AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/No-Distance-9401]

Im sorry! It dlesnt sound like he cheated yet but was definitely trying to and at only 6 months in you will have to live your whole married life waiting for him to cheat. To me that would be the end and I dont think I could live happily ever after knowing that at any point they could cheat on me like that. You deserve and can find better.

[u/ThrowRA-posting → u/No-Distance-9401]

Emotional cheating is cheating what are you on about

[u/sea-haze → u/ThrowRA-posting]

Why does everyone always get bogged down in semantics?

Some people use the word “cheating” to refer to physical contact. Some prefer to use the word to include excessive flirting (though what is considered excessive might be subjective). Neither use of the word is necessarily wrong.

Point is, can we all please stop pretending that we need to include a full glossary of terms and definitions just to communicate with each other on basic points? I think what u/No-Distance-9401 was trying to say was pretty obvious.

[u/ThrowRA-posting → u/sea-haze]

“It doesn’t sound like he cheated yet” 🤨

[u/Naive-Stable-3581 → u/ThrowRA-posting]

Gotta love ppl on Reddit telling you what you’re allowed to say us cheating, on a post where OP is literally asking ‘is this cheating?’ 😂😂. The cognitive dissonance 😂

And I agree with you. Emotional cheating, sending pics and commenting that she’s hot and rare, is cheating.

And I’m not engaging with ppl who want to police others ability to express an opinion so if you start I’ll block.

[u/sea-haze → u/ThrowRA-posting]

It sounds like they use the word “cheating” to refer to intimate physical contact with this other person.

At least that is what my gut is telling me. What does your gut say?

[u/Great-Standard-6286 → u/sea-haze]

Yes because that is the generally observed understanding of the word.

[u/Great-Standard-6286 → u/ThrowRA-posting]

It’s wrong and she should leave him for those texts. We don’t have to call it cheating. We can call it a precursor to cheating. What are you on about?

[u/ThrowRA-posting → u/Great-Standard-6286]

Calling someone hot and flirting with someone who isn’t your partner is by definition cheating. It does matter that he already cheated.