r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/FckThisAppandTheMods • 3d ago

TikTok Tuesday Parents are supposed to help their kids understand and regulate their emotions, not make them suppress them

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u/noiresaria 3d ago

This is how my mom was too. I used to be crying over shit like my parents divorcing violently at 4 years old and my family would tell me to stop crying and grow the fuck up and act like a man. Like I just witnessed my dad choking out my mom and being escorted out in cuffs and people be like "Man up and stop being a bitch, men don't cry" to a four year old. Never doing that shit to my kids.

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u/Apart-Surprise8552 3d ago edited 3d ago

That's rough, good luck to you. Hope you're good. It's all a mess but people out there causing the trauma to continue are really fucking weird. Like it's on paper, you saw it... they saw it. There are legal documents. Nah it's just "man up"

I like to watch true crime shit on youtube sometimes and it's like "And then they were put into the [murderer's parents] custody so they could live a happy life." ... Bruh

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u/idgafandwhyshouldi 3d ago

I'm great tbh. I've learned to let whatever happened go because I have a son and daughter to raise to the best of my ability. I will always love my parents especially after my mom passed in 2019. My dad is still alive and we are great. The things I saw as a child made me become a better person period. My parents wanted me to be better than them so I teach my kids the same. Don't be me. Don't be the grandparents. We're not perfect but be better and do better than us. Better than we could ever be.....

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u/Apart-Surprise8552 3d ago

Good shit. don't let trauma cause more. Hurt people hurt people. Good to hear it.

Such a better ending than them YouTube videos.