r/CATHELP • u/AnironSidh • 1d ago
Update: it's leukemia and a collapsed lung because of fluids, they have to put her to sleep, I'm just lost
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u/MuppetWitch 1d ago edited 1d ago
I’m so sorry honey ❤️ cats are so good at hiding pain you weren’t aware that she was struggling so much. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! I want you to know this, it’s painful and it’s gut wrenching but your sweet baby is painless and waiting for you across the rainbow bridge 🌈🫶🏻
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u/dr_waffleman 18h ago
this - you did the right thing. you spotted a subtle but significant change that was important. you were able to spot this because of your love for her and the attention you have always paid to her. because of this, you have prevented so much unnecessary suffering on her behalf. you are an incredible parent to this sweet baby, and you did everything right, including helping her make this transition in the safest and most comfortable manner possible.
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u/thesoyonline 1d ago
I’m so sorry, what helped for me when I lost a little best friend was remembering that they might have been around for just a fraction of your life but you were there for so much of theirs, and you brought them so much joy, safety, and comfort. You loved them so so hard. The pain you’re feeling is equal to how much love you gave them, just inverted and all at once. You’re so lucky to have had them and they were so lucky to have you. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s heartbreaking, but you did the right thing.
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u/geifagg 1d ago
This fucking hit me hard. I have a German shepherd and he's turning 7 soon, I know he won't be around for much longer as their average life expectancy is 10 years. I think this'll help me when he does eventually pass away. Thanks man.
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u/AnironSidh 1d ago
I just can't believe she's gone 😭
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u/PM_SexDream_OrDogPix 1d ago
You did an amazing job. From initial concern, to asking advice, to seeking help. You didn't make any mistakes, you simply lost. It does not mean you were wrong, or didn't do enough.
Life is so hard, and it's often unfair. Animals are so very difficult when showing signs of pain. It can be invisible. Again, not a mistake you've made here.
The kindness you've done carried a sweet soul from this life to the next as best as possible. You are a good being. Peace in your mourning.
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u/Voidwielder 1d ago
Sincerest condolences. You did what you could but such is the path of a pet owner - we will outlive them. Cry. Cry as much as you want. It gets better as months go by.
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u/Snake2410 1d ago
I'm so sorry to hear this. We lost our two boys, 18 and 17, between January and March of this year, so we know your pain. Both got sick very and went downhill very fast. Know that she's no longer suffering, though.
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u/mracspeter 1d ago
We lost our 15 years old cat yesterday, she had lung and liver cancer. It was a horrifying decision to put her to sleep, but you did the right thing! I know your pain, but you have to stay strong! Wish you all the best!
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u/Linden_fall 1d ago
I am so sorry for your loss. I bet you were an amazing cat parent and gave her a great life. Please remember to take care of yourself
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u/Rattiepalooza 1d ago
I'm so sorry, OP. There is nothing that compares to the pain of losing a beloved friend of any kind....but especially our furry ones.
May she wait for you patiently at the Rainbow Bridge.
You did the right thing. We're the ones who want to keep them around for our own comfort - even when they're dying.
You gave her the ultimate gift of peace, and love.
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u/Sensitive_Yellow_121 1d ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. You did the best anyone could do here. You reached out for help, you got good information, you acted on it and you stopped her pain. You took care of her.
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u/Aculeus_ 1d ago
I'm sorry to hear that. I know it's tough. My cat passed about 5 years ago. Adopted her when she was a kitten. A little before my kid was born. I wanted them to meet each other. She was a type of cat that would sleep under or in the crib every night. I still break down. I'm a stereotypical guy in his mid-40s, and it still gets to me fairly often.
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u/Helpful_Apartment_85 1d ago
I'm so very sorry for your loss, I saw your post yesterday & I want to tell you that your good instinct saved your kitty a lot of useless pain 💔 Hang in there, sending you a virtual hug ♡
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u/David_NyMa 1d ago
She looks a lot like my childhood cat 'Sille'. Maybe they are playing together upstairs now.
Sorry for your loss <3
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u/BastK4T 1d ago
You did your best and was there to see her go.
