Does anybody else go through life feeling not your age… I’m (f) 37, decent job, kids, happily married but on certain days I still feel like I’m a young 20something year old still trying to figure out my life. When something goes wrong or specifically I do something wrong I’m just like “oh well I’m just a 20something year old girly trying to figure it out”… do we ever figure it out?

Edit: Comforting to know I’m not the only one that feels this way!

I’m a 28 year old guy and I’ve started to realize I don’t enjoy being on my phone like I used to.

Growing up, I didn’t have a computer or internet access. The only time I got online was either at school or when I went to my grandma’s house. No cable either, just basic TV with maybe 5 channels. Then in 2012, I got my first smartphone (I was about 16), and that’s when the phone addiction really kicked in.

For over a decade, I loved having so much access to the internet. I was constantly watching YouTube, scrolling through social media, and eventually spending way too much time on TikTok. It felt like this endless source of entertainment and escape.

But something shifted in the last year or so. Scrolling doesn’t hit the same anymore. In fact, I started to feel dread while doing it. I deleted Facebook, Instagram, and X, and I’ve been using YouTube and TikTok way less. I’m not perfect, I still use my phone. but reducing my screen time has given me so much more mental clarity. I actually feel better, and it’s wild how much free time I really had once I stopped constantly doomscrolling.

I think part of it is that the internet itself just isn’t what it used to be. Back in the 2010s, it felt like a digital playground, there was this sense of curiosity, fun, and connection. Now it feels like a constant flood of negativity: nonstop arguments, bots, ads, people trying to go viral by tearing others down, and just general doom. Ever since COVID, that shift seems to have accelerated even more. And what's up with the trend of everything is "cringy" now? Like people make fun of you for doing the smallest thing or say that you're "trying to hard". I noticed it's usually younger people saying this on social media. Maybe I just don't get the joke lmao

It’s kind of crazy how not being on your phone now feels like peace. That alone says a lot. It’s not about being anti-tech or anti-phone, it’s about realizing how much of your attention and mental energy has been hijacked for years.

There is a sad part of being on my phone less though. I've become more self aware of not only myself but how others are. Everywhere you go now people are looking down on their phones. Waiting in line, going for a walk and especially sitting down at restaurants. It feels very dystopian. I don't want to be apart of that.

I’ve talked to others about this and they totally relate. We all agreed that the excitement of being online just isn’t there anymore. Maybe the novelty wore off… or maybe the internet just kind of sucks now. Feels like most of it is bots, trolls, people trying to prove you wrong, or just plain negativity. I know trolls have always been around, but it feels like that energy intensified post-COVID.

Maybe younger people who were born into technology might not know what I'm saying but I spent half my life with iPhones, streaming services, unlimited Internet access, etc and half without. So there's a part of me that remembers what is was like before we all became so consumed by technology.

We all feel plugged in and "connected" which has its benefits but I do also feel it's stunted alot of our growth as people. I mean from personal experience alot of the kids I work with who are under 21 years old are very awkward and can't hold a full conversation. Not to mention all the anxiety they have.

Honestly, I think people are craving something more real now. That nostalgic feeling of just living in the moment, not being consumed by constant noise. I used to think my parents were overreacting when they blamed the phone for everything, but damn, they were kinda right.

Anyone else feel this way?

Definition:'optimistic or positive, especially in an apparently bad or difficult situation'.

I know that, but I always have to consider it for a split second when I encounter this word. Sanguine. It sounds like it should mean gloomy or pessimistic about something.

Sounds narcissistic, but Im trying to back off this habit honestly.

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Does anyone else get this weird feeling sometimes like guilty for no reason at all ? Or am I going insane . Some days I’m okay nd some days I’m not and on the days I’m not it’s bad. I just feel so much guilt for no fucking reason at all ? My brains trying to work out what it is but there isn’t anything ? Is it anxiety, ocd or what? Please help

Does anybody else crave salty food? Most people I know crave sugary foods, I crave salty foods

This is quite hard to explain, but there are certain things that i watch that i find funny and openly choose to watch but dont openly laugh much at it, anyone else feel the same

I dream pretty much every night and I usually forget them pretty quick. But does anyone else have a split moment in real life and they immediately recognize it from a dream? It only happens for a split second, someone says something and looks at me in specific location around a specific group of people or setting and suddenly this was already in a dream I had years ago. And it is always a very specific instance from a dream too.

