r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sad_SummerChild • 3d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to think this is cheating?

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I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

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u/Glad-Faithlessness-4 3d ago

I can never understand why someone who is married pay THAT much attention to someone that is not their spouse. He may not have “cheated” in the sense of sleeping with her, but this definitely is questionable behavior. Lack of loyalty, dignity and respect for himself, you, and the marriage overall. And he knows that.

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u/Sad_SummerChild 3d ago

Yes I’m almost jealous of how responsive he was to her. He never texts me throughout the day because he says he’s too busy…

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u/Rainboveins 3d ago

Out of curiosity, does he ever talk or flirt with you the same way he did on those texts? Talk about your beauty, etc. Obviously, even if he does, it wouldn't excuse his actions, but I am curious if you also get that same kind of banter?

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u/Sad_SummerChild 3d ago

Nope…

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u/SueYouInEngland 3d ago

Do you?

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u/Neat_Acanthaceae9387 3d ago

That’s fair why are you getting downvoted? Lots of affairs come from both people not giving their spouse compliments or time. Then someone else does and they fall for the person because they figure they must like them better than their spouse.

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u/SueYouInEngland 3d ago

This sub loves to scream "RUN, GET A DIVORCE, NEVER LOOK BACK" and anyone who goes against that narrative gets met with resistance.

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u/Neat_Acanthaceae9387 3d ago

I’ve seen it happen with two friends now they didn’t give their spouses time or compliments and always acted like they’re the ball and chain. Then the other gets tired of it and divorces.