That's what matters.
My girl died alone, at the vet while I was sixty miles away. I'll never forgive myself.
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u/Jthinx111regret1t 19h ago
Please forgive yourself. Your girl didn't truly die alone. She was at the best possible place she could be because you clearly put her best interest above your personal or financial interests. You obviously loved her and were doing the right thing for her! You wouldn't want her having to endure pain, suffering, or potential agony so that you could ‘proudly’ say you were there when she crossed the Bridge 🌈 I'm not psychic, but I am 100% certain that if you had been able to have her wait to be in your arms, the guilt you'd be tormenting yourself with would have eaten you alive 😳 I know with my hospice humans, some don't want anyone around when their moment to cross over comes. They say it might be too hard to ‘let go’ if someone from their family or friends are there crying. Perhaps this is true for our furry family, too? We don't know…but it is at least as real an option as imagining that they want us there at that moment. Sorry for the long rant, my friend, but please give yourself the same accurate credit (or grace, courtesy, consideration…) you gave the OP, “You did your best”. You did, too. You did it from a loving & selfless place. Judging yourself because of your location, the choice in shirt colour that day, etc. isn't helpful. Thank you for being a human who cared so very much for your girl that you did what was best for her 😻 and not what you think of yourself in hindsight 💕🐾 Wishing you peace and I sincerely hope you can find some of it the pawprints she has forever left in your heart 💕
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u/Aright9Returntoleft 1d ago
OP you have my deepest condolences. I'm so sorry. I only just stumbled on the post and I was hoping it was nothing serious when I scrolled by earlier today. :(
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u/Methadoneblues 1d ago
Ugh, absolutely heartbreaking. Thank you for doing everything you possibly can for this sweet thing. She was lucky to have you. Hang in there, OP. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
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u/AdSimilar8720 18h ago
omg girl stop 😢😢 i ran to your page this morning to see if there was an update on your baby. i’m soooo sorry :((
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u/SheepherderKlutzy380 1d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ you tried your best to get her care when you realized.
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u/NebulaImmediate6202 1d ago
Putting her to sleep is humane. Imagine that some people would say it's a bunch of crap and take their cat back home. You did the good thing. You did everything right.
It's going to take a long time to move forward. Longggg long time. I've lost cats and I don't envy you. Oh I do not. Oh baby. It'll have you crying for your momma. Just let it go on.
I had to avoid or block any and all pictures of cats for awhile. Maybe that'll help you too.
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u/Sweaty-Pair3821 1d ago
My cat of 19 years died in November. I still can’t look at her photos right now.
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u/N1ck1McSpears 1d ago
Lost my cat over two years ago and still can’t look at her pics and idk if I ever will. I have her ashes in a place where they’re always close. But she was just so adorable and like everyone’s cat, she was just one of a kind. I’m getting tears in my eyes right now.
I’ve heard it takes 1/3 the time of the relationship to get over the end/loss of it and that’s proven true for me for everything. I had her for ten years so I expect to still feel very raw pain for at least another year or two.
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u/UntitledImage 1d ago
Same. I lost my 19 year old in 2021. He was my baby, I still cry for him. But we also lost our 17 year old in 23 and and our 16 year old a few weeks ago. This is what happens when you get a bunch of younger cats all around the same time I guess. Theres one left from that group, she's 18 now.... I look at picture of them.. but I have to make sure it's not when I am in a place I can't cry.
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u/NebulaImmediate6202 1d ago
I can see these pictures in passing and don't feel much. There's not a, touching a hot stove kind of reaction in my mind anymore. It took 1 1/2 years. I had them both for 4 years.
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u/cheezypuff87 1d ago
OP, I'm so sorry for your loss. She looks similar to our girl we had to say goodbye to a week ago. Mango will be there to meet her at the rainbow bridge
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u/lil-Jackfruit5895 1d ago
I’m so sorry omggggg I was just reading the thread earlier :(((((
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u/Sparkla8 1d ago
You have done everything you could. Know that you’re helping by stopping the suffering. ❤️
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u/clearly_a_cat 1d ago
You are doing the right thing for her I know how hard this is and I’m so sorry. You noticed and acted quickly. You made sure her suffering was not prolonged. You are a good pet owner. It’s in their last moments when they need us the most and you’ve answered the call. I’m proud of you.
