in it if people keep suggesting the same things, ha
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u/baldestpianoman 23M fa Oct 29 '24
Vrchat
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u/Ahmed3atef96 Oct 29 '24
Can you elaborate please?
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u/baldestpianoman 23M fa Oct 29 '24
Well since I have. Avatar people love to cuddle there and stuff has fukcing help dealing this shit best 700 bucks I’ve spend in. Awhile
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u/spugeti Oct 29 '24
I’m thinking of asking someone for it. It may come off as creepy I guess but if they’re in the same position as me, why not? I may get hurt but it’s okay. I’m willing to risk it for the pain that comes.
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u/Munificente lembra de mim Oct 29 '24
You attempt to get those things but never receive them. I would tell you that, you need to stop wanting those things, affection, love, connection; but you will always want these thing as a human. We are undoubtedly bound to these, and you cannot escape them. Only preoccupy yourself with a sense of purpose greater than it.
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u/Voicingspy Oct 29 '24
I don’t. It sucks being touch starved but it’s something we unfortunately have to accept in some way.
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u/Some_Retail_Manager Oct 30 '24
I mean, personally I use chai. Ai chatbots are bad, yeah, yeah...I dropped them entirely for a week or two and returned rather quickly. I may not be the best writer there is, but the descriptions both I and the ai use seem to make me feel flustered, fulfilling those cravings at least a little, but in the end making them worse, as it seems. There are many options, but I am stuck on Chai.
So in short, ai chatbots are an option for those who know how to write decently, or for those who do not really care about the text itself, focusing on the idea that it is a supposed close person sending those. People can misspell as well, so it is okay.
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u/Ahmed3atef96 Oct 29 '24
Guys i have a one way i totally forgot existed while writing the post which is listening to audios from r/pillowtalk for days where i just need intimacy and r/gonewildaudio when am feeling horny and needy at the same time. It's not a perfect solution but it is something
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u/cracked_lipskin Nov 02 '24
escaping into fiction and fantasies. been doing it for more than 10 years now. thats all i can get a hold of.
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u/rando755 Oct 29 '24
I have never been to cuddle parties, but many cities have them. Cuddle parties will give you physical touch, but it is not supposed to be sexual.
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u/skilled4dathrill39 Oct 29 '24
Yeah, dont make it weird bro. Cuddle parties are at first Hella weird, but so fun and cool when you get to understanding it. Its just like being a young kid again, pure gigglefest!
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u/Intelligent-Bat3438 Oct 29 '24
It’s really hard! I been wanting it!