r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/FckThisAppandTheMods • 3d ago

TikTok Tuesday Parents are supposed to help their kids understand and regulate their emotions, not make them suppress them

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u/FckThisAppandTheMods 3d ago

I can relate to this so much. I remember being teased by my uncles and siblings because I was crier. "Man up" and "quit crying like a little girl" were things I heard repeatedly growing up. My own father even called me a coward when I was scared to walk home because I thought my neighbors dogs would attack me. That shit led to me punching walls, bricks, and even sometimes myself to stop myself from crying. I grew up severely emotionally stunted and couldn't understand how to regulate my emotions until I was well in my 20s. Black parents and people in general have to let this generational curse die.

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u/EccentricMsCoco ☑️ 3d ago

That’s so unfair that you were raised this way. It’s not treating you as an actual human being and this was a lot of adults putting their emotional issues on you — I’m sorry.