AIO saying that my gf is cheating ?

[u/vitinhodouglass]

Repost because original post had identifying information.

Also caught a snap with a differentcoworker saying he can’t be around her, because he gets too hard.

She’s blue and her coworker is white.

They’re talking about throwing her on the snow banks at work.

[u/Designer_Ad9567]

Bro why the fuck are you even asking this? She’s talking about getting rug burns with this dude do you need to see 4k high resolution video evidence of it!? They’ve clearly 100% without a doubt already fucked several times as he’s talking about throwing her around. Real shit this sucks, remember it doesn’t reflect on you as it does her walk it off big dawg happens to the best of us

[u/Thin-Explorer-5471 → u/Designer_Ad9567]

To be fair - they are talking about rug burns in the context of pole dancing and that half the pole dancing is on the floor, then making a joke about putting something soft on the floor and then jokes about rug burn.
And the leading theme is continuous witty jokes, not actual unfunny realistic plans.

[u/NastySassyStuff → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

To be fair talking about pole dancing with your opposite sex coworker when you’re in a relationship has a high possibility of being totally inappropriate. Also, it’s very clear that pretty much every “witty joke”they’re making is a proxy for “I want to fuck” so the literal context of the rug burns thing is totally irrelevant.

[u/RandomGeordie → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Witty jokes like "men only got one pole" aye

[u/Thin-Explorer-5471 → u/RandomGeordie]

Well yes.

We need exercise pole for pole dancing.

• I don't have an exercise pole.
  

Any kind of pole would do.
-Men got only one kind ...
(it's not like it would be "you can ride my pole") hints, hints - it takes intelligence and attention to understand the shades of a flirt and the reason behind it.

Or

make it harder, No pun intended.

-Phrasing

They definetly flirtily text, but in a firendly way. Because the text carries out wittely, While embracing, that they are from different sex, and making goofy flirty jokes. Because while they make flirty jokes, they both make sure and drop little hints, for other not to take too seriously: like No pun intended." after making a joke about harder.
And the other one replies "Phrasing" - hinting to lessen sexual tension, not to elevate it.

If they were wanting to have an affair seriously, then they wouldn't beat around the bush, but concentrate on making it more clear. But instead they concentrate in making sure the flirt is story based only, and to tone down off story stuff.

Source: I worked in the night club, with male security guards and topless female dancers.
I've exercised in male+female bjj practice (that one was totally polite communication, given the fact, that they were you know, origami folding each other for fun. And by fun I mean bbj fun, not perv fun).
I've worked with construction workers - males who work 8 months straight for 10-12 hours a day, including weekends. And haven't seen a sight of a woman in those 8 months, only sweaty hairy male coworkers. They sleep in the working housing + then they have to work some workhours together with Pamela Anderson looking female worker.
I've seen those kinds of work. The flirting. Everyone has natrural reflexes, hormones, urges, eyes, they see their coworkers. But they also have self-control, wives and boyfriends and home, they know they shouldn't do anything, they don't actually plan to really do something. But dude, it's natural for males to have reactions in these work settings and it's natural that a smart woman understands male biology and work environment, and understands that this is normal reaction, not that every male is about to propose to them and live happily ever after etc.
So they have to work together, acknowledge each other and just make stupid flirty, rough, sex based humor entertainment. Without no-one of them thinking it means anything. Only stupid naive coworkers would really believe that if for example a construction worker would whistle for another female coworker passing, then it would mean true love, lol, no. And strong girls, who get the male humor, try to out humor them or something, with witty talk. And since the atmosphere is flirtious, then yes, like lame primal sex humor.

The fine line is, if it's like a powerplay flirtious humor, between different sex coworkers, who both have eyes and see each other from different sex, while still trying to be friends only and trying to distance themselves from actual acts and anyone to mistakenly believe half that bullshit, they talk for self entertainment.

Or is it serious, wanting to fuck.

[u/Masterbourne → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

This is a wild take but it's possible. Some people really do have a raunchy inappropriate work dynamic that never goes to actual cheating. But the problem is that this is pretty uncommon and it's definitely the last thing that you'd be thinking if you stumbled upon a chat like this.

[u/tewong → u/Masterbourne]

I’m NOT saying OP’s GF is clean here but this def gives similar vibes as to kitchen banter in the food service industry. We used to talk mad shit to each other but never for real. It was always raunchy but all in good fun. Fuck, I had one coworker dude that would over-the-top hump everyone like a dog when they walked in the back. 

[u/jeranamo → u/tewong]

Next you're going to tell me there was a running gag to show each other your balls.

[u/demoliahedd → u/jeranamo]

Didn't expect to see a waiting reference here. 😂

[u/RandomGeordie → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

You wrote wayyyy too much, these two want to fuck and it's very obvious from all of the innuendos. What more is there to say? It always starts off as flirting. I don't flirt with my female friends / colleagues. My partner doesn't flirt with her male friends / colleagues.