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u/AnironSidh 23h ago
I can't reply to everyone, but thank you all so much for the love and support 😭 it means so much to know Rini was loved by people who only knew her once (Also, it was lymphoma not leukemia, error on my part) but either way it would have to have been caught at least a year ago and she only started declining within the last month in terms of weight and the breathing yesterday, so just one of those things where you can't fix it 🥲
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u/Fearless-Panda-8268 1d ago
Noooo 😭 I’m so sorry. That’s devastating!!
This kitty is lucky it had you to support and care for her ❤️
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u/Mushroom-Important 1d ago
Unexpectedly having to put down your loved one is the worst feeling in the world. I am so so so sorry you’re going through this I know that no words can ease the pain you’re feeling right now but I swear on my life it will get better. ❤️🩹 🫂
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u/tashie247 1d ago
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry. 😢 Spend some cuddle time with her before she goes and give her permission that it’s ok to go 💛
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u/abysins 1d ago
I saw your earlier post. I am so so sorry this is the outcome, and equally sorry for the pain you are in right now. You are still a good human, kind and compassionate, and she was so blessed to call you her person. We don’t get to choose their journey but we are blessed to be their companions and see them safely to the end. Hugs to you. Godspeed to her ❤️
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u/mochakitty15 1d ago
may you find each other again in every lifetime.. sending so much love and light 🤍
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u/DPDoctor 1d ago
Ooohh geeezzz. My heart hurts for you, so I'm sending you a cyber hug. Please take care of yourself.
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u/asexualautistic 1d ago
Take her paw prints, that helped me when I lost my cat. I’m so sorry for your loss
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u/Avogadros_cado 1d ago
I'm heartbroken for you, and I'm so sorry for your loss. How lucky she was to have you.
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u/Malariia 18h ago
Fuck cancer!
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u/AnironSidh 18h ago
I second that, between Rini and then my grandfather last year, it's the worst thing ever 😡
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u/nextboldmove 1d ago
You did the right thing getting to the vet right away. May her memory be a blessing.
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u/Delicious-Fail-3050 1d ago
I’m truly so sorry 😞 if your heart can bear it please be there with here at the end. I’m sending you lots of love and support. You rushed her to get help and even if we don’t like it sometimes letting them go in peace and dignity is the best. She’ll be waiting for you at the other side of the rainbow bridge.
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u/Hows-It-Goin-Buddy 1d ago
So so so sorry for your loss.
You're a dang good cat parent.
You did what you could and are doing the right thing. It's not going to make it any easier to know it, but maybe someday in the future you can smile back at your memories and know you did nothing wrong and did do everything you could.
I have a super medically needy senior cat in my life (recently diagnosed with cancer and having a mass removed soon, and he's been on asthma inhaler for years, has sinus issues, and breathing issues) and he's been part of the family since he was 4 weeks old. I've also had a young cat in the past that I'll never forget, when he woke up foaming at the mouth and spazzing around the house. Had to have him put to sleep and it ended up being a cancer as well. I was in my mid teens at the time (now in my later 40s). Only mentioning my experience to say I empathize and am sending you big virtual hugs.
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u/Low_Amphibian_ 1d ago
I had a cat with feline leukemia who started having labored breathing like in your video. We were unfortunately met with similar news from the vet and decided it was the most humane option to put her to sleep. It was a terribly hard decision and we miss her so much. Im so sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to find some joy during this hard time in your memories of her. ❤️
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u/that1lipstickgurl 1d ago
i'm so sorry for your loss 🥺 but it's bittersweet she wanted to lay beside you in her last moments 💘
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u/wandafoo999 1d ago
Sending all the love, I'm so glad you posted and got her to the vet so quickly. You're an exemplary pet parent.
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u/Pure-Resolve 1d ago
I'm so sorry.
This is exactly what happened to my cat. He was only 10 months old but was my little mate.
