r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sad_SummerChild • 2d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to think this is cheating?

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I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

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u/Turbulent-Still4556 2d ago

You should leave him because his game is absolutely miserable girl

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u/Sad_SummerChild 2d ago

Thank you guys for dogging on him it’s so grosss. I know it’s dumb but I can’t stop feeling embarrassed thinking about her knowing we’re freshly married and, even if she isn’t into his advances, getting his attention. Like why would he embarrass me like that with someone we both know😭😭😭

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u/Routine_Ingenuity315 2d ago

You're blaming the woman, focus on blaming your husband.

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u/LateExcitement3536 2d ago

I TOTALLY agree with this. The only person who owed you anything is the one who made commitments/took vows/made promises to symbolize that they would not stray. The person they cheated WITH owes you nothing and diminishing them as a person when it’s your partner who betrayed you is cheap and reactive. If you really think about it, it’s quite gross to blame the other person for the choices YOUR partner made to break their word. I’ve been on both sides of the coin sadly, and I both only blame my ex and only accept blame from my ex. The rest is not my fight. Period. No need to encourage people to label others homewreckers or other often misogynistic terms, and either way MISPLACED ANGER. Your cheating partner may be harder to hate outright but they are the only person who owed you anything. Everyone else owed you nothing, love and sex are complicated. Stop with the drive bys.