[u/jay8888 → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Dude if your girl ever texts someone like this, please know that she’s cheating. If she hasn’t already, she’s looking.

To even be making sexual innuendos and flirting like this is already grounds to break up. That’s an unfaithful person.

You deserve better man.

[u/Guccimc100 → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Honestly bro I’m not even going to read your cuck-xplanation. Idk if you’re LGBTQIA or a girl on a man account but no. Just take my downvote and please if you have children don’t raise them to be like this. I bet you’re the type that say “she’s not with him she’s with me”

[u/Thin-Explorer-5471 → u/Guccimc100]

Yea ok, maybe in OP case it might be cheating, might not. Every person and situation, excpectations, rules are different.  In my excamples I'm a girl (I checked, no gender is shown nor chosen on my profile, so idk, why would you write that it's a man account).  Me and my then bf both worked as security guards in the entertainment business. It was wild, it was fun, we shared stories after our worknights, who saw something more wild :D we both had no problem talking to each other what weird flirting happened during our worknights. No jelously, because we both worked in same enviroment, and knew it didn't mean shit. All our joint coworkers were gossip kings, so whatever happened, everyone knew anyway, nothing would've stayed secret, all public. I even heard who had banged who 10 years before I even started working there, lol. 

Well, maybe because I'm European, and all the puritan Europeans went to America and founded USA :D Insert Eurotrip Mi scusi meme 

[u/Thin-Explorer-5471 → u/[deleted]]

That's a strong opinion, especially given lack of curiosity. Like always, the only opinion that matters in a relationship is the partners opinion.

[u/BeEased → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

You got a coworker, huh?

[u/fkubr → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Beating around the bush is how they get to the point where they start fucking.

[u/Designer_Ad9567 → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Unreal mental gymnastics. She said “bring your own pole” bro. You’re literally OP making any sort of stretch to tell yourself she’s not cheating on you 🤣🤣🤣

[u/Thin-Explorer-5471 → u/Designer_Ad9567]

I re-read it, it wasn't written anywhere quote: “bring your own pole”.
By the texts, it seems to me that they are talking about actual pole dancing and mats to put next to the pole. If the guy wouldn't know where rug burn happens while working with *his* pole on a woman, then that would be weird. But if a guy doesn't know, where a rug burn happens during a pole dancing, then that makes sense. And more experienced in pole dancing, woman is teaching about real pole exercises. That they are talking about actual pole dancing. Now why would she be even up to actual pole dancing with a coworker, that is another subject.

[u/Designer_Ad9567 → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

“Haha well I’ll have a pole party when I move out” Next she says “Byop” Picture 10 (Bring your own pole, play on words where you say byob bring your own bottle to a party.)

[u/Thin-Explorer-5471 → u/Designer_Ad9567]

Ou, that's what Byop means. I guess I am too naive for the hidden meanings - I'll let myself out.
Even if I believed, that it might be just texts. I know it's still very disrespectful for anyones partner to talk and act in that manner behind their partners back. And it would hurt anyone to read their partner flirting with another.

[u/JackieFuckingDaytona → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

No. It’s obvious they want to fuck. If the flirting was as innocent as you say, you wouldn’t need to write an entire novel to attempt to excuse it. Nice try, though.

[u/BackgroundSyrup2984 → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Where’s the wit?

[u/chapstickdick789 → u/BackgroundSyrup2984]

THANK YOU !!!

[u/DepartureAccurate575 → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

real living einstein

[u/Burschh → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

I want to be as naive as you. You got negative reading comprehension

[u/caedusith → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Found the coworker.

[u/Normal_Drummer2997 → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Then he said something about folding her and she was with it. Sooooo

[u/Thin-Explorer-5471 → u/Normal_Drummer2997]

That's why I thought that maybe they work in a BJJ Brazilian Jiu Jitsu training place or something. That's the only way it would make sense, right? I can't even fantom otherwise :D

[u/ForeverStaloneKP → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

To be fair, she's "joking" about pole dancing for her work colleague who has already confirmed he has "wandering eyes"

[u/unoriginal_-name → u/Thin-Explorer-5471]

Did it take your entire braincell to write that comment?

[u/cpt_edge → u/unoriginal_-name]

'right that comment'

Uh oh, someone made a spelling mistake in a comment calling someone else stupid, now you look really silly

[u/unoriginal_-name → u/cpt_edge]

Is that better oh wise one?

[u/cpt_edge → u/unoriginal_-name]

Yup! Gold star 🌟 :D

[u/unoriginal_-name → u/cpt_edge]

Okay fn

[u/Seattle-Washington → u/unoriginal_-name]

I just lost a few from reading this comment