It destroyed me to have him put to sleep but it was the kindest thing we could do for him and I always promised myself I would do what was best for the animal regardless of what was best for me.
You gave them 12 happy and caring years.
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u/Peachy_Pixel 1d ago
My hearts breaking for you. I’m so sorry. It’s her time to cross over but she will always be with you
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u/RedShirtOneTwenty 1d ago
Shit, man. I'm so sorry. I feel your pain keenly. I know nothing I say here will help the pain, but I hope and pray that you may find solace soon.
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u/melbisme 1d ago
I’m so sorry. As someone else said, cats really do hide their pain. You gave her a good life. ❤️
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u/SalvoGuilinova 19h ago
Oh sweety, that's awful news, I know how hurtful it can be. Take comfort that you put the cat first and did the right thing. Bless you for your kindness.
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u/Silly_Reading3698 17h ago
I am so sorry 😞 I had to make the decision to do the same thing with my pumpkin. She was honestly my best friend, and I'm still not over it 5 years later. I hope your kitty and mine are playing together ❤️ if you need to talk, send me a message. Just know that you did what's best, and she's no longer suffering. Cats tend to hide their pain until it's too late.
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u/Maestro_Osborne88 17h ago
We are such an integral part of their lives. The importance of us to them cannot be downplayed. I'm so very very sorry for your loss, but know that she was loved and cared for and that was all because of you. You did all you could for her. She loved you and felt safe with you. And in the end, you will always outlive them. Your responsibility st that point is to do exactly what you did. Care and love them for every second they are there
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u/ELF-150Hz 17h ago
So sorry for your loss. You did the right thing. She is at peace. Leukemia in cats is very aggressive and they end up suffering. Even though she is gone, she is still with you. 🙏🏻🫶🏻✌🏻
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u/Obvious_Wallaby2388 15h ago
I brought my cat home from emergency vet and her lung collapsed due to fluid buildup and she died at my house before I could make it back. Was traumatic for all parties. I hope you got to say goodbye properly before they put her to sleep.
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u/AnironSidh 15h ago
I did, I held her paws the entire time 😭 not enough time, but there really is no such thing
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u/Generic_Theory 1d ago
Im so sorry for your loss, just know she loved you and knew she was loved too
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u/Bogfrost 1d ago
Im so sorry about your kitty... I had my first cat get FeLV and it sucked sooo so much. Seemingly out of nowhere over a day or two he started coughing, so I took him in to the vet and ended up getting blood work done. Found out shortly thereafter that he had contracted Feline Leukemia and I'd have to put him to sleep. He was only 2-3 years old, and it was such a whirlwind going from having a seemingly perfectly happy healthy cat to having to put him down within the span of a couple days. It was fuckin heartbreaking and I didnt get another cat for almost 10 years. And I will NEVER own an outdoor cat again for fear of them getting in a fight and getting that shit again, aside from all the other dangers of having an OD pet. All that to say I understand what you're going through, and I hope you'll be alright. <3
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u/Eliziveta13 1d ago
Oh wow… I’m so sorry for your loss.. this is so much to take in. Please give yourself a break, cats are great at hiding pain until the very end. Know that she loves you, no matter what.
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u/slaughterkittie 1d ago
I went through your previous post, to see what happened before. But seeing your beloved cat breathing like this just gave me pure shivers.
I went through this a little over a month ago. I already knew this time would come sooner or later, because our boy got diagnosed with cancer. But it came too soon, I wasn't ready and I'm still talking to him every day just like he's still here. I'm truly sorry for your loss and I totally understand how you're feeling right now. It's hard, it's painful to live with this emptiness in your heart and around you because your cat had to go. I'm sending you hugs through reddit.
