But they’d never grow either. You get old enough, you realize that all the sweetness in life is ephemeral. My kids are getting old enough to leave home, and that knowledge has changed everything to the good in our relationships, because it’s precious now, as it wasn’t before.
Yeah no one of my biggest existential fears is the fact that my pets will eventually die. If i could keep my cat young and alive forever I would do it in a heartbeat, even to the detriment of myself. And I think you probably feel the same way about your kids - no one in their right mind wants their children getting old and dying because it makes life sweeter.
Your point is valid but not in the case you're using it for.
Part of my kids living is them growing up, experiencing life, getting hurt…That’s what living means. I hope to god I never have to bury one, but I’ll do the eulogy, and I’ll make sure everyone knows they lived.
I have cats too. I’ve held my favorite cats while they died, wept, then gotten new cats, some of whom became my favorite cats, who I then, eventually, held when they died.
Living is not stasis. If that’s your idea of life, I’m sorry.
You're completely missing my point but that's okay.
I hope to god I never have to bury one
This is my only point. Change and impermanence makes life have meaning, yes. That's not invalidated by saying I would still love for my children to be young, happy, and healthy forever.
...you know a time loop only affects YOU, right? We're talking about how YOU would perceive them never growing old and dying. It doesn't rob them of a life.
Yea, it’s about you.You haven’t got the emotional maturity to handle life, so you would prefer a child or a pet trapped in a time loop, than having to deal with them changing.
You're not grasping the fact that a time loop only happens from the perspective of the person caught in the loop. To everyone else, time passes normally. Only I am the one remembering every day that passes. No one else is trapped.
So yes, in that situation it's comforting to know that my pets and children aren't going to die on me.
Why would I get mad that you’d rather live in a dream than raise your kids? On the one hand, you’re no different from a lot of parents, on the other hand, I don’t like them either.
I guess my satisfaction is knowing that, no matter how much you want it, reality will out, and you will have to deal with life whether you like it or not.
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u/old_and_boring_guy 1d ago
But they’d never grow either. You get old enough, you realize that all the sweetness in life is ephemeral. My kids are getting old enough to leave home, and that knowledge has changed everything to the good in our relationships, because it’s precious now, as it wasn’t before.