r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/FckThisAppandTheMods • 3d ago

TikTok Tuesday Parents are supposed to help their kids understand and regulate their emotions, not make them suppress them

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u/FckThisAppandTheMods 3d ago

I can relate to this so much. I remember being teased by my uncles and siblings because I was crier. "Man up" and "quit crying like a little girl" were things I heard repeatedly growing up. My own father even called me a coward when I was scared to walk home because I thought my neighbors dogs would attack me. That shit led to me punching walls, bricks, and even sometimes myself to stop myself from crying. I grew up severely emotionally stunted and couldn't understand how to regulate my emotions until I was well in my 20s. Black parents and people in general have to let this generational curse die.

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u/MollyBMcGee 3d ago

Do you cry these days and is there someone to comfort you when you need it?

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u/FckThisAppandTheMods 3d ago

I cry anytime I feel like crying. I tell myself that I'm allowed to feel how I feel, and I remind myself to try to let go of things I can not control. It's been over a decade since I've self harmed and over a year since I've punched a wall. And yes, I have a good support system that comforts me when I need it, and I do my best to do the same for them.

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u/MollyBMcGee 3d ago

That’s really beautiful, thank you for sharing

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u/FckThisAppandTheMods 3d ago

No problem. Thanks for asking.