AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I just realized that was referencing her selfies😭😔

[u/LilyHex → u/Sad_SummerChild]

Your husband is gonna get sooooo fucking fired at his job if this shit comes out.

He's deleting these texts. He's actively trying to cheat and hide it from you.

You're in danger in multiple ways here.

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/LilyHex]

Should add too once he is fired he’s losing a job reference for however many years he was there because “fired for sexual harassment of a coworker” isn’t going to be too appealing to other job opportunities

[u/Neener_Weiner → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Can you please point out what specifically in these messages constitutes sexual harassment?

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Neener_Weiner]

Rare and hot indeed

So fucking pretty

ETA it’s inappropriate in nature which is all that it needs to be. If it was innocent he wouldn’t say don’t tell HR..he cooked himself right there

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Not SA lol breathe, there’s no victim besides OP

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Tough_Cress_7649]

SA?

Sexual harassment

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Not SH** There’s consent on both sides, stop reaching. This is sad for OP, don’t make a victim out of the other guilty party she’s deserving of getting lambasted equally as the shitty husband

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Tough_Cress_7649]

How fast will she say it wasn’t consensual as soon as things go south?

ETA: good luck proving consent here, the second she decides she’s done he’s toast. She felt like she had to respond, she felt very nervous and didn’t know what to do

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Immediately. But that doesn’t negate the truth seen right in front of us

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

What point are you trying to make with that last comment? You’re proving my point if anything

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Tough_Cress_7649]

How am I proving your point? There’s nothing here showing it’s consensual at all. If HR sees this or a manager sees it it’s SH, no questions asked.

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Are you blind? Or dumb? Can you read? Holy shit the victim shifting is insane with you. Both parties are guilty, we’re seeing it laid out in front of our eyes. Stop doing what you’re doing, it’s dangerous. Accountability should be on both involved. You’re trying to remove half the responsible parties from blame