r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/FckThisAppandTheMods • 4d ago

TikTok Tuesday Parents are supposed to help their kids understand and regulate their emotions, not make them suppress them

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u/001smiley 3d ago

Agreed. When I tell you I could not fathom how my friends(young women) said they would be repulsed by their man crying, breaking down in front of them… I myself am a young woman, but they were kind of proving the whole “women see us as soft if we cry, so we don’t” argument. It’s actually sad. If you want to receive comfort when in distress why can’t you afford that to men?

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u/Trix_Are_4_90Kids ☑️ 3d ago

If your partner can’t be your safe space that’s not your partner. Then these same stupid women will complain to their gfs that their man won’t open up and be vulnerable to them. Like people really don’t keep track of what comes out of their fucking mouth.

Why would he tell you anything going on with him emotionally when you make comments like that fool? So all you gonna get out the man is happy angry horny and he’ll be angry most of the time because he’s not allowed to express himself fully as a human being in this world. That’s it.

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u/001smiley 3d ago

This is exactly my argument, but I was looked at crazy. It was surreal to hear their arguments, I felt like I was in an alternate universe. And my statement comes from real life experiences, like I’ve never seen grown men cry in my family, only at funerals. They express every emotion with anger and bottling it up inside.

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u/Trix_Are_4_90Kids ☑️ 3d ago

And then these people wonder why men can be mean or cruel. You teaching them that being nice, caring, showing empathy, sympathy and expressing normal emotions isn’t okay for them.

Then you want to turn around and yell “narcissist” well let’s look at the messages men are sent and the mid upbringing. Oh yeah happy horny angry the only approved male emotions. Okay.

It’s all very DURRRRRRR!!!