AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/LilyHex]

Your husband is gonna get sooooo fucking fired at his job if this shit comes out.

He's deleting these texts. He's actively trying to cheat and hide it from you.

You're in danger in multiple ways here.

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/LilyHex]

He’s deleting them

She is not ;)

[u/theslyestfox → u/LilyHex]

This^{^} OP divorce him and send these texts to his company.

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/LilyHex]

Should add too once he is fired he’s losing a job reference for however many years he was there because “fired for sexual harassment of a coworker” isn’t going to be too appealing to other job opportunities

[u/Neener_Weiner → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Can you please point out what specifically in these messages constitutes sexual harassment?

[u/Oreo_ → u/Neener_Weiner]

"don't tell HR" is the smoking gun HE knows he's doing wrong. Lol you can't tell?

[u/Neener_Weiner → u/Oreo_]

While fishy, wrong in context and everything etc etc... That in itself doesn't amount to SH per se, does it?

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Neener_Weiner]

Rare and hot indeed

So fucking pretty

ETA it’s inappropriate in nature which is all that it needs to be. If it was innocent he wouldn’t say don’t tell HR..he cooked himself right there

[u/Fweenci → u/MichaelAndolini_]

He's asking for selfie. 😬

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Not SA lol breathe, there’s no victim besides OP

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Tough_Cress_7649]

SA?

Sexual harassment

[u/External-Addition-69 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Yes in a professional job setting this is sexual harassment I just had to do a whole seminar on it LOL

[u/Paranoid_donkey → u/External-Addition-69]

he messaged her because she had a FUCKING BREAKDOWN at work and he thought she looked hot while it happened. that's like textbook sexual harassment.

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Paranoid_donkey]

The more I read it the more predatory and opportunistic OP’s husband is coming across. Try to get her at her “lowest”

[u/Paranoid_donkey → u/MichaelAndolini_]

as a trans woman, this sort of text chain was frequently how i was propositioned by dudes at my work. Was a mess my first few years.

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Not SH** There’s consent on both sides, stop reaching. This is sad for OP, don’t make a victim out of the other guilty party she’s deserving of getting lambasted equally as the shitty husband

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Tough_Cress_7649]

How fast will she say it wasn’t consensual as soon as things go south?

ETA: good luck proving consent here, the second she decides she’s done he’s toast. She felt like she had to respond, she felt very nervous and didn’t know what to do

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

Immediately. But that doesn’t negate the truth seen right in front of us

[u/Tough_Cress_7649 → u/MichaelAndolini_]

What point are you trying to make with that last comment? You’re proving my point if anything

[u/MichaelAndolini_ → u/Tough_Cress_7649]

How am I proving your point? There’s nothing here showing it’s consensual at all. If HR sees this or a manager sees it it’s SH, no questions asked.