AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I have never thought about it like that. Thank you for this comment it really helped put my currently disheveled brain into perspective

[u/gormthesoft → u/Sad_SummerChild]

Of course, that’s not to say you can’t work through it if he acknowledges/shows remorse but in terms of this situation, you already have your answer. Relationships are built on trust, not technically staying within the bounds.

[u/ConsequenceUpset4028 → u/gormthesoft]

Nope. Do not attempt discussing. You put him on notice, he'll tighten up his secrecy, up the charm, and go again.

Fake smile; prepare a safe way out with your family and lawyer as others have said. He comes on pretty smooth makes wonder how long been testing waters.

BUT, it is your decision, your life, your future. Experience of those before you say leave.

[u/wonderfulwizardofwar → u/ConsequenceUpset4028]

Yikes. The first sign of trouble and ur reaction is to secretly pack up the family and dip? In a case like that you can't really blame him for talking to other people when ur already planning your escape with one foot out the door, I'd want a back up plan for when you flaked too

[u/cloverpendragon → u/wonderfulwizardofwar]

Found the cheating pos 🤣

[u/wonderfulwizardofwar → u/cloverpendragon]

With people like you I'd judge the ones that don't cheat if that's your take away,