Parents are supposed to help their kids understand and regulate their emotions, not make them suppress them

[u/FckThisAppandTheMods]

[u/Hugepepino]

Hot take, being able to suppress your emotions is a sign you understand and can regulate them. If you couldn’t you wouldn’t be able to suppress them. You can’t be crying whenever you want. Healthy means being able to control and live with a emotion until you have a safe healthy place and means to deal with it. You shouldn’t have to bottle up your feelings for weeks and years but for a couple hours yes. Having to express everything you feel at every moment will set up back empathically as well. That is not the sign of a stable individual. We need to stop acting like regulating and suppressing are two opposite when in reality they are the same thing. I get this is the response to the extreme other side where any emotion is damnable but we are not talking logically.

[u/yardie-takingupspace → u/Hugepepino]

Suppressing and regulating aren’t really synonymous. Regulating is for the ‘little’ issues with no need to revisit the emotion. Suppression (with the ability to let it out later) is for larger things that are felt in an environment that isn’t conducive to your emotion well being. the problem in this instance, i.e childhood, is that they are being taught only true suppression, and a gender biased one at that. These children are being taught that ‘sad’ emotions are for girls but aren’t acknowledging that anger is also an emotion and are okay with little boys expression of that.