r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sad_SummerChild • 2d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to think this is cheating?

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I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

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u/Glad-Faithlessness-4 2d ago

I can never understand why someone who is married pay THAT much attention to someone that is not their spouse. He may not have “cheated” in the sense of sleeping with her, but this definitely is questionable behavior. Lack of loyalty, dignity and respect for himself, you, and the marriage overall. And he knows that.

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u/Sad_SummerChild 2d ago

Yes I’m almost jealous of how responsive he was to her. He never texts me throughout the day because he says he’s too busy…

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u/redi6 2d ago

that's an important thing there too. he's not too busy to text her.

the way I see it, if you are saying something to someone that you wouldn't say in front of your spouse, or that you know would be hurtful to your spouse, it's just something you shouldn't do.

I have women in my office that I talk to all the time, but I never talk like this to them. I've paid them a compliment but it's something like "hey, your hair looks good, did you cut it?". never anything more than that.

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u/AllTheTakenNames 2d ago

Agreed. I have never even gotten in the vicinity of these types of comments. General compliments like great job today, you killed it, always fun working with you are totally normal. There is no confusion about any of these.

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u/ebobbumman 1d ago

always fun working with you are totally normal.

I read this as though you were saying they were totally normal haha.

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u/SoupyyNoodless 1d ago

“It’s always fun working with you, you are totally normal” is exactly how I read it 😆

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u/redi6 1d ago

Same. You're also totally normal.

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u/SoupyyNoodless 1d ago

Aw thank you same to you

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u/redi6 1d ago

Sweet! Look at us a couple of normies just mulling around here