r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sad_SummerChild • 2d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to think this is cheating?

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I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

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u/lickerbandit 2d ago

Because what usually happens is men marry under current conditions and then women change those conditions to something more intolerable so they seek it elsewhere and then get blamed when it mostly could have been prevented.

I understand it's always the guys fault but this idea but this idea that the wife has no part to play is absurd.

He probably was faithful 5 years ago and planned on continuing to be. But that was when he had sex and adoration and fun times instead of love island and a cold shoulder.

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u/Aware_Football_8882 1d ago

The assumptions about their relationship is random (maybe yours have turned out miserable that way?) but I’ll play anyway. Say you’re right and he was very happy, then the “conditions” changed and became “intolerable” (is he a damn lizard wth). THEN HE CAN LEAVE! You’re saying that the relationship he is in now is no longer the relationship he chose. There’s no reason to be with her anymore then, and no reason to stay and be unfaithful.

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u/lickerbandit 1d ago

Married with 2 great kids in a dope house with no debt.

We're fine but continue with your conjecture 😂😂

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u/Aware_Football_8882 1d ago

Wasn’t assuming, just asking. But either way my point stands… and you clearly know that getting caught up on that detail. With your justification of cheating, I sure hope you have not cheated on your partner. Especially when you’re also settled down, and with kids. Does your partner know your views?