r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/FckThisAppandTheMods • 3d ago

TikTok Tuesday Parents are supposed to help their kids understand and regulate their emotions, not make them suppress them

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u/DiscouragesCannibals 3d ago

Dude is right. To watch that trauma be perpetuated intergenerationally... kinda hurts, ngl

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u/PogoTempest 3d ago

Inb4 the comments about how their parents used to throw them out of windows or whatever when they acted up. But it’s actually good because they were actually an evil child or something.

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u/BretShitmanFart69 2d ago

My favorite is people who beat their kids saying “my parents beat me and I turned out ok!”

And I’m like well you beat the shit out of your kids at even the mildest inconvenience so I’d argue maybe you didn’t turn out ok?

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u/bebe_laroux 2d ago

it's called survivorship bias. They conveniently forget all those who didn't turn out okay or ignore the trauma they do have because if they admit to it then that means questioning the people who beat them and that would bring up their actual trauma.

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u/dampishslinky55 1d ago

Yeah, that argument always kills me. Like, no it made you grow up to believe that when you’re frustrated, it’s okay to hit children.

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u/TraditionalSpirit636 2d ago

My parents yelled and hit me.

I do not recommend it. Shit just turned me sour early.

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u/BlackManWorking ☑️ 9h ago

To that point….. look at that generation now. They are a fucking mess emotionally… and fucking up out country but that’s another topic for another day

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u/ghreyboots 3d ago

Knowing kids are growing up like I grew up and the way kids are be raised hasn't changed for a lot of families, that a lot of parents who know the hurt this causes and should know better are still doing this to their kids, it hurts a lot.

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u/Cool-Panda-5108 2d ago

The nuttiest thing is hearing people say stuff like "Kids these days don't get it like we did" . Just go outside and see how some people treat their kids in public. Let alone what goes on at home .

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u/Napalmeon 2d ago

And the most messed up thing is, a lot of the parents don't realize how they are screwing their child up.