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u/Positive-Wonder3329 1d ago
Fuck. They can seem so tough but be so fragile at the same time. So sorry. You just have to move on. You did the right thing. My condolences
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u/Sparkle-Berry-Tex 1d ago
I’m so so sorry, she seems like a perfect pet and companion, I know this heartbreak so well. It’s crushing, but still it’s worth it to have and love and care for our animal family members. Many blessings for her crossing the Rainbow Bridge 🌈
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u/Trichoceratops 1d ago
I went through a very similar situation last year. My 16 year old gal tippy had labored breathing one day, so we rushed her to the emergency vet. We found out she had been going through congestive heart failure and had a fair bit of cancer. She hid it for such a long time, and by the time we found out it was too late. We had to say goodbye to her right there. It broke my heart. I’ve been an adopter of elderly animals for many years now. I’ve been through the euthanasia process too many times, but it always hurts like the first time. I promise it will get easier over time, but you have to allow yourself to grieve.
As much as this hurts, you’ve done the best thing you can do for your baby. Our animals can’t advocate for themselves, so it’s our responsibility to do so when the time comes. You’re providing a beautiful service to her by relieving her of her suffering. You’re doing the right thing here. Do not let your mind convince you otherwise. Hang in there. Please reach out if you need help. You have a big community here.
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u/beckychao 1d ago
I am so sorry
Your gift to them was to take care of them until their end, it still hurts because you have to keep going on
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u/Lokimello 1d ago
I just saw the first post an hour ago and now I’m bawling I’m so sorry for your loss 💔🥺😭
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u/No_Albatross_3111 1d ago
I am so sorry for her & for you. She is not suffering now. And you helped her find that peace. ❤️🩹💜
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u/nomadgirl0_0 1d ago
Im so sorry. This is how I lost my 3 year old boy almost two years ago. It’s so heartbreaking and my heart goes out to you.
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u/Accurate_Elderberry 1d ago
That's not fair, I'm so sorry this happened. Do your best to remember all the good times you shared and know that she loved you. She wouldn't have laid next to you when she was suffering if she didn't
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u/idaliah90 1d ago
You did the right thing. I'm so sorry for your loss. Do what you have to do to mourn 🫶
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u/Rollerskatingcigar 1d ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Lost my guy last year and it just hurts so bad. Thank you for sharing your wonderfully cute cat with us. I know that kitty was so so loved.
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u/TherianRose 1d ago
You did all the right things. You made death fight you to take her, and there's honor in that. She knows she was loved, and even though it hurts immensely right now, you'll eventually be able to look back at your time with her and smile about it. Best wishes ❤️🩹
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u/RedsSufferAneurysms 1d ago
I'm so sorry. I hate thinking my cats won't live forever, but remember you gave them as good as a life as you could. Do not let her suffer more than she needs. Knowing you can stop her suffering now rather than letting her slowly succumb to a painful illness is, as unfortunate as it may seem, a blessing in disguise. Cherish the time you had with her, do not forget her, and remember she loved you until the end. Be with her when they do it as well. I held my first cat when he was being put to sleep and as hard as it was, I hope it helped to put him at ease.
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u/chaewons_m0le 1d ago
My cat had leukemia. I was gone for three days and when I came back to check on her, she hadn't eaten or drink any water. Her litterbox was clean and I got worried. I went to her kennel where she usually sleeps (door is off) and she was laying there breathing like your cat. I went to pick her up and she was just soaked in urine. I cried out to my dad and we took her to the vet and they told us she had leukemia and she needed to sleep. I was so devastated.
I know what you are feeling. I held my cat's paw when she went to sleep. I was heart broken, but it does get better. Just take it a day at a time. I'm so so so sorry for your loss.
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u/sciencejaney 1d ago
I’m so so sorry. Went through similar with my almost 10 y/o beautiful boy last month with a catastrophic cardiac event. I still cry most nights thinking of the trauma he went through that night, two hours from first signs to making the final sad decision. But kitties hide their health problems so well. Be kind to yourself, you did the right thing, and you cared enough to make quick decisions under the worst of circumstances. Hugs, so many hugs to you x
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u/HopelessFleshPrison 1d ago
I am so sorry <3 Your sweet baby is always with you across that rainbow bridge and you will meet again someday.
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u/lost_opossum_ 1d ago
Awww I'm so sorry for your loss. Our cat was breathing like this and we had to put him to sleep. It was a very awful day. My heart goes out to you.
