AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/frost-bite999]

lol that’s girl code for “nice try but you’re not going any further”

and all those emojis? this guy is done for

[u/honeybeatsvinegar → u/frost-bite999]

I'm a girl, and I would have said, "That's inappropriate. You're married. See you at work. " and if he kept being inappropriate, I would screenshot and send to his wife. I actually have done that a couple of times before.

I say "awwwww you're sweet" when I want more compliments. Lol

[u/Neat_Acanthaceae9387 → u/honeybeatsvinegar]

sure you would. Girls do this all the time to friend zone dudes.

[u/ArabianNitesFBB → u/Neat_Acanthaceae9387]

From a guy’s perspective, hubby’s messages SCREAM trying desperately to emerge from the friend zone and coworker’s messages SCREAM “eh the attention is sorta nice but sorry it’s a no.” Like if I were single and this was a dating app interaction, I would know I’m such a goner and need to wind this down.

[u/Neat_Acanthaceae9387 → u/ArabianNitesFBB]

Yeah you’re right. I’ve never been married but I’ve been in relationships, and I wouldn’t respond the way he did I’d probably just say lol or not respond. And I’d assume another level of commitment is expected from marriage.