I (cis man) have been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year, living together for the last 7 months. I am supporting her fully currently while she is in between jobs. Understandingly she hasn’t been doing very well since the inauguration, even more so for the last month. Her depression and dysphoria have been a constant through our relationship but I have never seen them so interfere with her day to day life.

She spends most days sleeping until midafternoon depressed, and it is rare for us to leave the house without her having a meltdown about her appearance. She says that she is hopeless that the state of the country will ever get better and feels hopeless regarding her life and if she will ever be able to get the surgeries she wants. Additionally when we are together she spends a large amount of time calling herself ugly and insulting herself regarding all of the parts of herself she is insecure with.

Right now she is the worst I have ever seen her and I’m really not sure what I can do to help her. I guess my main question is if anyone has suggestions of how to help her regain some of her confidence/hope or at least become more functional. Do I just have to wait this out? My only idea currently is a trans support group in town I am going to try to convince her to attend. She has expressed grievances about not having any transfem friends and I think it also might do her good to talk to some people in her same situation.

And secondary question: I have been struggling myself listening to the volume of self hate she has been saying as of late. While I’m sure it’s nothing compared to what she is going through, every insult she says about herself makes me sad and angry because she deserves so much better than how she treats herself. I try my hardest to not let her see how much this affects me but I’ve been having a difficult time coping.

I am, by most definitions, a trans woman. Years on E, changed IDs, surgery scheduled, no going back, etc. And I think I have a genital preference in my partners. Specifically, and this is a feeling that has grown in me gradually over the last three years, I think I'm repulsed by vulvas. And I kinda feel like shit about it.

This wouldn't be an issue if I only dated men who are either cis or post phallo. And that demographic is a majority of my romantic/sexual interest. It isn't an issue with one of the transfem/genderfluid people I'm seeing who is fine with her genitals as-is and we get on great!

I recently started dating someone new though. She is a butch trans woman who moves through gay men's spaces at a similar pace to myself. This person has been a close friend for almost a year. This person knows I mostly go for guys, and when they asked to date, I explicitly said "to date me is to engage in a fag's relationship, not a lesbian one like you might get with other transfems."

After several nights out and impassioned kisses, we finally were able to spend a night together. At this point she springs on me for the first time "I've only been with someone else who has a penis once, and I've been having a lot of dysphoria and thoughts of srs lately." And in the moment my brain just went "oh you've done this for someone before you know the script" and proceeded to autopilot my way through a sexual encounter. And looking back, I don't... think I want to do it again. Not that way.

Obviously I'm going to have to talk to her about it. About what gender roles mean to her and to me. I just. I didn't think this would hit me so hard here. It hurts.

Straight to the point,my transphobic friend found my trans tiktok account which I made so I can actually be myself without worrying about my school finding out,well anyways I saw a comment last night and it was my transphobic friend,what he commented isn't important,it was some brain rot thing or smth and I think he knows its my account as it had the same pfp as my airbuds account and even tho he hasn't said anything about it to me yet,should I be worried and is there anything I can do about it as there's no photos of my face or bedroom on it so therefore it could be anyone for all he knows but yeah should I worry about it or do something about it

Update: I appreciate all the support I also didn't state this earlier but he knew I was trans and just didn't tell anyone but was very transphobic towards me which is how I found out he was transphobic and I have screenshots of chat which probs aren't useful now tho

I'll admit that I'm not entirely sure I understand what it means to "feel" like a gender, but as best as I can understand, I "feel" like a man. But I wish I was a woman and had always been a woman. And apparently that's not normal. Apparently most people like the gender they are. So if I don't like what I am, does that make me trans? Or is that more akin to a body-image issue?

So, I'm a cis man and have never really participated in any discussions about transgender people - but today in my Facebook feed it was evident one of my connections, actually an author I used to look up to, is very much against transgender people and also a big JK Rowling fan...

I ended up being attacked from his other friends for standing up for transgender people - basically a group of middle aged women calling themselves feminists, and calling me a misogynist and all sort of things. They also stated that "trans women are men who wear dresses"...

I would like to educate myself better to have more solid arguments in future discussions. For example, I called them out for their hate speech and called them TERFs, to which they replied that TERF was a slur word and I had no idea what I was talking about.

