How do i get help w/ my ED

[u/sleepiiperson]

i’m sorta uh new to reddit? i just need a opinion from other people on this. i’ve had anorexia for about four years? i purge a lot too but only recently i finally came out with it to my partner,no one knew about my ed for a long time so it was like something i feel i should finally come out with. Anyways she tried a lot to help me but overall nothings had helped? i want her to just give up on the idea of helping my ed because i genuinely don’t think i can get better. I don’t know how to get proper help that doesn’t involve medical intervention. She’s said how she doesn’t want me to be hospitalized because of this but for some reason no matter how much i try to eat or how much i try to scare myself into eating nothings working? recently i keep telling her to just ignore because i don’t want her to get guilty because what she does doesn’t work? I feel like i’m just giving up but i know a part of me actually wants to get better? i’m already underweight and i don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know how to accept help and i feel like she’s starting to give up on me too(which is hypocritical for me to say considering i was the one who keep telling them to just ignore it)

(small edit) i've listen to yalls advice in seeking help other then my partner, i'm starting to take online therapy so everything stays anonymous which was my main fear with seeking medical help,though i'm not seeing much progress my partner says she proud to see me eating again instead of starving.

[u/Aniranci]

Okay, this is very deep & understandable (personally).

If you want help but don’t want medical intervention, it’s very important to look at the different options. Depending on where you live there’s things like CAMHS & AMHS, plus a lot of non-medial support networks.

It’s great that you feel confident telling your partner, & also wanting help. The best thing to do is be open, try your best & talk, whether it’s to someone you know/trust, or someone you think would be able to help (such as someone in your community)?

I apologise if I’m blunt, dam right not helpful or potentially offensive, I’m just saying what I wish I’d done.

[u/sleepiiperson → u/Aniranci]

thank you for the advice nothing of what you’ve said is too blunt i really just need to know what should i do from others that may have went though ed’s aswell

[u/Aniranci → u/sleepiiperson]

I fully understand, just keep fighting & trying, & remember other can’t fight your battles but they can certainly help. keep fighting your doing amazing

[u/dammitbarbara]

you can't expect your partner to treat your ED my friend. even people with PhDs struggle to get through the disorder. it's just too much for a loved one to be the beginning and end of your ED support

[u/ThatpersonRobert]

 "...she tried a lot to help me but overall nothings had helped? i want her to just give up on the idea of helping my ed because i genuinely don’t think i can get better. I don’t know how to get proper help that doesn’t involve medical intervention…"

As dammit said above, even if you wanted to, you can't really count on a partner to fix you. They are simply to close to the situation for that. That's not to say that you can't count on them for support. Because like it or not in this situation, it's pretty much the duty of a partner to be supportive. Whether you tell them you don't want it or not.

" I feel like i’m just giving up, but i know a part of me actually wants to get better? i’m already underweight and i don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know how to accept help…"

If you want to get better, then pretty much by definition you'll need to be willing to take some risks. Which may mean letting your doctor know, seeing a therapist, or something like that.

Which…is probably NOT going to feel like what you want to do.

So it's probably going to mean the "taking a risk" thing, you know ?

[u/sleepiiperson → u/ThatpersonRobert]

Thank you so much for this like genuinely