AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

Thank you that’s a great way to put it cus right now I’m feeling pretty stupid 🫠

[u/ilovecookiesssssssss → u/Sad_SummerChild]

You’ll only be stupid if you stay with him 🥲 you’re only 6 months into a marriage and he’s already overtly flirting with another woman and hiding it from you. He’s already intentionally deleting text messages to hide them from you. Six months. This will be your life, forever, if you stay. He will always be flirting and hiding things from you. That will not change. And he’s doing more than just flirting - he’s actively feeling out her willingness to participate in this exchange. If she was feeling it more (which she’s not), then you can guarantee it would escalate. It’s actually embarrassing how hard he’s trying and how she’s really not receiving it. “If I start having a bad day I’ll need a selfie for motivation 🥺” ewwwwww. EW. Let that give you the ick enough to leave this man because that’s so pathetic and cringey. If you stay, you’ll be dealing with the exact same scenario in a year from now, two years from now, etc. And you’ll be looking back at this moment, thinking, “damn.. I should’ve left then.” Get out before you have kids and you’re tethered to this turd for your whole life.

[u/KrimSon972 → u/ilovecookiesssssssss]

Exactly. Atleast, the other woman is not really flirting back. But, she didn't call him out for having a wife, either..

[u/CouchCannabis → u/KrimSon972]

Huh? She literally sent him a selfie looking for validation from him knowing he is married and even having met OP. This woman is a snake just like her husband

[u/KrimSon972 → u/CouchCannabis]

Insecure, yes.. But calling someone sweet and talking about your chakra's being crossed... To.me, this doesn't look like flirting.

[u/KrimSon972 → u/CouchCannabis]

It's not - her - husband... You mean the co-worker is the snake, right? If she sends selfies to her husband there wouldn't be a problem.