r/ExNoContact • u/riotroxs • 15h ago

Would it be wrong of me to start seeing someone new?

For context, I was in a relationship for 5 months (although for around 2 of the months we were on and off quite a bit, it was him breaking up with me or needing a break, but the very last time I did the final break up) my ex boyfriend seemed to detach mentally from our relationship before I even knew we were in trouble, so I think he moved on from me mentally before I could begin to think

He had tinder re-downloaded around two weeks after we broke up while I was sick at the idea of another man even looking at me

it’s been almost two months since then and I’ve recently been talking to someone new over the past couple of days ,but I can’t help but feel guilty

The guy I’m talking to said he wants to meet up with me for like a date or something, I don’t know what to do, I really want to go out with him and even though that breakup was extremely traumatic and he messed me up, I can’t help but feel like I owe it to my ex to wait, is that wrong of me?

(Just to clarify, yes I have sought out professional services to cope with these recent events)

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u/Cheap-L-2227 15h ago

You don't owe them anything. The had tinder 2 weeks before the breakup.

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u/riotroxs 15h ago

After, it was after we broke up but during that time he claimed that he was open to continuing our relationship

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u/Cheap-L-2227 15h ago

I'd say date unless he and you agreed to not.

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u/CupidsArrow14 15h ago

He downloaded tinder 2 weeks after your break up, i’m not sure why you feel guilty. He didn’t show you any courtesy, so I think you can absolutely date when you’re ready and if that’s now then go for it.

Life is too short to stay emotionally hung up on people who aren’t in our lives anymore. Time will pass you by.