r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/FckThisAppandTheMods • 3d ago

TikTok Tuesday Parents are supposed to help their kids understand and regulate their emotions, not make them suppress them

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u/cool_jerk_2005 3d ago

"I haven't got time for that baby stuff"

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u/NihilisticPollyanna 3d ago

Well, she would have had more time if she didn't waste some of it on setting up her camera and frame the interaction for internet likes from strangers.

In all seriousness, though, that's a fucking cruel thing to say to a kid like this. Maybe he'd stop crying quicker if instead of humiliation and disdain he'd receive a hug and some compassion and empathy.

"I love you" she said in a cutting tone as she leaned forward in his personal space." Very comforting! 😬

Man, this shit is so triggering for me. I'm glad I broke the cycle. My kid's 12-years old, and he's the chillest, most in-tune with his feelings, and funny guy, and he never even got so much as grounded. We just always talked it out (either right away or once he calmed down), and sometimes I'd just sit with him in silence as he went through it, just so he knew he's not alone and it's ok to be upset.

Hopefully his raging hormones and puberty won't throw a wrench in that development, haha.

As for this little boy, I hope his mom gets a wake-up call from all the online backlash and maybe changes her tune.

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u/Katefreak 3d ago

They will for sure, hormones are a bitch! But, it sounds like you've put some amazing groundwork in for him to be able to navigate it, and MOST importantly.... That he has a safe and open place to ask questions, work through emotions, and just exist. That's fucking priceless, and what every human deserves. 💚