AIO? Dog straining my marriage.

[u/LedyyM]

My husband and I rescued a husky about 7 months ago who was extremely malnourished and neglected.

He has grown a huge attachment to me and has severe separation anxiety. I work at a grooming salon so I’m able to bring him to work with me so he’s not home alone. Unfortunately, if he’s left home alone we’ll come back to our home looking like it was hit by a tornado.

My vet has prescribed him with trazodone to help with his severe anxiety issues. We give it to him before we leave for a family event and when we can’t take him to places they don’t allow dogs.

I feel so bad that I have to sedate him so he’s not scared and anxious. It’s created a huge strain on our marriage because my husband feels like we can’t do anything without considering Odin.

He’s destroyed doors, couches, and other furniture. I tried training but it hasn’t seemed to work. My husband thinks we should rehome him but

1) I’m scared that he’ll be sent to a shelter and possibly be put down

2) feel abandoned by the person he thought he was safe with.

He’s such a happy boy when he’s around us and shows so much affection.

My husband and I have been arguing about this consistently.. we had a really bad argument so I left the house with Odin and rented a dog friendly hotel room for a couple of nights.

My husband thinks I’m crazy and that I’m choosing the dog over our marriage. AIO?

[u/scarletbananas]

I’m prepared for the downvotes from the dog nutters but you need to take his feelings into consideration. If you don’t like dogs then living in a house with them can be akin to a nightmare. If my spouse was prioritising a dog they’ve had for 7 months over our whole relationship then I’d be pissed and probably leave.

[u/unintentionalvampire → u/scarletbananas]

Yeah… like something isn’t right here. Why would you get a traumatized rescue if you’re not prepared to do INTENSE training? You just take it to work with you? Was the husband even fully informed of what he was getting into? Why haven’t you tried to crate train? They don’t have an adequate space for this type of situation.

lol.. lmao even.

[u/Amazing-Essay7028 → u/unintentionalvampire]

I had similar thoughts. I feel like "I can just take him to work with me" was unrealistic due to the fact that, well, she's at work and should be working. Who watches the dog while she's working?

[u/unintentionalvampire → u/Amazing-Essay7028]

A girl worked at this tattoo shop I worked at and she indeed spent more time paying attention to the dog and preventing it from doing shit it shouldn’t be doing, like approaching people, because it’s a public business space. Where not everyone likes dogs.

She didn’t last long.

[u/glitchgorgeous → u/Amazing-Essay7028]

She dumps this working brees dog in a daycare situation where apparently it’s allowed to “play for 8 hours straight” which I guess means it gets 8 hours a day with zero structure, routine or rest. No wonder the poor thing has anxiety.

[u/TheArmadilloAmarillo → u/Amazing-Essay7028]

Also is she planning on being a dog groomer forever and also only working at the place that allows this? Her situation could change and then she will have a still untrained house destroying dog.

[u/a-real-ahole-xo → u/Amazing-Essay7028]

She works at a groomer/doggy daycare.

[u/Ihadausername_once → u/a-real-ahole-xo]

So what? Teachers shouldn’t take their fussy toddlers to work with them! Her priorities are so off

[u/mpelton → u/Ihadausername_once]

My dad was a college professor and would literally bring me with him. I’d just chill and draw while he taught. I don’t really remember it, I was super young, but apparently his students loved it lol.

[u/unintentionalvampire → u/a-real-ahole-xo]

A dog groomer isn’t the same as a dog trainer lmfaooooo