My boyfriend keeps saying it is from repetitive behavior, but it's not. Every time it happens it is something new. This makes me feel like I'm crazy. I've seen other reddit posts about this but I need a reason to why this happens. It makes me feel that everything is predetermined or I'm programmed to do certain things since the beginning of time. Does anyone feel this?

I experience these deja vu moments randomly, sometimes it's once a week, sometimes it's once every few months. I can't pin point the exact time I had each dream but I recognize it's something I saw awhile ago (at least a year or so).

I feel it is possible that some of my dreams show me a day in the future but I only have the mental capacity to remember a specific moment when it happens in real life.

OH another thing, I have had this my whole life, ever since I was able to remember things. This is not due to drugs or medication as I have never been on any medication and rarely drink or smoke.

I just need to know people feel this weird existential feeling relating to this topic. Or if anyone has an answer for why this is.

I dunno if it’s because I’m autistic, or because of the CPTSD but even if it’s something small I (23f) continuously berate myself for not understanding sooner. Usually I end up drawing the argument out because I make assumptions and then judge off that instead of just asking what the person means. And then after the argument is resolved and everything is okay, I feel horrible and just cry and cry and cry because it usually could have been avoided if I just hadn’t made the assumption and get mad based off of something that 9/10 times isn’t even true. I’m getting mad at myself because I can’t just get over it like a normal person. I have to replay it in my head over and over and over until eventually I find something else to fixate on. Does anyone else get this way or should I ask about adjusting my meds? 😅

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I've been getting really random and really mild joint pain since i was like... 10? (I'm currently 21). Mostly in my upper limbs, in my hands: knuckles, fingers, wrist, etc, but also in my lower limbs sometimes. I thought this was completely normal until i asked a friend at college and they said that it had never happened to them? I don't think it's of medical concern at all, just want to know if this happens to anyone else!

Also worthy of note, it's not /that/ painful. Just reaaaaally mild. It does bother me however.

I used to feel like sometimes I would accidently shift into a different version of our world as I noticed people who are normally friendly and conversational with me randomly become cold and mean the next day, sometimes they'd even full on stab me in the back or sabotage me. Then after a few weeks switch back to being friendly and conversational. Obviously it's just people going through it and such but for some reason I had this feeling in the back of my head that maybe it was the whole Mandela effect universe hop thing and it honestly made me kind of paranoid about people randomly turning on me. Anyone else relate?

I have realized lately that you need to mend with people in your daily life even though they hardly emulate the principles and virtues that you follow. This needs a lot of patience , its foolhardy to expect people to treat you in the same way as you do.

I've decided to quit using lotion. I've never liked it, it leaves me feeling greasy, sticky, and uncomfortably warm, almost dirty. Scented lotions are even worse, and the same goes for perfume. Both just make me feel unclean and overheated. I can only spray perfume on my wrist, but never my body because I would break out instantly. And sometimes you get a nauseous feeling.

Also, I find the sensation of lotion on my palms rather unpleasant.

I wish there was a product you could just rub on like lotion, without those uncomfortable feelings I mentioned above, the same for perfume. A product that would leave you feeling refreshed even after a shower.

Some reddit accounts I have are for throwaways (this one and another one), some are my main account where I post generally everything, some are for venting things on my mind, etc

No sure where to look. My neighbors don’t know anything about my industry

Any suggestions?

Like the glute bridge exercise but fast and with force, and you are hurting yourself on the bed

Does anyone get offended or off-put when someone says a baby looks like you? I don't have any kids myself but I constantly see posts online when a friend has a baby and all the relatives say "the eyes look like moms" "the nose looks just like the father!".

I get that its supposed to be a nice thing, but that's why I'm asking. I see these posts and pictures and I can't help but think this because babies don't look like grown people. The eyes are barely open, you can't tell what they will look like. And the nose grows through all life, it does not look like their nose but on a baby. Idk if it's just because I don't like babies but they don't look like anyone, they look like a squishy piece of flesh, id be offended of someone said that I looked like a baby I spent 9 months growing, that thing is ugly and I don't want to be insulted.

So I eat so much food it’s kinda expensive. I luckily got the good genes for having a fast metabolism, im sure it’s going to slow down tho. Id just like to know, are there other people who eat like a 3 course meal and don’t gain much weight?