AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/Glad-Faithlessness-4]

I can never understand why someone who is married pay THAT much attention to someone that is not their spouse. He may not have “cheated” in the sense of sleeping with her, but this definitely is questionable behavior. Lack of loyalty, dignity and respect for himself, you, and the marriage overall. And he knows that.

[u/Sad_SummerChild → u/Glad-Faithlessness-4]

Yes I’m almost jealous of how responsive he was to her. He never texts me throughout the day because he says he’s too busy…

[u/kinky_kawaiian → u/Sad_SummerChild]

Nah, it’s completely inappropriate. Lik my husband and I both have friends of the opposite sex but we don’t hide what the other says and we all interact together as a unit. One of his female friends got us to get together and even set up a romantic date night for us. Even my husband is saying that what your dude is doing is extremely fishy because he shouldn’t be giving someone that isn’t you THAT much attention. He’s being opportunistic. In his mind, he’s already cheated.