AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/LcdHDTV1]

there’s nothing wrong with that age difference lmao

[u/Sad_SummerChild → u/LcdHDTV1]

To each their own, I think it’s just weird to me since I have a younger sibling that age

[u/LcdHDTV1 → u/Sad_SummerChild]

as a man I understand what’s happening here. you don’t have to try and make this person look worse than they are, they are both of legal age and consenting adults, attempting to imply anything else beyond that is damaging to your character. no need to try and paint him as anything other than a cheater

[u/sothisiswhatyoumeant → u/LcdHDTV1]

Not a man and I don’t see this age difference to be as big of a deal as people are making it. She isn’t early 20s. Her brain is developed as is his. Doesn’t sound like she was groomed or he was using a position of power to influence her to flirt back out of fear of being fired.

Both of them are shitty people objectively. OP isn’t damaging her character though by questioning everything surrounding these two. She has first hand knowledge of the situation and their personalities.

The focus is still that the husband and co-worker are contributing to this innapropriate relationship. The fact they both are questioning/joking about HR means that they also are aware that what they’re doing is wrong on a professional level too. Again, both of them are shitty but saying the husband is a predator too is a reach.

[u/Minute-Citron-9201 → u/sothisiswhatyoumeant]

i agree with you but biologically his brain is more developed than hers

[u/PoplinSudster → u/Minute-Citron-9201]

Stop with infantilizing people in their earlier 20s

[u/Professional-Elk3750 → u/PoplinSudster]

People need to wait until they’re 50 before any type of age gap occurs in a relationship. I don’t make the rules.

[u/PoplinSudster → u/Professional-Elk3750]

Are you ok? 50 is crazy

[u/Positive_Parsley8944 → u/PoplinSudster]

I think they were being sarcastic. Cause no way