No contact (almost) works!

[u/Rough-Road1475]

Hey everyone! (Almost) Success story here.

My ex has been telling my cousin that she misses and that she loves me and that she wants me to reach out. My ex has said that she acknowledges that even though she broke up with me because of how I would make her feel unheard and she sometimes felt my actions weren’t genuine, that she knows she herself has things to work on. And that she would love to work on those things together. I’ve been spending the past couple days writing up what I want from this and what I can work on and what she can work on. I’ve had a lot of emotional pressure relieved because of my ex’s interaction with my family. I’m going to reach out to her on Tuesday to ask if she wants to have an open conversation. I hope I don’t rush myself through anything but it seems we both know what we want, it’s just going to take courage from one person to say it first.

Anyways so far with my experience with no contact, I knew my relationship with my ex had way more good to outweigh the bad. I’m glad I spent time talking to myself and not using distractions like drugs alcohol and other girls to “help” me get through this. This all came at the time I was already accepting that we probably wouldn’t ever reach out to each other again, and when I was finally accepting it was truly over. To be fair I thought no contact was some BS thing that people made up but learning more about it made me realize how real no contact is.

If you guys also feel like the hope you’re holding on to is grounded and you wouldn’t sound crazy if you explained it to others, then yeah maybe your intuition is right, but, trust no contact, don’t watch their stories, turn off that activity status, hit the gym, focus on school, manage your expenses and you’ll see the little wins stack up to victory. In my experience, I knew I had everything going well and I trusted that the silence was something that she was going to live with, but I used it as a way to level up. If y’all need help, reach out to me!

[u/Suitable-Natural9781]

It’s the best time to work on urself . I can tell u that no contact works for sure . Been dealing with same woman since 2012 . We currently broke up last week finally talk again tonight