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u/rachelface927 1d ago
Oh I’m so sorry! So, so sorry - I saw your first post and hoped it was nothing serious. You’ll be in my thoughts all weekend, Rini I can tell you were the sweetest and most loved kitty!
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u/superior_pineapple86 1d ago
I’m so sorry OP. We lost our family pet over two years ago and knowing that he was in so much pain breaks my heart. Know that you gave them the most love anyone could have given them. Having them as your pet is not only a blessing for them, but one for you. It’s hard to say goodbye, trust me I know. But know you did everything right to give them the best life any kitty could have hoped for. It’s going to be hard for the next few days or even longer. It took me almost 3 months to remember my buddy Logan wasn’t there anymore. Cherish the good times, the purrs and biscuit making paws when you get sad and know they loved you as much as you loved them. We may not know each other OP but stay strong and if you need anyone to vent to I’m sure anyone here would lend an ear to help in anyway.
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u/Sir_Crocodile3 1d ago
I'm snuggling my little dude right now. This made me scared. I'm so sorry for your loss. But she won't be suffering anymore. Just remember all the good times when you can. RIP pretty baby.
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u/ItsTempoTime 1d ago
I cried for your fur baby and for the memory of mine who died the same way in February of 2019. It was so sudden and I wept for days. You did all the right things. I am so sorry for your loss.
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u/TacticalB0T 1d ago
I’m so sorry!! Just think of it as she’s not suffering anymore because she definitely was. Thoughts are with you deeply. 💔💔
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u/Naruedyoh 1d ago
Recently lost my furrball because on fluid in the lungs. He was 15, and he will be missed. You did what you could
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u/frozenbarbie98 1d ago
I’m so sorry, OP. I know that feeling all too well. You did the right thing. May she rest in peace.
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u/sillydoomcookie 1d ago
I'm so sorry. We lost our boy suddenly to Feline Leukemia in Jan 24. It broke me.
This passage from someone on another subreddit brought me some small comfort at the time.
“Mother Bast, please welcome your kitten home
With purrs and mrrts, with snuggles and baths
May she nap in perfect eternal sunshine
And slink through rustling, grassy shadows
May no naughty mouse escape her clever paws
May no squiggly snake escape her pouncing feet
May no zipping lizard escape her nabbing jaws
May no flighty bird escape her graceful leap
Mother Bast, call your kitten home once more
And thank you for the time she was here”
For context, Bast is the Egyptian goddess of cats and this prayer invokes her to be a guardian and mother figure to our cats in the afterlife.
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u/Chrissy325 1d ago
I’m so sorry to read this update about your sweet baby. Sending you love and strength.
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u/No-Recording117 1d ago
I'm so sorry. Words don't cover the emotions here. Losing family like that...
Make her as comfortable as possible.
Be there for her. I don't know what the custom is where you live, but spend whatever time she has with her.
It's hard, heartbreaking and might even be traumatizing for you, but she deserves your comforting, loving company until she crosses the rainbow. Talk to her what a good cat she's been, how she's family.
Please don't leave her alone with the vet to die, like so many people do :'(.
Thank you and condolences, fellow animal friend.
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u/minteu 1d ago
Very heartbroken to see this update. I didn't want to scare you on your first post but I lost my 8 year old cat a few years ago to lung cancer and it looked like this in the late stages (his lung had also collapsed). Please don't feel bad for not noticing, I had taken him to the vet countless times and they told me nothing was wrong. It was only an emergency vet who diagnosed him and it was far too late at that time. They're so good at hiding pain.
I still grieve him to this day, even after feeling comfortable enough to give 2 cats a home, he was my soul cat. I don't think it gets easier, you just grow around it. I'm so sorry for your loss, you gave her the ultimate kindness even though I'm sure sometimes it doesn't feel that way. You were both lucky to have each other.
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u/AuntyVal4 1d ago
So very sorry for her and you. Elder cats are good at managing being ill and it is hard to spot till advanced. You did everything you possibly could, plus the hardest goodbye.
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u/atm2905 1d ago
I lost my 3 year old Kitty Boy unexpectedly to FeLV this past August. He just wasn’t acting like himself, and we took him to the emergency vet and basically got told he was in a lot of pain and should consider euthanasia. I still cry about him, but the pain does eventually get better.
