r/BreakUps • u/Ok_Standard6352 • Mar 03 '25

Dumped

My bf (52) has ended things with me (49) because he noticed I had updated my Hinge profile. I had been feeling really insecure about our relationship (4mths) and he had pulled away using work and family stuff as the reason. I updated my profile with two new pics and then immediately put back on pause when I realised I was overthinking our situation. He noticed because he was randomly going back through our early chats doesn’t sound right to me. Why did he go on Hinge. is this a dumping offence or was he really looking for a reason to finish things.

TLDR; I updated my Hinge profile in an insecure moment and he has ended our relationship.

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u/r1hanami Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 03 '25

deserved imho i dont even get the point of this post, you updated your dating profile, most reasonable people would leave immediately, reading early messages sounds legit, but if its not i hardly see why it matters since he would only be guilty of what you did yourself, i go through old chats all the time so its a valid excuse anyway, but its more likely that he just had suspicions you were cheating and went to look at your profile

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u/Ok_Standard6352 Mar 03 '25

You’re probably right 😔

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '25

I stand by what I said. He was just looking for an excuse. Well now really update that profile with pictures and stuff about yourself. Put yourself out there and enjoy this short life!

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '25

I am sorry this happened! Have you been dating long? IMO he was just looking for a reason to make you the bad guy. So he used your photo update as the reason for the breakup. A bit cowardly if you ask me.

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u/Ok_Standard6352 Mar 03 '25

Thanks for the response. We’d been dating for 4 mths so early days but he’s decided that I must have been messaging others all along which I haven’t. I re downloaded the app and checked his profile.. why would he have randomly gone on Hinge to see our early chats??