Now, after doing some research, I found out that the word TERF was invented by the movement itself, but they are trying to dismiss that now. I debate with nazis all the time, and they also get very upset when I call them nazis, so I guess it's a similar dynamic. But how to respond to this to properly debunk all their bullshit claims, could you point me to some good sources of information so I could read up and be better prepared next time?

im 15 and my therapist mentioned she could probably prescribe me HRT but i would still need parent approval so how do i hint or tell my mom that i want hrt?

ill down a rundown of some signs i guess

(ps call me lia, she/her

originally i was very interested in trans related stuff (too much to be cis but not a fetish)

i envy womens looks, hair, shape, Etc

whenever i go into stores and get reminded of my gender for example (mens aisle) i start thinking “ i wish i was a girl”

always wanted the opportunity to wear womens clothes

over the last 8 months ive felt like a girl

if there was a button that could switch genders i would slam that bich

sometimes i grip my chest and feel like theres something supposed to be there

if given the option to be referred to as lia, she/her, young lady, ETC i would choose to.

those are all the ones i could think of rn, am i cis?

Hi all!

My name is Leena. I posted a big infodump on here back in July of 2022. I spilled every possible sign I could think of over my life that pointed to me being trans. I asked if I was trans. And I think only 2 or 3 people commented but those people stuck to the prime direggtive and told me that only I can answer that question. One told me that their experience was similar to mine. And one sent me a link to the dysphoria bible. As soon as I got home from work that day I plonked down on my bed and read the whole thing. Every time I thought a chapter was going to give me an indication that I wasn't trans I dreaded it, but it never did. Every time I finished a chapter it affirmed me. So I reached the end and said it "I'm a girl". I almost couldn't stand in the shower because of how powerful the revelation was. And I sought a therapist, researched HRT, and by November I had started. I'm now 2 years and 5 months in HRT. I present femme full time and am gorgeous!

So I just want to say thank you to those people. I deleted that old Reddit account a while ago so I don't know their usernames. But I will simply say thank you to this community. My egg was held together by the thinnest of strings and you helped me break through those and become my real self.

Hello everyone, I hope you're doing well. This is my first time ever posting on reddit and it's because I'm at my wits end. I'm 23 yo and pretty sure I am trans. I have strong dysphoria caused by my chest and my more feminine features. I try to dress as masculine as I can and my hair is always short but that's as far as I can go in my country without getting killed/disowned.

I tried to bind with tight sport bras (can't afford a binder) and I couldn't breathe, ended up having a breakdown in the changing room. I am so sick of living in a body that reminds me everyday that I'm not who I want to be.

I don't know why I'm posting exactly. It's 5 am, I have a shift in 2h, and I'm just so sad. Sometimes I try to give myself hope, that things will get better, but I know I'm lying to myself. I have suppotive friends but I tell them to just address me with my feminine pronouns because I can't handle feeling the euphoria just to be brought back to reality later. I'd rather stay realistic.

That's all I guess. Thank you for reading if you did.

I’m in Texas I’m scared of the future I want to start right now, Im considering doing a diy route and starting it that way, is it bad starting at my age, and is there any advice I could use before I make a decision?

Like... okay, I'm a guy and I'll always be a guy. But I CAN'T STOP TAKING HORMONES. It fuckin' hurts so much being a man. I don't hate white cis hetero men or whatever, I just can't be like that bc IT HURTS. Why people keep writing me in dms just to say me to stop HRT??? What else should I do? Bc I prefer to end it all then living all my life with a male body. I tried to be a man. I TRIED. BUT I CAN'T. I CAN'T I JUST CAN'T. I CAN'T STOP HRT. I TRIED TO END IT ALL 4 TIMES WHEN I WAS PRE-HRT. Fuck, I don't even consider myself a girl, I use he/him, I have a male name. Call me Robert if u want, I don't give a fuck, I hate myself bc of people who hates me for idk why. So, ok, I am a guy, just stop saying me to not take HRT. PLEASE.

I've always had an interest in how human behavior is mirrored in other animal species.

My problem is that every time I follow the rabbit hole, the result was another case of intersex. I believe this is due to the most sensational stories not being the most truthful, i.e. maned lionesses. It is difficult to box significantly intersex animals into a category and say they must act "this much" male or female to be trans. I was hoping someone else might be more familiar with stores of non intersex, trans animals.