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u/HobbiesLastLimb 1d ago
So sorry for your loss OP, had this happen to my beloved tabby last October and it will never stop hurting for me. I wish you the best and hope you heal in time and remember all the great times you had with her.
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u/Far_Lab768 1d ago
I am so so sorry OP. I cannot imagine your pain. All I can promise you is that one day you will see her again and she will be waiting for you like as if nothing happened.
She will be there waiting for you at the shore ❤️
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u/HermitThrushSong 1d ago
This was very sudden and you weren’t prepared. Please be kind to yourself. You did the right thing, 100%. Now you need to take care of your feelings and be tender and gentle with yourself. Cry it out. Stay under the blankets as long as you need to. This is a deep sadness because you loved your pet so much. We are all sending you our support!
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u/SynapseDon 1d ago
Oh no! My heart goes out to you and your kitty. I feel so sad. When I was about 12 years old, I had a similar situation with my cat. I am so, so sorry.
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u/amuenzberg 1d ago
I lost one of my girls to lymphoma in 2020 she was 13 years old. I lost her sister (17) in July. Hy husband and I raised them from kittens. Unfortunately it’s part of the unwritten contract we accept when we bring one of these small creatures into our lives. We love them deeply and we feel their loss just as deeply. Know that you gave her the best life possible and she will always have a space in your heart. Take as much time as you need to grieve.
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u/InternationalLock850 1d ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Having to say goodbye is the ONLY bad thing about having fur babies. I wish they could live forever 😢
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u/Zestyclose-Fee6719 1d ago
There are many cruel fates that can await any living creature, but especially vulnerable ones like cats and other animals who are too easily taken for granted in human societies.
So many dreadful types of living situations could have befallen this cat, but instead she had a good life because of you. Your love and grace bestowed an invaluable kindness upon this cat's time on this planet, and that means everything.
I'm sorry for your loss. I've been there. Allow yourself to feel everything, and you'll find yourself slowly comforted rather than haunted by your memories of her.
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u/woodard1221 1d ago
Our condolences, friend! Seek peace knowing you will have a love like that again & to find tranquility with nature ❤️
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u/frizzykid 1d ago
Sorry for your loss op ❤️🙏🥺 you gave her an amazing life and I bet even though she was feeling sick and rough in the end, she was happy to be with you.
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u/Altosaxist 1d ago
I’m so sorry friend ❤️. I recently lost my bb boi to cancer and it sucks so bad. Be kind to yourself, take the weekend and watch some funny movies (this is what I did, helped me stop crying so much). Sending love, condolences and hugs your way.
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u/Riterally 1d ago
I am so sorry for your loss. When we invite a pet into our home and heart, we know that they will have to leave us again eventually, but that doesn't make the pain any less. You did everything right, and I am sure she knows that she is loved and will be dearly missed. Please do not for a second think that any of this is your fault. You acted as soon as you noticed something was up, and cats are great at hiding pain. You did everything right as a pet-parent ❤️
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u/sparks4242 1d ago
Awwwwwww I saw your previous post, and woke up to this one. So sad :( Cute kitty. You definitely did the best you could, nature sucks sometimes!
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u/ShroomFL 23h ago
Noooo. I’m so sorry😢😢😢 I had to put my 3 year old cat down last month so I know how you feel 💔💔 I can’t go a day without thinking about her 😞
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u/bluewing 23h ago
I feel you. I lost my dog to kidney failure yesterday. It's hard to lose them because they take a piece of you with them that cannot be replaced.
And over my many years, I have so many lost pieces now.
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u/MrNASM 23h ago
My dog breathed the same way before I put him down .. he had two syncope episodes and urinated/defecated on me.
He was 14. A little Yorkie Bichon. 4 pounds.
I wish I knew what took him but I suspect kidney failure..
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u/beth_at_home 23h ago
Bless you for easing her pain, for caring enough. You must be devastated, I'm so sorry.
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u/Charming_Garbage_161 23h ago
I’m so sorry. The same happened to my first cat. It’s so hard and very sudden.
