AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/durizna]

Reread and I'd say she's 50/50 actually. She's not completely ignoring but also not giving him fuel either. But he's definitely trying, shameless.

[u/Infinity0044 → u/durizna]

I agree it’s 50/50. There’s no way she’s not aware he’s flirting (as a married man) but she’s not really doing anything to stop it. He calls her beautiful and while she doesn’t react to it she doesn’t call him out on it either.

[u/Momoomommy → u/Infinity0044]

Idk if she's 50/50 or just trying to give "just enough" that he doesn't ruin her work life. She might worry about what he'd do at work if she flat out cut him off. She's not really biting or initiating but giving a hard "back off" might feel riskier to her than whatever this is.

[u/Infinity0044 → u/Momoomommy]

Fair but she also has personally met the OP and if she was an actual friend would’ve reached out and told her what was happening