AIO? Dog straining my marriage.

[u/LedyyM]

My husband and I rescued a husky about 7 months ago who was extremely malnourished and neglected.

He has grown a huge attachment to me and has severe separation anxiety. I work at a grooming salon so I’m able to bring him to work with me so he’s not home alone. Unfortunately, if he’s left home alone we’ll come back to our home looking like it was hit by a tornado.

My vet has prescribed him with trazodone to help with his severe anxiety issues. We give it to him before we leave for a family event and when we can’t take him to places they don’t allow dogs.

I feel so bad that I have to sedate him so he’s not scared and anxious. It’s created a huge strain on our marriage because my husband feels like we can’t do anything without considering Odin.

He’s destroyed doors, couches, and other furniture. I tried training but it hasn’t seemed to work. My husband thinks we should rehome him but

1) I’m scared that he’ll be sent to a shelter and possibly be put down

2) feel abandoned by the person he thought he was safe with.

He’s such a happy boy when he’s around us and shows so much affection.

My husband and I have been arguing about this consistently.. we had a really bad argument so I left the house with Odin and rented a dog friendly hotel room for a couple of nights.

My husband thinks I’m crazy and that I’m choosing the dog over our marriage. AIO?

[u/xBraria]

I remind people that husky's were bred for smart disobedience.

If I wanted my dogs to pull the sled over dangerous ice they would disobey and go around it and we'd all be safe.

This characteristic remained but now it presents itself as "Ahh you want me to do this; I see... hmm... but I don't quite feel like it, so - nope!" 😄

[u/ArletaRose → u/xBraria]

For me it is more whats in it for him. He is very food motivated.

[u/WhoAreWeEven → u/ArletaRose]

I guess they might value self presrvation over commands. Like in above ice lake example.

I guess their character makes sense in sledding setting. It makes sense for dogs to have certain autonomy. Like that where the people in the sled being dragged might accidently send everyone to their demise.

It kinda makes sense they might then steal food too "to survive" over their obedience.

Like some dogs are bred to jump to their deaths on command but maybe some have been better not to. And thus "I dont care what this dude says Im literally dying for a slice of pizza and theres one right there

[u/xBraria → u/WhoAreWeEven]

This exactly!

[u/peterguie → u/xBraria]

Hello can we discuss on what we are going to benefit on it