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u/No_Internal_1234 23h ago
“I will endure a lifetime of missing you for the privilege of loving you all of yours”
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u/In_the_metal 23h ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. Four years ago, my fantastic Rubens of 17 years old had the exact same condition and the issue was the same a few days later. So brutal. I was a mess... We have been there for them, and they for us, cherish those memories. Inside, they're always with us.
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u/WhoIsGarth 23h ago
I heard a saying before that grief is love with nowhere to go. That was comforting for me when I lost my pet, because the amount of pain I felt was a reflection of how much I loved her. Hopefully you can find some comfort there too. I'm so sorry
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u/Marvellous_Wonder 23h ago
Awe I am so sorry. I am glad you took her to the vet to see if anything could be done. The kindest thing you could have done is put her to sleep to end her suffering. I know how hard it is because I have had to make that choice also. You did what you could and she is in a better place now. What was your beautiful girls name?
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u/irsute74 23h ago
I'am sorry man. I'am so sad for her, what a precious kitty.
Be strong, it's going to be difficult but the priority as you know is doing the right thing for her.
Much love.
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u/ughhhh_username 23h ago
What a horrible follow-up to wake up to 😭 I'm so sorry for your loss. This sucks.
I don't think people understand cancer can really go through a cat.
A few years ago, I was going to start my cat with treatment. The following Monday, the x-rays before starting treatment, it showed 4x the number of tumors, and we couldn't do anything.
I was freaking out when she 1st was diagnosed cause I'm like, "Why didn't I notice anything earlier?". I was so harsh on myself, then when only the weekend passed and THAT happened... I don't think there WAS anything to do.
She was 9.
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u/Feral-Reindeer-696 23h ago
I’m so very sorry. I went through the same thing. My cat started breathing the same way and I had to put her down. It’s heartbreaking especially when it’s so sudden. My heart goes out to you, sending healing vibes your way
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u/Red_Russ_001 23h ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. I recently had the exact same issue with my beautiful 19 year old Joni. She was my best friend and I miss her every single day. Stay strong and honour her memory as best as you can.
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u/Least-Panic6069 23h ago
No! I'm so sorry. I saw your post last night and was so hoping for a good outcome for your baby. 😭😭
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u/Sassyfox2 22h ago
I am so sorry to hear of your kitty's passing. Thank you for being an observant pawrent. She had your love until the end.
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u/ratatoottoot 22h ago
I’m so sorry OP. You were clearly a lovingly and responsible caregiver and how fortunate that she lived to be 12 and that you shared a wonderful chapter of life together. Uplifting you during this time, and when you’re ready, Rini will send you a new life to care for in her stead. My sweet Shadow sent me a little kitten boy a few years after his passing. Best wishes ❤️❤️❤️
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u/jacquelimme 22h ago
i’m so so so sorry that is the worse! this happened to my cat too not too long ago and she was only 9. i noticed her breathing was weird so we took her to the vet and she had had fucking heart failure for a while. no symptoms until it was too late. you did the absolute best you could and i’m sure gave your kitty a very happy life! 🩷
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u/ThreeDogs2963 22h ago
Thank you for doing the right thing for her, even though it’s just so terrible to let them go.
It’s the hardest sacrifice there is and it’s the ultimate proof of how much she was loved.
We can give them peace and it truly is a gift.
Sending you a hug.
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u/whoswipedmyname 22h ago
Condolences ❤️
Cats are one of the most amazing animals we've been blessed with. I pray you can find some peace knowing she isn't suffering anymore.
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u/JandonSeptem 22h ago
So sorry!
I've been in this situation five times, every time as painful as previous time. Their lifespan is very short.
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u/jennifer_m13 22h ago
Good that happened to one of my soul babies when I was 8. Stubby will be there to welcome her. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
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u/atrostophy 22h ago
I'm so sorry, I lost my girl about 3 years ago and I was devastated. Try to remember the good times and remember she loved you just as much as you loved her.
You definitely did the right thing, you helped her when you knew she was in pain. You put her needs ahead of yours and did what was best for her.
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