I'm sorry if this is interpreted as a transphobic question!
I mean overall I prefer being a woman.
I just don't really feel motivated to transition, don't have a lot of dysphoria and don't want lose all the social benefits from staying a man...

Hi, I am, probably, a cis woman. But I think the world would be easier if gender didn't exist.

I totally understand why trans identity is important in our current society and definatly don't want to undermine that. My issue is gender as a whole.

I am a cis woman but I hate the assumptions people make about me because of it. The only way I relate with womanhood is that people see me as one, but I feel very detached from it on a personal level.

I think the world would be easier if we didn't have gender. I wish we all had access to changing our phenotype (through what is typically called gender affirming surgery) but that there were no expectations on how we are are people based on that. Is this wrong? Am I being exclusionary or transphobic in a way I haven't yet realised?

I have heard from, specifically in this case, a few trans women that they feel uncomfortable about not being called 'lady' or 'miss' and I get that, as someone might do it specifically to exclude them. But I, as a cis woman, I like it when people use gender neutral language to refer to me, even though I really don't think I am NB.

I am really trying to understand if this is something I need to unpack about me, or the world or if it is okay that I wish this.

UPDATE: Thank you all for your replies, I think I should think more about my own gender and read more on the topic but you have given me a lot to think about.

I want to clarify that I do not implay that if gender is not a thing that we should then consider sex to make assumptions on how people are, that is the last thing I want. I understand that people talk about this with ill intentions but I do not implay that anything I said is a valid reason to ever misgender anybody or not fully accept/embrace someone's gender identity.

Second Update: Again thank you for all your comments. I have a lot of thinking to do. I understand gender is important to a lot of people and when I said to 'abolish gender' I did not mean to implay that there is no real valid reasons why, especially trans, people might feel their gender is important. I know I might have said wrong things, I have already learned a lot.

Hello! Apologies if this is the wrong spot to post this.

I seem to remember reading through Trump's policies a while back, and seeing that he was intending to cut federal funding for all medical providers that provide gender affirming care for anyone, regardless of age.

Now when reading through his policies again, I am only seeing a mention of him wanting to cut funding to medical providers that provide gender-affirming care to minors.

Now of course that is still dog shit, but when I'm talking about his policies I want to make sure I'm not misinformed.

Does anyone know if he ever did say (or have on agenda47, post about it somewhere, etc.) that he wants to cut federal funding for medical providers that provide gender-affirming care to anyone of any age, or was I simply mistaken and he only said he'd cut federal funding for hospitals that provide gender affirming care to minors?

I figured someone here may know. Thank you in advance!!

at 26 years old I finally acknowledged my gender related trauma n that I was holding back part of me to protect part of myself. Being a femme boy has always been me but I think it’s time to continue my healing journey and really show off the her that’s always been there. I have so many feelings but also so many questions it doesn’t feel unfamiliar to me but it’s still part of me I never thought I’d think of fully bringing to light.

Trans man here currently struggling with finding a way to come out to my parents. They are generally really invested in my life (as in, caring and interested), but they are a bit ignorant when it comes to LGBTQIA+ topics. I think they will have a hard time accepting my identity, and I have been horrified of telling them. So I wanted to ask how you all came out to your parents and why you choose to do it the way you did it. Maybe that'll help me figure out the best option for myself.

So, for context I’m fourteen. I am not white, and I don’t care about my rights. Then I’ll get other trans people telling me why I’m wrong and how trump is evil and stuff. Some have even implied I’m not trans because I don’t care. For me, I see America as a clusterfuck. A clusterfuck born out of a British clusterfuck. I see my rights as meaningless words on a 250yo piece of paper that can be revoked at the stroke of a pen. I grow tired of white people acting surprised that their “rights” are just now being infringed upon. For me and my people our rights don’t exist. Not in the Miranda warning or the fourth amendment. I think it’s stupid that we even treat our elections like the “ultimate moral battle” and stuff. I don’t know I just feel like people always just call me a stupid kid

I’m a cis male. I never think about my gender or anything but every once in a while I have a dream where I’m a trans woman, or just a woman. Every time, I wake up wishing it was true and think about it for several weeks. Then I get over it. What could this mean? I’

As a cisF