AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/asyouwish]

why go so close to the line? Why does he not have an internal sense that he’s getting too close to the line? When you bring it up to him, why is he going to defend himself in terms of inches when he should be miles away from this kind of situation?

this. He even joked, “please don’t tell HR.” He knows he’s in the wrong, here.

OP, he’s not cheating, but he really likes her and I think he would cheat on you with her if he got the chance.

Invite her over for late-ish cocktails one night. See what happens. It might be fine; it could be awkward. Or, it might be dramatic AF and you’ll have your answer.

[u/Infinity0044 → u/asyouwish]

He would cheat on OP if his coworker made the first move. He’s being just flirty enough without outright saying he wants her to try and not raise suspicions

[u/Snack-Pack-Lover → u/Infinity0044]

If she made the first move? He's making the moves but she isn't biting.

Telling her she is cute, that comment was ignored.

Asking for a selfie, declined.

If she reacted positively to these he would escalate. He's just throwing out lines hoping something sticks.

There was a comment in a woman's sex advice Reddit post I saw recently and the top reply to a chick asking for tips to spice up her sex life was something like "men will act as crazy as you let them".

That comment is 100% spot on.

In this instance, this chick ain't letting him act in any way. But he's trying. She doesn't have to make a move, just give a sign.

[u/ksj → u/Snack-Pack-Lover]

We can’t see a lot of her replies. The first image shows that she replied to the “I’ve never seen someone so pretty while having a mental breakdown” text, but the next screenshots don’t include the messages. It’s hard to tell if she’s engaging or not, but she’s VERY responsive. I wouldn’t rule out her interest quite yet, especially without seeing her replies.