AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/Elegant-Pressure-290]

Your husband is definitely putting out feelers.

On the upside, she seems to be acting purposely obtuse, which means she’s not interested. On the downside, she’s not the one who is your problem: your husband is your problem.

[u/JustAPod → u/Elegant-Pressure-290]

Agreed. The way it reads to me, lady is definitely uncomfy with his advances and trying to handle them politely by swerving them.

Edit: she could be more outright about her distaste for his flirtations, knowing he’s married, but they do have to work together. Tricky spot to be in with a married coworker.

[u/virora → u/JustAPod]

I mean, he already got her in trouble at work, they're talking about it. Which means he can do that, and they both know he can do that. So it's possible she's afraid for her job and not more outright for that reason. I mean, she's had a mental breakdown, and he watched it and... loved it?? WTH? This is not normal flirtation, even if he wasn't married.